Exes new girlfriend stalking me

[Wotsitsareorange]

I'm not really sure if this is an aibu, but I just don't know what else to do.
I spilt from my ex, dcs dad 5 years ago and we've had a pretty amicable relationship with only the odd blow up of small things.

Last year he moved in with a woman 14 years younger than him and 12 years younger than me, since then there has been nothing but trouble. My DC have been to their house once although he has seen them at mine and taken them out, but no overnights, which was one of our main arguments.
Two months ago his girlfriend hacked into his phone and got personal information about one of our DC from a group chat created by the club that he goes to, which she denies doing. I let that slide as I didn't want to get into a fight with either of them over it.

Then last week I had someone request me on Facebook and Instagram, it turns out it was her and her friends trying to look at profile, its since transpired that she is extremely jealous of me and thinks that I'm sleeping with my ex, which I'm not.
I told him what had happened and again shes denying it, but dropping herself in it as she told him about old pictures that I have up of him and the dcs.

So shes kicked off again and locked him out of the house they live in, also not for the first time and he ended up sleeping on my sofa. Now I'm trying my best not to get involved but I really don't know what to do, as this woman also wants to spend time with my dcs and I'm struggling to trust her as she seems totally unhinged.

I also don't understand why on earth the OP is being accused of drip-feeding (she isn't) or criticized for letting her ex sleep on her sofa. A cordial relationship is surely in the best interests of all concerned given there are DC involved here.

As for the crazy GF, the only thing it's possible to do with people like this is cut them off at the knees. Lock down your social media profile. Ensure there is no way she can have access to you that way. And from now on, ensure there's strictly no contact between this unhinged woman and your children. This means no visits to ex's home while she's there. Unfortunately, it's going to necessitate a 'come to Jesus' talk with the ex, and an honest appraisal as to why you've come to this decision.

All the best.

If my XH just chose to ditch overnights with my children, no fucking way world he ever have sofa privileges.

I know you didn’t sleep with him.
I know it didn’t confuse your kids.

But I wouldn’t let him. He’s an arsehole for ditching his kids.

With regards to his girlfriend - change your passwords. Up your privacy settings. Keep a diary of everything she does. Get a solicitor to send her a letter warning her that if necessary you will apply for a

I have been through the exact same thing. I rose above. Blocked my social media, kept my cool and waited.

7 long years and one kid later they split. I have a great friendship with my ex. Our children are happy as we get on so well. He thanked me for being classy and told me he made a huge mistake losing me as he can see what a wonderful mother and human I am ‘his words’ while he battles and fights a nasty war with his ex.

Bide. Your. Time. Stay class. Rise above.

I mean she took his phone changed all the passwords to all his accounts, changed his number to hers on WhatsApp then messaged every female contact in his phone including me, sexual messages waiting for a response from someone

She’s nuts! You don’t need to do anything. People like this are their own downfall.

I can sympathise I lost a child with ex-p it was his anniversary last weekend (neonatal death) his current GF did a full on photoshoot at his graveyard gushing how much she loved my dead child she never fucking met and no it's not his fourth fucking Birthday as he is well dead.

Met with about 50 "sorry for your loss hun" responses none of which she corrected.

DH says not to hit her but that's only because I'll end up back on the local psych ward and he doesn't want sole charge of the DC for a week.

I don't think punching people is the MN way no matter how much they deserve it.

I can sympathise I lost a child with ex-p it was his anniversary last weekend (neonatal death) his current GF did a full on photoshoot at his graveyard gushing how much she loved my dead child she never fucking met

😡That is absolutely horrendous. How dare she. I also lost a child(anniversary just passed), if anyone done that I would be so upset. Sorry for your loss.

DH says not to hit her

But that^ did make me laugh.

God Pandamodium that's horrendous. What a grief vulture she must be.

@Pandamodium I'm so sorry for your loss. That absolute grief vulture (a much more polite thing than I just called her) should hang her head in shame. But she won't. I really hope he's not still with her. Just fucking awful.

I'm not usually one for violence but on this occasion; if you're not allowed to hit her I'd happily do it for you.

I bet he is loving it. He shouldn't be sleeping on your sofa and he knows it.

You need to set your profile so people who aren’t friends of friends can’t add you .
Problem solved in that respect .
What adult adds strangers to their Facebook ?

She sounds like my ex!

He needs to get rid, she won’t change, if anything she’ll get worse.

She sounds like she’s barking. Just ignore and block

She’ll soon be the bitter ex that some people deny existing on here for some reason

The lengths some posters will go in twisting the information given in order to be able to blame the OP is baffling. I suspect certain posters only find a thread enjoyable if they're getting to lay into someone. Finding ways to blame someone for everything that's happening to them is actually considered abusive in real life. I really do wonder how some of you are conducting yourselves in your real life interpersonal relationships.

I know my example is extreme but there is women out there who have serious trust/jealousy issues and stop at nothing. I always take the "crazy partner" with a pinch of salt and actually have a really good relationship with my eldest DD's stepmother.

Ex-p liked her post! I stay out of it all and have everything completely blocked I found out of my oldest DD.

I know I'm chiming in late but I think lots of people can't cope in a relationship with someone who has previously had a long term partner and children before meeting them.

That's not an excuse at all just a possible reason - her behaviour is disgusting but your ex needs to accept that his girlfriend cannot cope with your shared history and so she's not someone he can have a healthy relationship with.

Sorry OP it sounds like you've tried to manage the situation in a really grown up way that puts your kids first. He needs to wise up!