*maybe tmi* massive anxiety before giving oral for the first time!

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I'm getting so worked up and panicked about this, posting for traffic really!
I'm completely inexperienced with it (and don't want him to know that). It's been a few months as well so has been quite built up to.
I'm really worried about seeming really inexperienced and just generally being crap (and mainly scraping teeth!!!?)

Will this come naturally? I can't stop the panic of this!

(Name changed of course but regular user!!)

I think they'll be renamed Bjork jobs in this house!

@Snowflakes1122 definitely not, I promise!! My first worry that people would think that when I posted this though!!!

That seems quite likely to me, Snow.

Good luck!

@AnneTwackie I definitely don't look like that either, have completely normal teeth 😂 just not sure how they don't scrape or knock occasionally!!!

If you're really nervous about teeth.
Make sure the "thing" is super wet, loads of licking first then pop your lips over your teeth as if impersonating someone with no teeth (p.s don't like look at him or smile at this point) and start the BJ that way until you get more confident and idea of how it feels and fits in your mouth.
Makes like a tooth guard and creates a firm seal.

But honestly, it can be fun.
Keep it nice and wet use your hand/s to help.
Maybe watch some porn 🤷🏻‍♀️

Make it so dry for him

(and no, it's not porn)

Ok, I really wasn't going to comment on this but - his hands in your hair is one thing - he may want to push your hair back so he can see your face because they LOVE watching you do it.
But, I absolutely draw the line and a hand on my head pushing me down and dictating the pace. That's when it stops being fun and you're more likely to go far and gag. So if there is any downward pressure I stop and remove my mouth, do kisses and licks around the shaft, before trying again. If he tries to push my head down - again, stop, do something else instead.

Argh!
Draw the line at*
More likely to go too* far

Definitely don't try teabagging or snowballing

Speak for yourself. Gargling is also a turn on for DH before swallowing.

Good luck OP

Sorry if tmi but I take it you've given a hand job? Just put your hand in front of your mouth and follow it. (Size dependent). Maybe tickle his balls too they all love that 😂 Good luck! It'll come naturally. Please please report back

@namechangenugget
This woman has never given a blowjob before. Do you think advice about swapping cum between mouths is good advice for someone just wanting to feel confident about doing it the first time?

I am struggling to understand why you can't just tell this man?

You're putting his cock in your mouth and you're uncomfortable telling him the truth??

Just tell him you want to give it a go bit you're not experienced. Ask him what he likes. Do what YOU are comfortable with.

If he's a decent fella, he'll be 1) over the moon you're willing to even think about doing it and 2) happy to"help" you learn.

Just talk to him?

Snowballing? Bloody hell every day's a school day on here.
why do we not have a vom emoji

Okay, so I know this thread started last night, but I have to ask, because for some bizarre and inexplicable reason I really need to know...

How did you know you were about to give oral for the first time? Did you have an appointment specifically for it, or whilst you were posting this, was he upstairs, legs akimbo, waiting for you to reappear...? .

And of course, how did it go?

Let him experiment with the hoover nozzle if he's desperate.

ROFL, or a Fleshlight, although a hoover nozzle is far cheaper...

Yes, a man can have a bad BJ. However it's usually due to lack of communication from the man, and/or porn fixation. Nothing to do with technique so to speak.

How old are you just out of interest OP? Nothing wrong with any kind of inexperience but this thread is a bit weird. Having someone's knob in your mouth is hardly a day out at the fair- yes sex can be intimate and fun of course but it's also fairly hard graft physically, isn't always clean, semen and what comes before it are a very acquired taste and frankly real sex is not a porn film- he may not like what you do regardless of what it is, lots of men struggle to come from oral sex and so on. I assume you are also aware of the many STI risks of oral sex, if this is a new partner especially.

I would just discuss it with him, it's not like he won't be able to tell no matter what (hilarious) techniques you're being advised to try and 'impress' him with. Surely it's about having a mutually balanced pleasant time together and being intimate and enjoying yourselves and each others bodies. You'll learn what he likes as time goes on. Ask him how he likes it if you really want to know, but I just think the dynamic of needing to impress men in bed is a bit much. I hope he cares as much about doing exactly what you like in bed to make you feel good (rather than doing what he finds attractive) as much as you do him!