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CF vulture picking over my dead mum's belongings.

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GetMeOffThisCycleOfMisery · 22/05/2019 06:03

Not an AIBU strictly speaking, but wanted to share this CF situation I had yesterday with you.

So, I unfortunately lost my mum 4 weeks ago.

Sadly, my mum didn't own her home, nor did she have much money, so while clearing out her place (which she recently decorated on a budget and furnished) I have been listing her belongings on Facebook Marketplace, to raise money for her ashes to be interred.

CF messaged me on Friday, wanting to buy her desktop printer. Fine. However, it was my mum's funeral on Friday, so I didn't read and reply obviously.

He keeps on sending more messages through the day to get me to reply, he's keen and not to know I'm at my mum's funeral, so I ignored him.

I finally reply on Saturday, it's £15 for a fairly new £45 Epson printer. He agrees he wants it and we arrange for him to collect from my mum's yesterday, as I'm there again doing more sorting and cleaning.

He texts to say he's on his way and adds "£10, okay?" Um, no dude. Not okay. It's £15. He arrives and I tell him it's £15. He starts pulling a face, I'm like, "As you can see, this is an old people's accommodation, not my house. I've lost my mum and raising money to bury her. So it's £15. The software is all there unopened, it's good as new!"

He very reluctantly pays up (from a big wad of £20s incidentally!) and asks what other things I am selling, so I show him around. He says he likes a beautiful side table and asks how much. I say £20. He replies, "But can I have it for free?" I repeat that sadly not, I'm raising money to bury my mum remember?

He then starts poking around all of my mum's meagre belongings and asks, "So what is here, that I can take for free then?"

Absolutely nothing you fucking vulture, piss off!

I didn't say that, as I was of course 'terribly British' and apologised that nothing was for free.

To be honest, anything that is left will go to a deserving local charity, not to a CF.

He took his printer and pissed off. Fucking wanker.

Some people are beyond disgusting aren't they?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 22/05/2019 06:07

Wow! He sounds fucking awful!
Sorry about your mum Flowers

CustardCreamLover · 22/05/2019 06:07

I'm so sorry you've lost your mum.

I applaud your restraint. I probably would have slapped the fucker.

KissUntilTheyDieOfRabies · 22/05/2019 06:08

Cunting CF behaviour. I'm sorry for your loss. That guy needs to learn some compassion, tact, and basic humaning.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 22/05/2019 06:10

Horrible grasping fucker! I am sorry for your loss. Flowers

Auramigraine · 22/05/2019 06:14

That’s absolutely disgusting, I’m surprised u held back I would have been giving him a few choice words.
I’m sorry for your loss Flowers

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GetMeOffThisCycleOfMisery · 22/05/2019 06:21

I'm spaced out tablets for the stress and high blood pressure, so not my usual feisty self. Plus I was so taken aback by his brazen attitude, it caught me off guard.

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RubberTreePlant · 22/05/2019 06:26

Feistiness probably wouldn't even register with someone like that.

So sorry for your loss.

LadyRannaldini · 22/05/2019 06:27

I'd be wary of being alone when anyone comes in answer to the ads, as you've experienced, some very odd people out there,

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Pinkyyy · 22/05/2019 06:29

I'd have just said "yes, compassion and manners are both free.".

mummmy2017 · 22/05/2019 06:30

He didn't really want the printer, he was a dealer, hence the looking around, in case he could find something.

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GetMeOffThisCycleOfMisery · 22/05/2019 06:33

@LadyRannaldini my mum's place is sheltered accommodation, so I've been meeting people at the door. But he wanted to come in to test the printer worked. I wouldn't let anyone in if I was alone either. My friend was there helping me clear and clean.

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DailyMailcanfuckthefuckoff · 22/05/2019 06:38

My sincere apologies, OP. There's too many journos on here looking for a quick and easy copy-paste story.

I'm sorry that he was such a CF at such a sensitive time.

Fluffycloudland77 · 22/05/2019 06:40

Sounds like sils ex p. Some people are just shameless.

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GetMeOffThisCycleOfMisery · 22/05/2019 06:40

@DailyMailcanfuckthefuckoff no worries. I've been awake since 4am and I'm bored with trying to sleep. Thought MN would appreciate a CF story! I'm still a bit gobsmacked TBH, people are gross.

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Yallnotreadyforthis · 22/05/2019 06:41

@GetMeOffThisCycleOfMisery, press the buzzer in the flat and speak to the offsite service about this man, and chat to the warden about it so they can remind them not to let anyone in. He might decide to see what he can get from other tenants.

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GetMeOffThisCycleOfMisery · 22/05/2019 06:43

@Yallnotreadyforthis I've already told the warden and let a few residents, including the main gossip know.

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AguerosAngel · 22/05/2019 06:44

So sorry for your loss OP Flowers

What an absolute solid gold CF! Just trying to take advantage of you when you are vulnerable, glad you told him to do one, I don’t think I’d have been so polite!

MyGastIsFlabbered · 22/05/2019 06:48

Posts like this make me despair of the human race. How can people be so lacking in decency? Sadly it's all too commonplace these days.

Icandothisallday · 22/05/2019 06:54

Different situation. But I tried to seel a nearly new TV cabinet on Facebook.

Wont do it ever again. It cost £200 and hadnt been used (it was a gift that wouldnt fit in my new house). I listed it for £50. People messaging saying 'what about £20?', people saying they were coming and they didnt this is after they were saying they were hiring a van and asking me to promise I would be in. People asking for discounts cause they couldn't feed their kids......but I could see their fb feed full of getting their nails done every week, several holidays a broad a year etc.

Someone at work bought it in the end. Its ridiculous it seems some people just want to be able to say they negotiated a better price. Some people want to sell it on, so want it as cheap as possible.

I wont ever advertise anything on facevook again.

I am sorry for your loss, op. Some people just dont care about anyone else, just making a profit .

Femalebornandbreed · 22/05/2019 07:03

Oh that’s horrible.

So sorry for your loss op

TheQueef · 22/05/2019 07:09

When my DM passed she lived in a council property that they wanted back asap.
Advertised washer, drier, fridge, freezer on gumtree all under 7 months old 0 wear for £100.
Someone asked if they could buy them but only pay £60 so they could afford a man and van.
Like a nugget I fell for the single mum setting up new first home etc and said yes.
The man and van that turned up was obviously a dealer and before he even knocked went through the bins!
It was brutal he was into everything asking what I want for XYZ.

thegreatcrestednewt · 22/05/2019 07:13

I'm so sorry for your loss, op.

He was horrible. You showed great restraint.

stucknoue · 22/05/2019 07:26

Unfortunately this is the norm when buying second hand. As heartbreaking as it is for you, second hand has very little intrinsic value and people who sell things on are likely to try and lower prices