Children Fucked It Up We're Each Others Babysitter

[ChildrenFuckedItUp]

Ten years we had together then we had kids. Ten years later and we've hardly had any time alone together. No nights away, or in, without kids (nobody we'd trust or the kids would be comfortable with overnight yet). DP has formed friendships with a number of people and sees them often. I find socialising difficult so haven't done the same. I feel so lonely and miserable sometimes. Like I've lost my best friend (DP).

AIBU? I know I am, but FFS! And then they're little shits sometimes like today. Drives me up the wall.

Mine are nearly 19 and 18 and I've just realised that we haven't spent a night away without them. They've been away without us to camps etc sometimes one at a time and sometimes together, but similarly to OP we've never had anyone to leave them with or come and stay overnight.

We have friends but don't stay that close or they have their own issues. having two a year apart generally discourages anyone from volunteering too and it's too much for an elderly relative so I really get the OPs point.

I don't know what the answer is OP but you have my sympathy. You are not rubbish, you maybe just need to make more connections and speak to your DP about how you are feeling.

I should add that I'm well aware we can leave them now! :o

They generally still want to come with us if we go away though...

Tough 😂😂 get that hot for two booked

They are 'little shits' because that is the sort of behaviour you have allowed to happen and everyone can arrange some sort of babysitting even if only occasionally.

With a DD with. (finally) diagnosed stuff, I can completely relate to what you're saying
. We've never been away overnight, and are hoping to go away one night in the aurumn. DD is early 20s. Ignore the nay sayers. If they don't understand, they will never ever understand how hard it is with a child who is AT