To approach a man I see running?

[messychocolate]

I go for a run every Saturday morning and I quite regularly see a man who is also running. A few weeks ago he was wearing shorts and I admit I probably did look him up and down when we passed each other and I think he saw this. I then gave him a little smile, which most people do when they pass each other. When we passed each other a second time I think he wiped his sweat off and adjusted himself just before we got to each other.

Fast forward a couple of weeks and when I saw him next I looked down as I was a bit embarrassed to be honest but just as we passed, I looked up at him and he was smiling at me.

Anyway, he is good looking and for some reason I am really drawn to him. Obviously I know nothing about him or his relationship status but AIBU to try and flirt, or say something to him, try and attract his attention etc? What should I do?

Wear your most flattering running kit, and put waterproof mascara and a bit of lips on.
I never meet any fit runners, which is just as well because I look like a red faced loon when I run

Following for an update

"I think the bend and snap is bringing about the wrong type of attention and I dislike celebrating this as an acceptable joke. Sorry!"

Good grief 🙄

I think just stop and hold your side . Hopefully he will ask if you are ok . You will just say you have a stitch you think . And then conversation will flow .

God, is it the really fit blondish bloke I often see running in Headbourne Worthy in Winchester?!! Fair play if it is. He is gorgeous.

Not sure our advice would be the same, if it was a reverse 😂.

No it totally wouldn't be, but that's because no man with any self awareness would romantically approach a lone woman runner on an isolated disused railway track. It's the height of creepiness. So if she doesn't do anything, nobody will do anything.

I probably would just try to chat to him rather than giving him your number - I agree that he may well be in a relationship, so best to subtly find that out before you throw yourself at him.

And how is it even all about who could beat who up?

Maybe because lone women are concerned about being beaten up raped and murdered by strange men who approach them in isolated places? Whereas lone men are not, generally, at risk of being raped and murdered by strange women.

Say you've dropped your fitbit and can he keep an eye out for it as he runs? Then hand him a sneakily concealed piece of paper from within your bra with your number on it and ask him to drop you a line if he sees it.

If he doesn't take the hint (who would carry their number on a piece of paper when running unless they were going to give it to someone they see?) you must alas find a new running route. Dems de rules.

@Tingface that summary made me proper lol, well done!

Did you check for a ring? There's a good chance he's already married/attached at that age

Or, more likely, divorced.

Can you practice running backwards and see if you can sync up with him.

Ask him if he has a light

There was this guy I passed on my way to work ( I took care of kids in their home and he lived in the building) we always crossed each other him coming home when I just left to go home and him leaving for work when I just arrived at work.. for months it was smiles and good mornings and stuff until one day I finished early and apparently so did he, as I walked down the stairs in the appartment building to go home he had just left his appartment with his girlfriend or whatever. As we said hello he explained to his girlfriend how we see each other every day it was pretty awkward.. the next day I was fired starting immediately because the kid fell out of the tree his mother said he was allowed to climb, he had no injuries from it and I was watching him constantly but he’s a kid and ah well different story I guess... never saw the guy again..

@messychocolate yay! your post has unlocked some of the funniest comments ive read on mumsnet...(ask him for a light/literally chase him)for that alone,thankyou. ..i hope he pulls the first move ,and hes the one(for you)..at the very least i hope dizni go titsup.happy saturday!

Start off by saying 'good morning'.
OR.
Get a t-shirt printed with your name and number on it.

Looks like has has a middle-aged crisis, OP.

Why don’t you slow down as you both approach each other? And say something British regards to the weather? Haha.

Or... make sure he can see and drop a piece of paper with your name and number on. At least you’ve run off by the time he gets to it and looks 😅

Next time he runs past wave him down to speak to him. Tell him you have lost something (make something up) and as he runs the same route could he keep an eye out for it and pick it up to give to you next time you pass.

He won't find it, but if he is interested he will ask you in the coming days if you ever found it.

This will give you opportunity to introduce yourself, find out his name, tell him what road you live on and give/receive a few bits of basic info and most importantly break the ice.

Good luck.

Oh and the ring this isn’t great? My husband doesn’t wear a ring.

So many fit guys running the parkland walk. Anyway I think you need to employ a puppy or cute dog. Borrow one and bring it out with you. Soon as you get close enough "drop" the lead (assuming this isn't near a road and doggo has decent recall). He shall rescue said doggo and return him to or not. And if not he wasn't worth it anyway.

Obviously you have to go all Jane Austin - long floaty muslin dress with kerchief which you can accidently let fall with calling card with your contact number etc...

He better turn up on Saturday and not be away for BH weekend we can’t be disappointed

If you run A B A and he runs B A B just wait to start your run when he’s at A, then you've got the whole of A-B together, or to stare at him from behind

Amazing thread LOVE all these ideas