Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

I just think it's hilarious that when people,say "my child has been invited to [whatever] but now we have been invited to something better" the replies are almost always "how rude to not go because you have had a better offer etc" but it appears it's ok for adults to do it.

Quite.

I mean besides the bride and grooms family it'll mainly be a massive load of late twenties-fourty year olds who are in large, Liverpudlian. I don't think there will be many people who won't to watch it, besides the odd partner like me who has no interest, but even then they'll likely be attending with somebody who does want to watch.

The confidence of these Liverpool fans astounds me!!!

Imagine the mood of these guests when Spurs win

Im laughing at the image of die hard spurs/scousers watching it on catch up after the wedding - that just wont happen. Instead the B&G are going to be very shocked when they look up and half the venue have disappeared or are a no show.

Your DH needs to grow up - he has been invited to a wedding. If he doesn’t want to go, decline the invitation. It’s incredibly rude to consider watching the match on their phone or finding a room to watch it. The result will still be the same when they watch it the following day.

I think you might find alot of cancellations if people think that this will be enforced. They will have much more fun in Liverpool especially if they win and probably even if they don't. This couple are doing themselves no favours.

Only on mumsnet would you be selfish and entitled for expecting people who’ve agreed to attend your wedding to actually prioritise being at your wedding. On this site, if you do anything other than get married in a registry office in absolute secrecy wearing an old dress & suit you found in the back of your wardrobe, you’re a cheeky fucker who thinks the world revolves around you and imposes unbearable expectations on guests, who are all there under duress and would much rather be doing absolutely anything than watching people they allegedly love getting married.

The B&G need to realise they can't hold people hostage and that if they aren't showing the game people will leave early to watch it. 🤷‍♀️

They are not Scousers are they? They cant be, if they were they would get it. Football is like a religion on Merseyside.

My DF once flew home early from a holiday to watch his team play in a promotion play off game at Wembley. They lost, but he wouldn't have it any other way.

Howling at '(and YNWU)' tagged onto end of email. Pretty sure the bride and groom will be able to walk around their reception alone at 8pm.

Being a wedding guest is not a rare event. Seeing your team in a final is. So I think it's a much bigger day for being a football fan than for being the friend or relative of someone getting married.

Very daft not to include the football in the wedding.

I'm afraid when events like this pop up to coincide with your long planned wedding date the sensible thing to do, even if you're not entirely thrilled with the idea, is to roll with the punches and make the best of it. Not lay down a blanket rule stating that people are banned from doing X, Y, and Z.

I don’t like football but I think being from Liverpool, they have to accept many guests will want to watch. I don’t think they’re unreasonable not to want to screen it but I do think they’re unreasonable and unrealistic not expecting people to want to leave to watch it.

Lets face it, weddings are boring at the best of times. Majority of fans are men, most men will not care about a wedding.

As for them saying their wedding day is the biggest event, yes it is, to them, but not so much other people. What is the divorce rate now.

watching people they allegedly love getting married

That's just the vows, the rest is just a party in reality. Not even very exciting half the time.

I doubt anyone is getting their phone out during the vows.

I did try and say to DH they can record and watch it after and the look I got said it all. His brothers, him and their mates are in supporters clubs, attend every single home game and find the idea of doing anything other than watching it live, at the very least on their phones, ridiculous. A few posters here saying just let them go watch it, I can't stop them I just tried to say that whilst no one would notice if just them few snuck off, it's not going to be just them that do that and I feel for the bride and groom if that happens, but they are DHs friends not mine and they have sort of shot themselves in the foot by not compromising, so I'm just going to step back and see what happens.. I'll update after the day if I remember. He is a full grown adult with a good job, he's not some man child, he just really loves his football 🤷‍♂️

I assume the venue is large given the size of the wedding. If it's a hotel and it has a separate bar area open to the public then the B&G can't demand not to have a tv on there. Dh and Ds are massive Liverpool fans. I don't follow football. There's no way they'd sit round watching people dancing at a wedding while the final was on. And I'd be the first to tell them to head off and watch the game. Surely the B&G would rather that than have 20/30 miserable guests forced to stay at the wedding for the couple of hours that the match will be on for.

I get that there are a lot on non-football fans on MN, but I'm not sure the b&g quite yet what their ultimatum means.

Hands down they're either going to get cancellations or the venue is going to empty out at 7.45.

Pretty sure the bride and groom will be able to walk around their reception alone at 8pm.

For lot of people weddings are great fun, just not as much fun as watching their beloved team in the champions league final. You can be angered by this as much as you want but it's not going to change the reality.

Maybe all the guests should arrive in Liverpool jerseys just to really annoy the B&G

the poor bride and groom to have such flaky friends.

Miss the wedding if you're too obsessed to postpone when you see a match, but so so selfish to bugger off from a wedding you've already agree to go to because of a game of football...

Being a wedding guest is not a rare event. Seeing your team in a final is. So I think it's a much bigger day for being a football fan than for being the friend or relative of someone getting married.

Yes.

This game is absolutely massive. I'm not a die hard fan but it is really really crazy to think that such a huge footballing event can or should be ignored.

Why would you want all your guests suffering silently while wishing they were watching the game ???!

Just make it part of the day - put a screen up get the booze flowing and enjoy the fun.

Given that it's easy enough to do a quick Google Search and find out the dates of the next two CL finals, And to see that the bidding process to host the Two beyond that either has, or is about to open, I think it's fairly safe to assume that the date of this year's final would have been known when the wedding date was first decided upon. Fair enough that the b&g are not football fans, but, I would definitely expect, planning a wedding a city like Liverpool, where football is pretty much a religion, you would think about this when planning a wedding.
This is a huge game for both Liverpool and Spurs fans, so unless b&g decide to accommodate it in some way, I suspect they will find a lot of no shows.