To actually consider I could be pregnant 8 weeks after having baby?

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Baby born April 2nd. 22nd May got what seemed to be first period, but it didn't last as long as normal (I read it's normal for them to change pp though).

About a week (give or take) beforehand, dtd twice and he pulled out, and once dtd no pulling out. The day after the suspected period had finished (26th May) also dtd no pulling out (sorry for details).

Tuesday night I felt sick when I woke up, like I was going to be sick (I sleep evenings so night is my morning). This morning (now) I feel nausea again.

I am probably just overly paranoid because with my first pregnancy nausea was the first symptom and it started pretty much immediately after conception. Also I noticed a 'difference' in the smell of dh's tobacco (which was just increased sense of smell) and lately I can smell his tobacco when it's in the pouch a couple of feet away.

If it wasn't for the suspected period I would feel a lot more sure I was pregnant. I feel too sick to proof read this I hope it makes sense!

Why didn't he pull out that second time?

I was going to start an advice line for these exact scenarios too. I had unprotected sex, could I pregnant? My advice would be nahhhhh of course not, babies aren't made that way. I'd have quite a client base on mumsnet

I had a baby 12 weeks ago. It's drummed into you by every midwife and health visitor that you're super fertile, they ask what you're doing about contraception and tell you off when you laugh at them. I call bullshit, quite frankly.

Even when breast feeding you can be fertile so yes, you could well be pregnant.

1988 - have sex once using the pill and a condom, period a day late, call best friend to discuss

2019 - have sex several times without any contraception immediately after giving birth, feel nauseous, ask forum of strangers if could be pregnant

Despite more information and better access to contraceptives there is a huge difference in the generations taking responsibility about educating themselves. It’s disheartening.

that was a thoroughly interesting read, especially the part about your body believing formula feeding = baby hasn’t survived.

it's a massive oversimplification really but in very crude terms, that's the gist of it. It's also why giving formula can result in milk supply failing for some women in the critical first six weeks - the baby ends up not feeding from the breast enough (and the threshold for "enough" can vary a lot from woman to woman), your body "gets the message" that not enough milk is being extracted to sustain a baby's life, and goes "well, I guess this one isn't gonna make it, better shut the milk machine down and get the babymaking one fired up again".

It's also why, if you actively want to conceive while BF, one piece of advice is to eat a lot, to try and give your body the "message" that there are enough calories available to do both milk production and pregnancy without starving either the foetus or the existing baby.

I think people forget sometimes that their bodies are actively conspiring to get them pregnant, and they are most likely to want sex when they are most fertile. Those selfish genes want to replicate themselves, a lot!

Also shamelessly following to see if there is an Irish twin on the way

I thought we'd agreed that the term "Irish twins" is offensive?

irish twin

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I had a baby 10 weeks and have received zero advice on contraception from any medical professional and my "8 week" check up isn't for another 3 weeks! Thankfully the last thing on my mind is 🍆!

Oh ffs Chloemoll

Shamelessly placemarking!

Two under 1 isn't hell, and can actually be lovely. My oldest two have 11 months between them and it was honestly far easier than I thought it would be. They were in the same routine by 6mths and 17 mths.

You DH couldn’t pull out of a driveway!

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Errrrrr you had unprotected sex. Apparently this is the way you get pregnant. So yes - you could be pregnant.

What you thought was a period could have been the last of your lochia.

You really need to educate yourself on how ovulation and conception works.

You say two under one isn’t hell, but surely the effect on your body is very extreme? Isn’t it supposed to be that you recover properly over a year after childbirth? I just can’t imagine risking my health voluntarily like that.

placemarking to see the result

Hope you get the result you want OP

I don't know anything about how the first ovulation / periods etc work after a baby.

Clearly

Hello are you pregnant?????!!

I just want to know!!!.....................

I remember being lectured on contraception while in labour - because so many women think there’s natural protection etc and get caught out pp

I do worry about what sex-Ed people receive these days...

Anyway, whatever happens it will be fine. If you are pg it will be hard for the first 12 months but it gets so much easier with 2 children very close in age who play together (nicely most of the time!)

Hope you get the outcome you want :)

surely the effect on your body is very extreme? Isn’t it supposed to be that you recover properly over a year after childbirth?

There are risks of very closely spaced pregnancies, yes. Becoming pregnant again within 6 months of a live birth carries increased risk of prematurity, low birth weight, placental abruption, congenital disorders, and potentially autism.

For the mother it also carries a risk of nutrient deficiencies that affect health and of uterine rupture and other problems.
www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/getting-pregnant/in-depth/family-planning/art-20044072