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Baby name other ideas help.... what the husband wants....

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1Willow23 · 27/05/2019 09:28

Hi baby is due tomorrow and struggling with names terribly ...it is a girl....

I’ve posted a couple of times over the last couple of days, and suggestions have been helpful and lovely but husband is a firm no to all my names.....

We have it down to Ivy Florence, Esme-Eve Esme Florence, Evie-Florence.... I also love Amelie Eve (but he is firmly against this)

Any help on these... they seem quite popular names to me, I have an Isabel and Ruby already and when I named them didn’t know any and now they have common names.

Would prefer to have this one a little more individual, the name Rose, and Sophia are out of bounds as these are middle names for my girls.

Any help appreciated.

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BlueMerchant · 27/05/2019 10:04

I'd go plain and simple-Eve.
DH can call her Evie but I'd definitely prefer just Eve on birth certificate as her official name.
Eve Florence.

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1Willow23 · 27/05/2019 10:06

I was thinking both names together our DD2 is called Ruby Rose, this isn’t hyphenated but she wants it to be 🙄 as she likes to be called her full name hence why I was thinking of the hyphen it isn’t a must though, most people really don't seem like names with hyphens on here.

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Florencenotflo · 27/05/2019 10:07

I have an Evie Florence! First and middle name, not a hyphenated first name. So I love that!

Pregnant with dd 2 and our main name is Lily. Maybe wait until you've seen her, sometimes names just fit once you've seen them! Dd was supposed to be an Amelia but she just didn't look like Amelia when she was born.

Houseonahill · 27/05/2019 10:08

I like esme the best and I like Isobel ruby and esme sound nice together. Florence is nice but Isobel ruby and Florence doesn't sound right to me

PeachPotato · 27/05/2019 10:10

Emmeline
Gwen / Gwendolyn
Or just pick your favourite and don’t worry about popularity!

LakieLady · 27/05/2019 10:11

I like Esme, but an awful lot of people don't know how to pronounce it!

boomboom1234 · 27/05/2019 10:12

Forget popularity and just go with what you and your husband like best. I would both write your top three in order of preference. Compare lists. Pick the name that best fits what you both love.

EnglishRose13 · 27/05/2019 10:12

Thank god you've seen sense and dropped Bluebell!

ShinyMe · 27/05/2019 10:14

How about Emily? It blends a bit of his Esme and your Amelie, and everyone can definitely pronounce it.

abigailsnan · 27/05/2019 10:18

I would wait until she is here and then decide as suggested.
My mum was called Gwendoline and known as Gwenny all her life such a pretty name.
My son and his wife have called their baby girl Willow a name I shired away from at first but she really suits the name so why not wait and see until she is here.

FizzyGreenWater · 27/05/2019 10:21

Hyphens just sound silly and twee.

All your names are really current and popular. Esme probably the least so, however you'll get people pronouncing it differently. I actually don't like it at all but that's beside the point.

Incidentally your H sounds quite bullish on this - he compromises - end of. You both do. If you can't, you simply say a no to Evie and Esme and also your choices and you start again! He does NOT get his own way just by digging his heels in.

How about Sylvie? Just suggested on another thread - really pretty, different initial to your others, familiar but not overused, has the ie ending your H likes?

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1Willow23 · 27/05/2019 10:21

I love Willow but DH is not keen. I love Willow Grace (I know Grace is common but I really don’t care, as I think it sounds lovely) but again he’s not keen 🙄, as you say I may have to wait I just feel very under prepared as I had both my other girls names decided and that was it before they were born.

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FizzyGreenWater · 27/05/2019 10:23

He really isn't keen on anything that isn't exactly what he wants, eh? Hmm

VampirateQueen · 27/05/2019 10:24

I love Willow Grace. Why doesn't he like it?

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1Willow23 · 27/05/2019 10:25

He can be quite stubborn 🙄 he hated Ruby as DD2 name but I just told the midwife when she was born and he agreed 😂.... I also like Dottie (family connection) but he doesn’t again 🙄

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1Willow23 · 27/05/2019 10:27

It’s a street name near to where we live and he thinks she might get the mick taken out of her, as you can tell from my user name I love Willow.... he is also concerned she will be called Will for short and he thinks she won’t like it as it’s a more masculine name....

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Cariadne · 27/05/2019 10:28

He really isn't keen on anything that isn't exactly what he wants, eh?

To be fair, most people would really object to calling their child a name they don’t like!

OP, I think the issue with hyphenated names is that they often sound very try-hard and are usually hard to say. I would go with a first name and a middle name and then if this child wants people to use both (like your Ruby Rose does) she can insist upon it. But it’s not saddling her with a mouthful of a name which sounds a bit whimsical and twee.

Jengnr · 27/05/2019 10:30

I don’t like Esme. All the others are nice.

Don’t hyphenate them. If she wants to use both she can.

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1Willow23 · 27/05/2019 10:32

Agree regarding the hyphen, valid point it can be her choice 👍🏼

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FizzyGreenWater · 27/05/2019 10:33

To be fair, most people would really object to calling their child a name they don’t like!

Fair comment! It was just that the tone of OP's posts suggested her stressing and him simply being unwilling to even discuss compromise... however if HE originally disliked the name that their DD2 now has then he can't be that implacable!

OP, make a new list. All the current choices are popular names that WILL date - not bad names, but today's Evies and Eves and Amelies and Amelias will absolutely be the Karens and Lisas and Michelles of their age.

FrogFairy · 27/05/2019 10:34

Dolores could be shortened to Dottie or Dolly and is unusual.

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1Willow23 · 27/05/2019 10:37

@FizzyGreenWater he is stubborn but he will compromise, I think I would just like this time to have a name be both love rather than a name growing on him if that makes sense, I’m stressing myself out far more than he is me he keeps saying let’s meet her and she will be who she is and what suits her.... which is what most people seem to be saying

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BumandChips · 27/05/2019 10:40

If you don’t want as common then drop Eve, Florence and Ivy. Eve/Evie is massively popular, I hear it all over the playground. As is Florence.

Not a fan of Florence or Ivy.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 27/05/2019 10:45

Hyphenated names just scream ‘trying too hard’. No one will ever use the second half of the name.

To be honest they all make me think of the kind of people who have ‘Anyone can own a house. It’s love that makes a home’ stencilled in italics on their living room wall.

sleepismysuperpower1 · 27/05/2019 10:46

Erin Abigail
Elena Kate
Amber Jess
Willa Eve
or go for something longer like Ivana, which can be shortened to Ivy

you could also go for a name such as Isobel Violet ,middle name beginning with Y , and then call her by her initials (IVY).

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