To go after revenge for thief who stole my savings

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Not really an AIBU, more of a WWYD?

Many years ago, around 20, I was involved with a very unpleasant individual, bit of a long story but essentially he defrauded me out of £7000 by forging my signature on an endowment. The police were involved and after months and months of example signatures from both of us the case was
Proved inconclusive and he was able to pocket the cash and do a runner. I was never under a milligram of doubt he forged my signature but couldn’t prove it.

After years of never quite being able to get over it I put it in a box in my brain never to be opened! It was a lot of money then and as a young 20 something it meant I lost out on a lot.

Fast forward to today, via the beast that is social media he’s cropped up. I haven’t seen him since the day I left him but here he is smiling away into the camera.

There’s no address for him, but I can see some personal details. Would you be interested in revenge? What would you do? My head is telling me to forget it again but it’s an itch I’m feeling the need to scratch.

Don't do it. It won't make you happy. He doesn't deserve your headspace.

Yes, do it, it's pay back time

What are you considering doing to him?

I can understand why you're angry but anything you do to try and get back at him will probably backfire on you disastrously.
Unlike a lot of people who will probably post on this thread, I don't actually believe karma exists and people getting their just desserts often simply doesn't happen.
Life can be very difficult when you feel you've been shafted but I think you just have to let it go.

Did you have to pay the money back?

I’ve no idea what I’d do? Maybe just make him aware that I haven’t forgotten and that one day He’ll get what’s coming to him (whatever that is)?

If this person is that ruthless and heartless, do you really think there will be no comeback if you get one over on him?
Is he likely to just roll his eyes and say "fair play, you got me"? Or is he more likely to hurt you even more?
Is it worth it?

No he took the cash out of the endowment. It was in the years of endowment mortgages and we sold the house without buying on.

Fantasise about doing all the terrible things that are suggested on this thread but do none of them. You could end up making him the victim.

I’d be sorely tempted if you can get away with it.

I would find out where he lives and order taxis / pizzas / Chinese early mornings - I'd also pour bleach late at night all over the fuckers gardens before egging his house - childish but with no comeback

I'd be sorely tempted to remind him, publically, that he owes you 7k and can you please have it back.

I think if you do get revenge you would have to keep it to yourself and tell no one and it would have to be something that he didn't see coming and wouldn't associate with you.

It would also have to be something that cost him money

Fantasise about doing all the terrible things that are suggested on this thread but do none of them. You could end up making him the victim.

This, as Goldmandra suggests.

Honestly - he isn't worth the steam off your piss. You could end up getting arrested and he would be laughing his socks off!

I suppose you could sneak up to his home in the dead of night and post rotten fish through his letterbox - but is it really worth it?

It isn't, I promise you - hard as it is, let it go.

Buying pizzas won't cost him a thing. They take a phone number - whose number would you give? And why put them to massive inconvenience?

If you do, then don't tell anyone ever.

Maybe just make him aware that I haven’t forgotten and that one day He’ll get what’s coming to him (whatever that is)?

Thats harassment. You'll end up with a criminal record.

I would find out where he lives and order taxis / pizzas / Chinese early mornings - and this is just so mature. Could you elaborate on how you think the local takeaway being out of pocket, not to mention the delivery drivers wasting petrol is somehow 'revenge' ?

I'd see who his partner and kids are, then message them telling them... but then that's the evil side of me talking.

I’d suggest blocking him on social media and carrying on with your life. The revenge idea sounds satisfying in theory but could just leave you feeling messed up without having particularly inconvenienced him. Not worth your time.

I'd be sorely tempted to remind him, publically, that he owes you 7k and can you please have it back

This

I did a revenge thing once - forgot what I was doing and ended up with 10 pizzas ........

My ex husband still owes me 5k but I know I'll never get it back. Just let go. It's bloody annoying but ultimately only hurting you. X

What did you have in mind exactly?

Please don't send taxis or takeaways if you do find out his address, as previous posters say, it won't cost him anything, and instead will cost businesses/individuals who've done nothing wrong to you. Maybe set up a fake Facebook profile, befriend people who "like" his public posts/ profile pic etc. Then once you have a number of mutual friends, send him a friend request. See who his new partner / wife is, and message them saying stuff about him, nothing that is identifiable though. Or Google him, does he have a LinkedIn page? Could you contact his employers? Remember not to say any allegations that could link back to you, I think you do need to do some form of revenge, it might take a few weeks but hopefully it will make you feel better!

Species, that's hilarious It's the kind of thing I'd do!