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Toddlers can be horrific, can't they?

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MulesToJules · 27/05/2019 14:19

Argh! This is the worst possible stage.

Newborn was amazing. Small baby amazing. Sitting up and early Walker baby also amazing.

Now he's a toddler and good Christ, this is hard.

Biting. Scratching. Tantrums. Never ever happy.

He also seems behind to some toddlers, although he started walking at 8.5 months. He still very much looks like a baby, and doesn't really speak apart from Mummy and No.

"Mummy no" being the ultimate combo of choice.

And the escaping! He escapes all cots, so can't have a cot now. He escapes car seats, had to find one that he can't actually escape from. We have 3 kinds of pushchair and he can escape both.

Escapes high chair and seats. Can't turn my eyes for a single second or he will climb out and potentially kill himself.

It's so frustrating. So either let him on the floor to cause havoc 24/7 or keep telling him to stop and keep putting him back wherever he's strapped into.

Also refusing to sleep until a ridiculous time in the evening, meaning no time for me or DH. Just constant screaming if he isn't allowed up. I tried seeing how it played out, he kept on for 2 whole hours before.

Someone send help in the form of alcohol

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Crunchytowel · 27/05/2019 18:58

One of mine was particularly exhausting as a toddler. Not too bad to begin with - she was constantly active and that was very tiring, but I used to just point her at the garden and let her go, then haul her into the bath when she zonked. OK, I thought, I'm tired, we have the odd cry over a broken toy, but nothing I can't handle.

Then she hit three. Jesus fucking christ. All she did, all day, was scream, and stamp, and hit, and wail, and throw herself around in a pure fury.

Delightful child now. The odd bit of stroppy eye rolling, and the occasional moan about friend issues, but that's it.

Three nearly broke me

sittingonacornflake · 27/05/2019 19:01

I have a 15 month old.

I should not have clicked on this thread.

Terrified.

MotherOfTheNoise · 27/05/2019 19:04

We tried to teach our toddlers makaton...the only word they learnt to sign was 'cake'. Tiny sociopaths. God love 'em!

MabelMoo23 · 27/05/2019 19:06

Crunchy.

I hear you. My 3 year old screams like a fucking banshee possessed all day, every day. Throws things in a fury.

Honestly how I'm not broken I don't know

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MulesToJules · 27/05/2019 19:07

DD, around the age of 18m - 2 yrs ish, used to bite me. Only me. Never DH. Never anyone else. It fucking hurt! I forget how we sorted it, but I didn't like it!!

Yep. He has only ever bitten me. Not sure why as I'm the least likely to stand for it.

He did bite his cousin once and I lost contacted with DSIL over it, but that's a story for another thread Grin

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mamaofboyzz · 27/05/2019 19:09

I hear you! Mines exactly the same

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MulesToJules · 27/05/2019 19:17

We do have a local(ish) park and I've tried my best, I really have, but the little sod won't entertain the idea.

He just screams and moans at everything there.

He will tolerate the roundabout, albeit with a face like a flapped arse going around and around.

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MulesToJules · 27/05/2019 19:18

*slapped

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Kittykat93 · 27/05/2019 19:18

Oh god. Mine is 19 months and I was hoping it would start to get better soon. Not liking the posters saying it's hell at age three! Fuck!!!!

Clockworkprincess · 27/05/2019 19:25

Currently cuddled with ds 3 watching monsters inc and pretending to be a cat. He's hard work! Throws himself onto the floor when he doesn't get his own way, full of endless energy and bedtime is a laugh. Up until recently he stayed in bed but suddenly he's started creeping down to see what we are doing. Little guy entettains himself while trashing everything in sight 😭😭 and is forever asking for food. He's beautiful for everyone else but for me..

pandarific · 27/05/2019 19:34

Would baby sign help at all? There are classes down my way and they're good.

Watchingthetelly · 27/05/2019 19:43

There's another post ongoing about nightmare toddlers at the moment. Some awful but hilarious tales over there too: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/3592595-the-toddler-life-potty-training-not-sleeping-tantrums-come-join-this-crap-with-me

likeafishneedsabike · 27/05/2019 19:43

They are savages. Like PP I found physically worn out toddlers better than non-exercised tots. Cast iron routine helped.

Watchingthetelly · 27/05/2019 19:44

Reading both threads in fear of what's ahead of me Shock

December2019 · 27/05/2019 19:44

Ohh god I have a 5 month old and I'm expecting no2 in December they will be 12 months apart... is this what my life is going to become 😂😂

VeniVidiViciTwice · 27/05/2019 19:44

@ProcessedPea, no they don't! 🤣😂

Cornettoninja · 27/05/2019 19:49

I heard the other day that every child under 5 is a diagnosable psychopath (underdeveloped emotions/empathy obviously).

I’m happy to believe that with no legitimate source .

10storeylovesong · 27/05/2019 20:00

My 19 month old is awesome. He's funny, caring, just generally pleasant. He honestly makes every day incredible. He eats any thing I put in front of him, and sleeps 7-7. He is feral though. I genuinely treat him like I do my dog. He gets let into the garden first thing in the morning, walked twice a day, does loads of outdoor playgroups and plays football on the back field for hours a day (been kicking a ball since he was 11 months and is OBSESSED with football!).

My 6 year old on the other hand, has been a no sleeping, no eating, highly sensitive, tantrumning child since day 1 and shows no sign of improving....

SeaToSki · 27/05/2019 20:06

I read this bit

He will tolerate the roundabout, albeit with a face like a flapped arse

And thought you were spinning the roundabout so fast his face was doing that flapping thing that sprinters do 😁

Reminded me of when I put my toddlers on the roundabout and span it just fast enough that they didnt dare stand up to get off. Kept the little terrors in one place for a blissful extra 90 seconds

Ilikeviognier · 27/05/2019 20:13

@december 2019- buckle up. You’re in for fun. Grin

Mine are 16 months apart and the first year with both was very tough. Saying that, the bright side now is that there are glimpses - however small- that they will play together and entertain each other while I sort out the washing 😁

In the meantime there’s WineBrewCake

NannyRed · 27/05/2019 20:16

Wait until you have a teen.

You will be be desperate to have your toddler back, at least toddlers are animated, happy (mostly) inquisitive, vocal and affectionate.

dreamyflower · 27/05/2019 20:21

Yup. My 2 yr old has started screaming and throwing himself to the floor. I take him out for a walk and park twice a day as well as toddler groups. He has a toddler table and chair for dinner which he loves so sits in it because he is a 'big boy' and a toddler bed. I find time out works with my boy. 2 mins behind stair gate.

Freyasmum1 · 27/05/2019 20:31

Everyone who told me my easy baby would be a nightmare toddler? You were right, bastards.

December2019 · 27/05/2019 20:32

@Ilikeviognier haha I can't wait 😂😂

wildone81 · 27/05/2019 20:35

Socallmebaby, you want to go with Etsy...get more for stuff that's handmade!!

DD will be 2 at end of June, isn't saying much, but is clearly as p**sed of with me as I am with her of by time husband gets in from work!

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