I understand I am obviously not the Mumsnet demographic, but hopefully some of you wiser types can help with something that's been a cause for anxiety for me lately; how to make a relationship last.
I know it depends on both parties, and I will get accused of letting youth cloud my judgement of a what a good boyfriend is, but I can say with absolute certainty that this boy is kind, mature, funny, sensible and supportive, liked by all adults, but without the smarmy I'm-so-charming-act that some have, just authentically good natured. I was in hospital for a few weeks, after we had just been going out a month, and he visited me 3 times, 40 minutes away from home, getting two buses and a train after school to bring me chocolates and watch a film with me, no social media post, no Good Samaritan airs, just genuine kindness and compassion.
Anyway, what has been concerning me is the liminality of such relationships- I feel like everything I read is about a couple cheating on each other, or falling out of love, or having secret addictions or debts- and I would like to ask what tips/advice people on here have for making a relationship last from such a long age (his parents met at 16, and his grandparents at 15 and 16- still together, so I know it is possible). I struggle a little bit with my mental health, and he has been greatly supportive, but I think it would ease my mind to be able to make a conscious effort towards longevity, that way if it is not right, it will not be from a failing on my part, rather that it is just not right.
Sorry for ramble, just anxieties about A-levels, Uni etc. approaching and I want to prevent this relationship from being another thing I discard from recklessness and carelessness!
Many thanks! :)