Unreasonable work commute

[restingbitchfarce]

Looking for a new job in quite a niche role and as current contract ends this month

A job has come up which would be a 90 minute commute each way

Would I unreasonable to my kids to even think about this? They're 13 & 18 and just us three at home. I feel it would be a long day out the house for me

And I meant to add what is everyone's commute?

This would be London area to not many miles but would take ages.

I did the same commute and left after a year and a half.the fuel was costly and the 3 hours out of my life that I could've spent at home was just too much. For me it just wasn't worth it

My old office my commute was 40-45 minutes on a good day, the library or ever took to get home was five hours but it was regularly around two. I left for a job with national travel, but at least the time was recognised and accounted for

What times would you need to leave and get home?

*longest

I commute from Wigan to London ... only twice a week though, I WFH the other 3 days.
It doesn’t bother me, I think you just get used to it.. the commute becomes part of the day

I live in a commuter town a lot of people commute 60-90 minutes into Central London each day. I think it's more manageable by train as at least you can read, relax, work if you want, driving was not fun.

I did this for about 2 years - 1 train and 2 tubes. It was so stressful. If my first train got fucked up I’d know I was going to be late for the entire journey - it was horrid.

I didn’t realise how much I hated it until I got a job with a 15 min commute and my husband said I was a changed person overnight.

I wouldn't be prepared to do that commute with 2 teens at home alone, not unless it was very short term

I travel on average 3 hours a day, some days more some less but usually 3 hours, I work in different places within 100 mile radius of home. I find the drive helps me prepare better on the way and unwind on the way home. I like driving though so I appreciate it would nt suit everyone.

I do a 90 min commute atm. I'm not finding it too bad. We have see age 8 and 6. We make it work by me leaving very early for work at 06.45 and dp getting the kids on the school bus. I then leave at 4 and am back to get the kids from the childminder at 5.30 3 days a week (dp works from home one day and my dm has them one day). I still feel like I get time with them.

I do that commute 3 days a week ( and work from home the other 2 days). It's shattering to be honest. Would you have to do it 5 days a week or could you do some work from home too? This commute5 days a week would be tough, especially as it's just you and your kids (I'm also a single mum and it's tough).

What’s the alternative?

Mine is 90mins on the way there, and 50mins on the way back. Definitely look into how traffic affects your route.

It's fine. I'm a single mum with young kids.

I think some people are more affected by commuting than others. My DH and I both used to do 1.5 hours each way. He still does it and claims he actually enjoys it as he gets to read a book, reflect on the day etc. Personally I found it draining and exhausting and was glad to give it up a few years ago.

Just changed job to a 20 min commute from a 90 min each way and my health is so much better ... did 3 years of the long drives and would say it was draining .
I would avoid doing that again unless I had absolutely no choice ...
life is too short to waste 3 hours a day in the road and it’s very expensive 😬

I’ve been doing a commute 90mins each way, and yes have planned childcare etc around it. That is actually a usual SE to London commute.

I commute 1 hour into outer London area and I hate it. I was given some relocation expenses and I get taxed on it and it they way they worked it out was less than my actual journey in practical terms. Either I can use the M25 and risk getting stuck on it or a maze of back roads and get stuck on one of those as they are very congested. I try to listen to podcasts to pass the time. I did the food shop this evening so didn’t get in till 7 and then have spent most of the night cleaning and doing emails.
My DC are 14 and 16 and their bus didn’t turn up after school and were stuck and I am miles away and can’t help them. I also can never make it to the dentist with them on time so end up having to use my annual Leave, and I just went a week without my asthma prescription as I can never get to the chemist before that closes either! These things are so frustrating
I’ve just taken a new job closer to home

But if it’s a great job you will enjoy (I don’t like mine) it might not be so bad!

I wouldn’t do it and would actually resent those 3 hours a day out of my life just to get to work when I could use them in other enjoyable or productive ways. But I know for some people it’s not a problem.

I have done that sort of commute and would never do it again. Life is too short!

I do 1hr and 10 on the way in and anything from 1hr 15 to 1hr 30 on the way back.

It was fine before I had a child but i has to go part time just because I would only see her for 30mins in the morning and evening otherwise. I've found it really tough and resent that time away for her so I've been looking for work closer to home. It's a necessary evil unfortunately though as we need the salary.

2 hour drive each way. So 4 hours a day. My kids a bit younger than yours. I always saw the hours I drive as a bit dead anyway so might as well use them to get us all a better life.

I did a 90min each way commute for 20 years, including up to my children being 4 and 1 year.

I wouldn’t like to commute 3h a day but plenty do manage that

Depends on the quality of the commute - will you get a seat/can you do other things et