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To ask what to reply to this (naturist) painter

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doesthiseemright · 22/05/2019 16:26

So, I had a painter come around to give me a quote for a refresh of pretty much the whole inside of the house. He had been recommended to me by friends of my Husband and I had been warned that he likes to strip off a bit when it's hot. Little did I know.

We were going into each room and he was making small talk whilst I told him what we needed doing and he asked me if I had any hobbies. I thought this a bit odd but just mentioned a few of my mundane interests and politely asked him if he had any. Turns out yes, indeed, he certainly has a hobby - he is a naturist-- and by the way, he does all of his painting in the nude. Hmm, I thought about this and said "well each to his own" and asked how that works with safety, being in rooms with no curtains etc and was told that he does actually wear socks. He said he sometimes puts up drop cloths and his wife doesn't like him being a naturist so he does it at work.

He asked if it would be a problem and I was unsure of what to say so I said if he was upstairs painting away and I was downstairs out of his way or out for the day, if it made him comfortable and he did a good job then it wouldn't bother me. (apparently, he is very good). I then said I wasnt sure what my Husband would think - and he replied "well, you dont have to tell him. If you don't, I won't"

So I packed him off to write me a quote and let me know. I was thinking I'd just wait for the quote and decide what to do from there. And told my Husband, who laughed. A lot.

Then, an hour later I get a text saying "nice to meet you this morning and thanks for being so understanding about my naturism". I just replied "no worries".

Now, a few hours later I have a new text "would it be possible for me to call around and have a naturist tea break with you?"

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dottiedodah · 23/05/2019 08:18

Just tell him you found a new painter on Check A Trade .Just that no reason given .No self respecting painter would pull a stunt like this .(Another thought ,can you see if there are any lady decorators in your area at all?),

RedPink · 23/05/2019 08:20

You should Show The texts to your husband and to your husbands 'friends' so they know what he is like. What if they recommended him to someone who was vulnerable?

The texts would prove to your husbands friends that the guy is a genuine creepy perv rather than a 'naturist' (as you quaintly call him )

I get that you can react oddly when you are in an awkward situation and don't have time to think it through but not only did you react oddly to him at the time you also started a thread about it as you were unsure what to do?

BTW what did your husband say?

ReanimatedSGB · 23/05/2019 08:21

I agree that OP's initial response was the sort of thing quite a lot of women would have done - stay calm in case the man has a tantrum and gets dangerous. Also if you have a vague idea of naturism as a harmless, non-sexual thing and are not bothered by it, you might easily decide that this would be the sort of thing you can have a laugh about afterwards. But when things start escalating, you may underreact at the time because a part of you is thinking is this REALLY happening?

But I would be interested to hear what the friend who recommended him has to say...

doesthiseemright · 23/05/2019 08:22

I did show my Husband the texts and he just laughed. A lot.

I started the thread more wondering what to reply to the text but did always intend to get rid after the quote tbh. I did, however, think of it more as funny until I thought more and had some comments and now realise how creepy it is. As I said, I am even surprised by myself! What an idiot!

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VeganCow · 23/05/2019 08:24

Or, for that matter, as a pervert GrinGrin

doesthiseemright · 23/05/2019 08:24

is this REALLY happening?

I actually DID say this to myself. Out loud .

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thegreatcrestednewt · 23/05/2019 08:41

Not a naturist. A perv.

Bet if he'd met with your dh to chat about the painting he wouldn't have mentioned being a 'naturist'. Yuk.

Block him

SquishySquirmy · 23/05/2019 08:47

You're not an idiot op, not at all.
You're a normal human being, who doesn't get off on the discomfort of others, and you assume the same as other people. I think you handled it well.

I do think that those on this thread who are convinced it is 100% a joke, (it might be, but probably not) are a tad naive.... Because men are never creepy like this to women are they? It's all in our heads/a joke/a misunderstanding...

maccaroni · 23/05/2019 09:12

This reads like the beginning of a bad porn film script! Grin I call bullshit!

GruciusMalfoy · 23/05/2019 09:18

He's not a naturist, he's a big perv! 😂

ThomasRichard · 23/05/2019 09:43

I am very curious to know if there are two ‘naturist’ painters & decorators out there or if they’re one and the same.

ginghamtablecloths · 23/05/2019 10:10

No, you can't enjoy your tea with his wobbly bits on display. It'll put you off your scones.

MitziK · 23/05/2019 10:15

101 might be interested to know who they've had reports of exposing himself in various locations over town is.

Assuming that it's all he has done to lone females, that is.

MelBurke · 23/05/2019 10:33

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Ginkypig · 23/05/2019 10:40

I don't know why your husband thinks this is funny.

He should be appalled on your behalf that this man is exposing to at best inappropriate behaviour and stuff worst using you in his sexual fantasies with a view to pushing you into an even more disgusting position (coming round and exposing himself)

I don't have an opinion on naturists but this guy isn't one!

Onescaredmuma · 23/05/2019 10:56

I think it sounds like a joke I nearly spat my coffee out laughing when I read the text he sent!

DoctorDread · 23/05/2019 11:33

Ffs what an odd job!!! Confused

Tirednessandmoretiredness · 23/05/2019 12:05

Wow he might well be the same guy! Same place. And tbf he did do a really great job!

Sagradafamiliar · 23/05/2019 12:11

He might do a good job but he's still carrying out his fetish in other people's homes. It's pathetic. Naturists who aren't painters/decorators don't go to work in the nuddy do they. Bet there aren't many nude lecturers, coppers, office workers out there.

RiotAndAlarum · 23/05/2019 13:17

Naturists who aren't painters/decorators don't go to work in the nuddy do they. Bet there aren't many nude lecturers, coppers, office workers out there.

I remember a naked German farmer who was on Eurotrash. He wore socks (and boots), too!

smallereveryday · 23/05/2019 13:27

Without doubt this is a HUGE wind up . I bet your DH is in on it !!

Tell him it's fine .. as long as he sits on newspaper and wears a sock on his dick as naked generals put you off your tea 🤣

ReanimatedSGB · 23/05/2019 13:33

There have been (and probably still are) small firms offering naked service work: people sometimes book naked butlers/naked cleaners for parties or whatever. However, everyone knows what the deal is and is happy about it. I wonder if this painter is just a bully with a shit sense of humour who likes scaring people (and has enough work that he can afford to get rejected for jobs if he takes up any opportunity to scare lone women).

Vilanelle · 23/05/2019 13:35

We have a local naturist carpenter in our area. Never used him

HelpAFattieOutHere · 23/05/2019 15:57

We have a local naturist carpenter in our area. Never used him

With chisels and saws? Sounds dangerous!

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 23/05/2019 16:16

So disappointing to hear he is going to be wearing socks. Will they at least be freshly laundered and matching?