Dh and I don't drive. We rely on public transport, taxis and our own power when we need to get around, this has always been part of our budgeting. If we are offered lifts, my parents and my sister will if avaliable, we give petrol money or thank you presents if not accepted. We know local taxi numbers and the price of a taxi to our gp surgery and the hospital and back should we need to get there. Our local bus service is usually very good but you have to accept being early to appointments sometimes. We live in an area close to a supermarket and our local high street, 20 minutes level walk.
Inlaws don't drive, but refuse to use other forms of transport to get around. Fil will. catch the bus to work, with a family bus pass that is a perk of his job. Anywhere else he or mil need to get they expect lifts to be provided. Mil's sister used to cater to this but works full time now her children have left home. Gfil also used to be avaliable but is currently in poor health and not up driving them around, it is unlikely that he will be again. They have started to have their shopping delivered without problem. We visit them when Dh wants to appart from every 6 weeks when mil is driven by her sister to the hair dresser down the road from us and comes to us to wait to be picked up.
But now expect my parents to be avaliable to give them lifts to doctors and hospital appointments. Fortunately they are in fairly good health but fil has recently needed to have a few appointments for a problem with his leg. I have been phoned the day of each appointment and asked to organise dm or df picking them up and driving them home despite the appointments being booked well in advance. Dh can't deal with it at the time as he is at work but has repeatedly told them it's not on and to stop asking. Dm works 90 minutes away most of the week often using their car. Df can work flexibly but needs notice to have the car. Fil has missed appointments because of this and has caught taxis a couple of times because mils' sister has called a taxi for him. But they won't organise their own transport. Not eleable for hospital transport as the bus service is basically door to door from their house to the hospital main entrance. It would be the same to the doctors if they would change to one of the three surgeries (currently very unhappy with the out of the way one they are registered at) in sight of the bus station with buses that run ever 20 minutes from 7.30 to 6.
Usually let it wash over me but df is currently in hospital and have had another call this morning tell me fil needs a lift to see the gp and been told they arranged it for dm's day off.
AIBU to think they need to use other forms of transport to get themselves about?