He cancelled and know I feel like an idiot

[Milliemoohead]

I was speaking to someone OLD for a while, and arranged to meet up a distance from my house. He was travelling over and so we where going to an Airbnb

I kinda fussed around and kept saying I would book it on the day etc.

He went distance last night and has just text me saying he's "not really feeling it anymore" and "maybe another time"

I honestly feel like such an idiot. I got my hair done today and was really excited. I just replied "ah okay"

I don't have a aibu just feel like an idiot

Honestly until you have met someone in person you really don't know what you're dealing with!

He did you a favour by ducking out. Nobody meets at an airbnb for first date. What on earth were thinking? Also you faffing about and not booking until the day probably made him think you wouldn't go through with it.

All for the best and don't be so hasty in future. You didn't even know him!

Your original post said you feel like an idiot, well maybe you should. What a stupid and irresponsible plan. Meeting someone just for sex, totally if it's your thing but meeting at an air b n b where there's no one else around, even a hotel would be slightly saver. First meet, he could be married, older than he said, completely different person from who he said. You have no idea what his sexual boundaries are or how far he will push you. No one knows who you are meeting because you don't so there's no safety at all. Not even a first meet in a pubic place where people know you are going and a safety call from someone to find out what the person is like. He's got explicit text from you, these are out there now, he could post them on social media, anything. You've literally not considered your personal safety at all. So let be honest the way he told you he wasn't nice but thank goodness as it gave you a bit of time to think. Block and move on.
In future, nothing on text that you wouldn't want your mum/boss reading, once it's out there it's out, full name and check this against social media/linkin/job website. First meeting in a pubic place, where you can leave or ask for help if necessary, tell someone where you are going and who you are meeting, are they who they said they were. Then if you are still happy, talk about sexual limitations, what aren't you happy with. Then and only if you both still want to. Your safety isn't something to play with.

Obviously I'm not going now! He always texts in the evening too which confirms to me more that he's married or has a girlfriend at least.

I have met people off OLD before for sex and I probably would again.

Not even a first meet in a pubic place where people know you are going and a safety call from someone to find out what the person is like

Slightly amusing typo there....
but the rest of the post talks a lot of sense.

This thread has got me thinking. I can understand you wanting to meet someone for sex although I never did it myself when dating but you haven't even seen this bloke and have no info about him at all. Don't you even need to fancy him a little bit before having sex, whether because of looks or personality? Or is he literally just a body to you? Am I the odd one out here? Do most women these days have sex with anyone, regardless of attraction? If so I think it's a bit sad to be honest.

Anyway I see you've decided to not meet. If you do this again, for your safety please go to a hotel where at least someone knows you are there.

I couldn't have sex with someone without meeting them. You can like someone's photo and then in real life they're not attractive to you or their mannerisms etc or it can also go the opposite way.

It’s fine to have casual sex as long as you’re safe.

But booking an AirB&B and him giving you the cash when you meet for a shag is just a bit seedier than I’d like, tbh!

Please please tell him you aren't "feeling it" before you block him.