To report this man trying to kiss me at the bus stop

[frangipanny]

I'm 35, waiting at the bus stop when a young man comes along and asks me about bus times, get into a conversation and I say I'm going home as I have 2 kids and he says he is an actor, he starts showing me his insta as my bus arrives, I say goodbye and he gets me in a kind of headlock and "kisses" me. I'm like "get the fuck off me" and run to get on the bus. Presumably there will be cctv. Naively I thought I was too old for this fucking shit.

Blimey. That’s quite an aggressive sexual assault. The police put out appeals for that sort of thing all the time here.

The police don’t want you to peruse it because they’ll have a sexual assault on their books that they can’t clear up. Tough. I’d absolutely do everything in my power to push this one. That man won’t stop with you, and a kiss, I’m afraid.

Yes I think I would like to pursue it, and I get that they need to manage my expectations and I don't expect him to be caught but I feel if the image of him is recorded then if he does it again (or worse) then it can be used against him.
I think i'll contact them today. Surely most buses have dashcam footage these days so they can at least check that, and I know the exact time I got the bus as I used my card to pay.

Last year I was sitting outside some fountains with my two kids and this frail old smelly man walked over to me I recognised him from the old people's home and said Hiya, he then lent over cuddles and caressed me and kissed me on my head I told him to piss off and thought nothing more of it but it really unsettled me, fast forward to this month a post is going around about a 7 year old girl who was sitting outside the park and he done the same thing to her and was caught by the dad, 7 years old!! I'm now waiting to give my statement and wish I came forward ages ago.

No, don't drop it.
I know the Police are stretched, but in some stations there seems to be a lack of foresight that if they dealt with crimes at the start, they won't then have to deal with it escalating. As someone else commented, to them it's a kiss right now, but what next if he gets away with that?
Is this a bus stop he uses regularly? Is there a chance that if they put out an appeal, others women who did brush it off may come forward?
It seems they never learn. Especially when it comes to assaults against women. Just this weekend there was coverage of a woman who they fobbed off over revenge porn.
Tell them you respect that they may not find him via the CCTV, but as he seemed so blatant there is always the chance he has done this before. They have a duty of care to investigate. It's the holding you in a headlock that really marks this out as serious. They should also be asking if he did that to try and stop you getting on the bus.

Any witnesses on the bus?

Oh and sorry that happened to you. Weird and scary. As someone said, we used to ignore things like that but we should not have to. X

Sorry i think thats a terrible response from the police-what if he does something worse next time and they had a chance to stop him

@puzzled is correct they’ll almost certainly be a growing confidence to his behaviour, the head lock in particular is very disturbing, the Police response is disappointing, do you know if it was an officer from a sexual offences unit? They really should recognise this as a potential serial offender.

Well done for reporting it.

Please pursue this.