This is more to get opinions as I think possibly both were BU.
Person 1 decides to clear some stuff into the loft while Person 2 is busy fixing stuff in the loft. Usually stuff gets dumped in a bundle to go into loft at later time but seemed easier since loft was open.
Person 1 starts putting stuff up beside loft opening, person 2 says can you do that later.
1: I'm putting it there so I can then come up and put it away.
2: I need that space there in a minute.
1: I'm just going to move it when I get up into the loft. (was in process of coming up into loft)
2: Do you even know where it goes?!
1: points in vague direction
2: No! Can you take it back down cos I need the space!
1: then I'll put it over there (different bit of loft away from hatch and wrong place) and sort it later
2: shouting can you just put it back downstairs and deal with it later?!??
Person 1 moves stuff downstairs again and goes off to do the thing they were clearing space for.
Person 2 now downstairs and finished in loft restarts conversation saying sorry I shouted at you but I'd asked you 3 times to not put the stuff there and you weren't listening. Person 1 repeats assertion that stuff was going to be moved and there was no need to shout. Person 2 now says they are sick of not being listened to and Person 1 and DD need to actually listen (DD is 6 and tends to zone out of anything she deems boring as 6yos are prone to do) and do as they say. 1 pointed out that they could try the "what I say goes" route and see where that gets them. 2 slightly retracted and said how it's about respect. Then left for work.
Person 2 is prone to shouting when stressed, person 1 tends to ignore it to a point unless DD is around in which case challenges it as unacceptable.
dons all protective gear thoughts?