DP pissed off that I’m pissed off at him - toilet habits

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Just got out the shower & washing my face at the sink.
DP comes into the bathroom, sits on the loo & shits.
If he’d told me I’d left the room.
He’s now pissed off ‘how many nappies have you changed ‘ etc
I just find it disgusting

I think it's in the same category of deliberately eating with your mouth open not putting your hand over your mouth when you yawn picking your nose and public excetera
it's a deliberate lack of politeness and lack of consideration for the other person.

Obviously if you are people who have all agreed that you are all cool about this kind of thing then that's fine, but this isn't the case here is it.

omg! get that to f))K.i cant even wee if someones prowlin around outside door,my kids taught from offset toilet is private.id take as huge insult(and phone the polis)what a gummer

I would totally phone the police if he did that to me👮‍♂️👮‍♀️🚔
Maybe even call in the army or a SWAT team💂🚁

Grim.
Yes everyone poops blah blah. But there’s some things that should be kept private surely!!

Every country I've ever been to has had the toilet in the bathroom. I don't know why you think its just in the UK?

really?
I have never seen so many properties where the norm is the toilets in the bathroom than this country
Whilst the washing machine is relegated in the kitchen
But the weird thing is that people are happy about it.

I don't advocate putting the loos in the kitchen, but it doesn't strike anyone as weird to not have separate loos, and keep the laundry machines in the bathrooms?

I have separate bathrooms and toilets. The amount of people who felt sorry and suggested that we merge the 2 to make a bigger bathroom! It's not like my bathrooms are small either.

I think it's in the same category of deliberately eating with your mouth open not putting your hand over your mouth when you yawn picking your nose and public excetera
it's a deliberate lack of politeness and lack of consideration for the other person.

This. ^^

DHhasahobbyanditsnotcycling
Separate bathroom and toilet was once the norm here in the UK. Sometime in the seventies it became the fashion to knock them / build them into one.
I grew up in a house with separate loo and bathroom.

I have never lived anywhere with more than one toilet and they have always been in the bathroom yet I have never had this happen. OPs bloke is a revolting pig boy.

I had an ex who made the mistake of walking in on me when I was in the bathroom (I was only brushing my teeth, luckily for him). I freaked out at him.

Bathrooms are sacred places. Solitary places. Sanctuaries, if you will. Child-free, shitting partners-free places. What your (D?)P did was disgusting, made doubly worse by him knowing you don't like it. I'd shit on him next time he's in the bath. Job done (pun fully intended).

I wouldn't like it, a warning if they are desperate is nice. Slightly different situation, but my partner annoys me because nearly every sodding night, he decides to have a poo at bedtime before I do my teeth. So whilst I am not actually in said bathroom at the time, I have to go in there straight after.

Grim.

Bodily functions may be normal, but normal and private aren't mutually exclusive.

Why don't you lock the door then?

If you only have one toilet, it's usually in the bathroom, UK or otherwise.
I have known some UK houses with one toilet not in the bathroom, same for non-UK really, but then I have only lived in Canada and only travelled in most European countries, so it could be different elsewhere.

Ugh that is filthy and the UK having toilets in the place where you brush your teeth is filthy.

Is he into shit and sex? I just can't see why he would be adament about putting his big hairy arse on the toilet in front of you and then pooing! Is that meant to put you in the mood for a shag? I just couldn't

I'm still not understanding why you didn't leave when you saw him sit on the toilet? Yes, he could have asked you to go so that he could use the toilet but he didn't hold you prisoner did he?

But odd to stay in there when it upsets you so much.

My grandparents have toilet and bathroom separate and it really annoys me. Once I've been the loo, I want to get in and wash my hands, which I can't if someone's got in the shower while I was busy.

Also, there is no greater relief than the naked shit just before you jump in the shower.

But yes, bathroom time is sacred and should not be interrupted by someone barging in and shitting.

They have a toilet with no sink?!

I don't mind it as long as DH seals the pan with his arse cheeks then coughs loudly for the plop.

I don't give a fuck if it's a natural bodily function, barging in and taking a dump in front of your partner is disgusting and I would go nuts.

It takes seconds to ask someone to leave the room.

Makemeaname

My parents house is exactly the same - a toilet and next door is the bath and washbasin.

Makeme- true, also no greater annoyance than having said bath or shower then wanting a poo!

Revolting. Happy for DH to pee if I’m in the bathroom. Anything else he can wait or use the downstairs toilet.

"Its his birthday today" ....sorry op,just caught that bit. ..and lol'd. ....We just have cake. . I honestly would cancel the relationship...but.its not me,its you so i hope youve managed to sort out the boundary. and recieved apology.

Your partner is revolting.
He has no respect for you.
I couldn’t be with somebody like that.
How low you set your standards is up to you, but honestly, you’d struggle to find much worse than the pig you live with.