To ask what meal you would prefer at a wedding

[Eliza9919]

Choices are:

BBQ
Meats (not sausages & burgers), salads, bread etc

Small hog roast
Suckling pig (only 26 guests), salads, bread etc

Steak or fish & chips, wedding cake as dessert

3 course meal with chocolates & coffee etc

Free choice off the menu: starter/main/dessert

Other, please elaborate

What would you prefer and any particular reason why?

I’d be happy with any of those, but the last two bbq at summer weddings that I have attended were the coldest, rainiest days ever. On that basis only, I would discount the bbq.

At weddings, I do prefer a sit down meal to buffets as I hate queuing up for food like I’m in a canteen (but all drrsssd up).

Free choice off the menu would be the winner for me ... presumably with 28 guests they'd have to choose beforehand?

I love barbecues, but probably not if dressed in wedding guest finery; too much potential for mess unless it's very well served

Will the suckling pig look like a little pig ie:will it be a whole pig. Whether you're a meat eater or not the whole roasted pig thing can be difficult to look at.

Personally, a 3 course meal. A hog roast is tasty but I'd go for something a bit more special for my wedding.

All have very different vibes, just pick what style of wedding suits you best.

BBQ. Variety and tastiness, and it's nice and informal. You need really good non-meat things though, and interesting salads/sides.

Bbq but give veg and gluten free options

Hmmmm.
I's say BBQ only if it were done very nicely and with a range of salads plus with cutlery and somewhere to sit.
Not a fan of lining up for a meal though.

Assuming a summer wedding BBQ sounds good though with all you may need vegetarian options unless certain no one is. Also love a hog roast but BBQ would give people more choice, only thing I am wary of is chicken incase underdone.

BBQ

This is somewhat contradictory/hypocritical but I'd love the hot roast but would hate the suckling pig. It's so cruel.

Free choice from a menu, as it sounds as though I could sit down in comfort to eat it, second choice would be set three course meal, again the comfort factor.

I wouldn't choose the BBQ or hog roast or fish & chips, as the food wouldn't appeal to me, and what if the weather was wet, also seating might be unavailable/haphazard.

As long as there is enough food for everyone. I was so hungry at a wedding last year which was BBQ as the bride and groom didn't give enough numbers.

Yes do add veggie options and ensure there are meat alternatives to pork as so many meat-eaters don't seem to want to eat it now.

We had the BBQ served on platters and passed down long banquet style tables which already had salads/breads on. So a sit down meal but BBQ food. Would work even better with a small wedding I think.

And yes the delicious Halloumi and separate vegetable skewers were cooked on a different BBQ and served separately to the meat because despite being a meat eater I'm not an idiot and will cater to your lifestyle choices even though it cost more. That's to the indignant poster above.

Doesn't BBQ meat get cold very quickly as well?

BBQ sounds lovely, with lots of sidey bits.

Not a fan of lining up for a meal though.
What's so bad about it? I've been to a few BBQ weddings where guests queued up. Can't see the problem.

I’d choose bbq with lots of nice veggie options. I’m obviously not the target market but hog roasts really make me feel sick.

Free choice off the menu. Unless you’re going to over cater you risk running out of food or having the veggie / vegan dishes plundered. I have read some pretty awful threads on here about specific weddings and others such as “what was the worse wedding you attended?” With countless people saying lack of food. This is the no1 priority imo so good that you’re asking.

Small hog roast
Suckling pig (only 26 guests), salads, bread etc

delicious

BBQ definitely, but with fish, shellfish & veggie options as well as meat.

Are there any disabled people? I am and lining up would be an issue for me.

BBQ or hog roast as long as there is enough. I’ve been to 2 where the portions were tiny and it’d been a 5hr wait from ceremony to food. Awful.
But done right it is lovely

@darlingnikita there isn't anything wrong with it. I just don't like it. I think it brings out the worst in people and I just dislike the whole procedure. I think if there are any elderly relatives this is a factor as well.

Buffet or sit down meal.
Hog roast is gross, who wants to see a massive dead pig on a stick at a wedding.
Bbq sticky, dirty fingers, nightmare.
Fish & chips been done too much.

Sit down three course, though I like buffet for pudding people’s greed amuses me.

Weddings can be really tiring getting there, ceremony, photos....sit down is VERY welcome.