*maybe tmi* massive anxiety before giving oral for the first time!

[username8190]

I'm getting so worked up and panicked about this, posting for traffic really!
I'm completely inexperienced with it (and don't want him to know that). It's been a few months as well so has been quite built up to.
I'm really worried about seeming really inexperienced and just generally being crap (and mainly scraping teeth!!!?)

Will this come naturally? I can't stop the panic of this!

(Name changed of course but regular user!!)

Just suck it up

@NeatFreakMama

Will this come naturally?

Probably- are you a spit or a swallow kind of gal???

Seriously though- imagine it is a nice ice lolly on a really hot day. Lick and don’t actually suck hard like you’re being having a milkshake... and don’t- no matter what it’s called- blow!!!
Ask him to tell you what he’d like you to do. Make sure he is clean first too - maybe shower together. And decide if you are happy for him to come in your mouth or not.

I want to say the joke comments weren't helpful but they did make me smile in my panicked state!!!!

How about you don’t do it if you don’t want to, and it’s causing you such anxiety?

Watch some videos

You do know that you don't have to do it don't you?

Try this.

It will come naturally - just put it in your mouth! Ask him how he likes it for help with pacing, rubbing etc

Does a shit BJ exist? I mean you’re putting a dick into your mouth surely they’ll love it?

That said I’ve never continued until climax. Nope, not for me! Using it as foreplay is my thing

there’s a sex board yno

It's fine. He'll just he ecstatic he's being sucked off. Swallow. It's good manners.

Don't do it if it's causing you so much anxiety.

Do you even want to do it? I mean..you've lasted this long without ever giving one.

It's not compulsory, op. Honestly you can get through life
quite comfortably not giving blow jobs. Let him experiment with the hoover nozzle if he's desperate.

Well...depends on how big the item in question is 🙈 my Dh (not a brag) is quite well endowed and in the early days I just said wow you're so big, how is that going to fit in...blah blah blah or words to that effect! If you don't want to keep him in your mouth then compliment the size of him and he won't have any reason to complain  good luck and have FUN! X

@pastyballbag

Says the person with ballbag in their user name

Just to clarify, it's not that I don't want to, it's just I never have and now I'm so conscious about doing it wrong or being clearly terrible at it!!!

There’s a famous ‘how to’ vid on you tube. She uses some type of fruit to demo - I want to say grapefruit but surely that can’t be right? Look it up!

@pastyballbag just scroll on through then love!

This website needs a downvote function.

@AsleepAllDay that's a hand job though  bj doesn't need those instructions for hands 🙈

@colditz scroll on

I don't think its possible to be terrible at giving BJs. Unless you bite, I guess. Don't do that.

@Silvercatowner I'm not worried about biting but I am worried about scraping teeth or them just getting in the way!!!

Why can't you tell him you haven't done it before? Everyone is inexperienced until they aren't. You'll relax and enjoy yourself much more if you aren't panicking about 'performing'.
If you want tips I got some from a cosmo article when I was about 18. Very useful! Don't try watching porn though - that's vile and definitely not what you want to be doing.

If youve never done it (oral) before. Can assume its because you don't like the idea of it. Its not for everyone.
If so you don't have to do something you're not comfortable with