To actually consider I could be pregnant 8 weeks after having baby?

[b0bb1n]

Baby born April 2nd. 22nd May got what seemed to be first period, but it didn't last as long as normal (I read it's normal for them to change pp though).

About a week (give or take) beforehand, dtd twice and he pulled out, and once dtd no pulling out. The day after the suspected period had finished (26th May) also dtd no pulling out (sorry for details).

Tuesday night I felt sick when I woke up, like I was going to be sick (I sleep evenings so night is my morning). This morning (now) I feel nausea again.

I am probably just overly paranoid because with my first pregnancy nausea was the first symptom and it started pretty much immediately after conception. Also I noticed a 'difference' in the smell of dh's tobacco (which was just increased sense of smell) and lately I can smell his tobacco when it's in the pouch a couple of feet away.

If it wasn't for the suspected period I would feel a lot more sure I was pregnant. I feel too sick to proof read this I hope it makes sense!

I had faint line that disappeared after a couple hours. I got digital test as I was unsure. I was indeed 3 weeks pregnant. Amazon next day delivery helped a lot of the anxiety of not knowing.

Hope you get your answer soon and can plan either for another baby or to try.

It baffles me that there’s no guidelines for how long to wait to have sex after giving birth. You have a dinner plate sized hole inside of you.

I hope you get the result you want though OP, babies are a blessing and if you and your husband are happy to have them close in age that’s all that really matters.

You have a dinner plate sized hole inside of you.
I mean, not for very long!

I guess it wouldn't be totally advisable to shag an hour after giving birth.

How long does this dinner plate size hole remain? My understanding was that all those internal muscles snap back again pretty quickly. Guidance back in the dark ages used to be to wait until after the six week check.

The enlarged uterus, having just sloughed off the placenta, leaves an area about the size of a dinner plate “raw”.
It slowly contracts down (generally 6 weeks) and heals (no further bleeding/lochia).

I don’t want to piss on anyone’s chips, but there is a risk of an air embolism having sex soon after childbirth.

Take it you're not breast feeding? Fully breast feeding would suppress ovulation.
@Liketoshop, I am living proof that is not a reliable form of contraception. Only 13 months between me and my sister, who was being fully breastfed around the time I was conceived.

@YouWhoNeverArrived That's ridiculous.
Were you not bleeding?

@patricksrum Not sure what qualifies you to describe another woman's consensual and very happy sex life as "ridiculous". I did have light bleeding. I have sex while I'm on my period as well. Not an issue for me or DH, and there's no medical reason not to have sex while bleeding.

@YouWhoNeverArrived It is unsafe and you have a new born baby to look after. Ridiculous at best. Selfish.

How is it "unsafe"?!

It's unsafe to have sex?
Wtf?

You're scar is two days old. Were your stitches even removed?
You could easily tear it!

@PatricksRum are you actually serious? You must be the most unenlightened woman of 2019.

You have a new born baby to look after, they sleep for a long time you know. How is a mother having sex got anything to do with her ability to look after her baby. What a truly bizarre and weird comment.

What's selfish about having sex? I thought it was a normal part of a loving and healthy relationship.

@b0bb1n OP the pregnancy hormones double roughly every 48 hours, so if you text 12 hours later may not see any difference. Test again tomorrow, then Tuesday. Good Luck.

@PatricksRum so 100% of women have stitches do they? You're seriously ill educated in child birth.

@boobirdblue She had a c section so do they leave the wound open?

@boobirdblue Having sex 48 hours after an emergency section is unsafe and if complications were to arise it would affect her ability. Why don't you rtt

Hadn't picked up,on that, @PatricksRum but you can have sex in different positions, I would assume from behind would be preferred or spooning. Then no pressure on the scar?

Why do you call it selfish to have sex? Who is it selfish too?

Yep, unprotected sex, you need to take a test.

I personally wouldn't think it would be advised to have sex after major abdominal surgery.

@PatricksRum you're not medically trained are you?

@boobirdblue she has a vulnerable baby to look after. The stitches wouldn't even be out, that's how fresh the wound is. It is selfish, if she experiences complications it would impact her ability to care for a 2 day old baby.

@boobirdblue I wasn't aware you needed a medical qualification to understand that having sex 48 hours after undergoing an emergency c section is unsafe.

I do have a medical qualification (happy to provide my GMC number by PM to MNHQ) and I can happily attest that you can have sex as soon as you feel ready after birth. We used the spoons position, and didn't use missionary for a couple of weeks. Official NHS advice is that you can have sex as soon after birth as you feel able. And my stitches were dissolvable, so no need to have them removed as a PP suggested. There was an obstetrician earlier in this thread who said much the same thing.