Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

I'm loving the superiority complexes and low-level sexism (spoiler: it's not just men that like football) on display in this thread.

The B&G are being totally unreasonable if they're expecting to not be leaving by 8pm.

Bride and groom are being V V U. Its only 90 mins and its a huge deal.

I'd leave a wedding for a big football match if it were 'my' team.

You can't record it and watch it later!!! 😆

If it were my wedding I’d have the match on in the main reception room so everyone could watch if they wanted without having to leave their seats. I’m not a big football fan (my ds is an arsenal fan) but i think it would be great craic especially if Liverpool win. Your wedding would be remembered as the best wedding in history lol. The bride & groom are being very precious

Agreed. But I was never one of those "this is my special day and you must treat it as such" brides. I wanted people at my wedding to have a great party. If that had involved a football match at the same time (and it won't be the whole time!) then I'd have been fine with that!

Also this thread is prime tabloid material OP.

I'm not a football fan but I think the B&G are being unreasonable. They should try and be more adaptable rather than trying to control their day in such a joyless manner.

I think the bride and groom are within their rights to say they won't be screening the match, however they will have to accept that guests will sneak off to either find a television, watch it on their phones or listen on a radio.

I once attended a wedding that clashed with a CL final, that year it was Man United playing. It was at a hotel and lots of people went off to watch the game in the main bar area, including the groom and best man lol! No one was offended.

Op, I'm not a football fan but understand how they feel about it - DS, H etc.

If I was your DH and I was 'forced' to be at the disco at 8 pm, I would go to the b&g and 'make' them sit down with me, talk to me, entertain me ...

With 200 people there (probably more for the evening), who is going to notice them for 90 mins?

Baffled I am!

Their email is self-obsessed comedy gold

"You can watch the game later - but you can't replay our day."

I wonder how many guests suddenly won't be able to make the wedding after receiving that message? It's one thing to say they won't put a screen on and wouldn't like people watching on devices, but to ban them from leaving the reception?

'We kindly ask that none of our guests ask for the game to be put on, go watch elsewhere or watch on any devices. You can watch the game later - but you can't replay our day.'

they need to get over themselves.

I attended a wedding on a day when England were playing Germany. (Can’t remember which tournament or whatever...)
B&G got a big tv put in reception and a fab time was had by all. (We won 5-1!)

World Cup qualifier, 1st Sept 2001.

My parents (especially my mother) did nothing but bitch, whine and moan that I booked my wedding for the day of a Rugby World Cup game (neither of them are the nationalities who were playing) and constantly told me how unreasonable I was for not providing a screen for the guests because "it only comes around once every four years". Right, because I get married every week.

All the men moved to another room and watched England beat Germany 5-1 the day we got married. I was no big issue an hour and a half out to the whole day - the ladies all entertained themselves on the dance floor at the time.

You can't record it and watch it later!!! 😆

What, not even highlights? There’s absolutely no way to see anything to do with it unless you watch it live? How weird!

Oh my Lord that email is cringeworthy

I wanted people at my wedding to have a great party

But this isn't just about the bride and groom. What about the experience of guests who aren't interested in the match? They'd either have to put up with the match blaring out on TV, or half the guests going incommunicado staring at their phones.

If you accept someone's hospitality you should be prepared to join in and respect your hosts' wishes.

It's downright rude to say, effectively, that watching sport on television is more entertaining than the party your hosts have laid on.

I suspect there may be a few illnesses on the day...

Put it on in the bar and enjoy the emotion and fun that a big sporting event adds to the day. People who aren’t interested can ignore and carry on worshiping the bride or whatever she imagines is going to happen on “her” day.

If she tries to enforce the ban then people are just going to sneak away to watch it elsewhere and that really will ruin the atmosphere.

Oh, and I say all this as someone who’s wedding landed on a huge rugby match for our country.

Everyone watched it (me included) and I was more than happy with that. Especially because we won! But if we hadn’t watched it the world would have kept turning. And we’d have survived.

But accepting an invitation to someone’s wedding, knowing they’ve spent a fortune on it, and then disappearing is so rude.

I just think it's hilarious that when people,say "my child has been invited to [whatever] but now we have been invited to something better" the replies are almost always "how rude to not go because you have had a better offer etc" but it appears it's ok for adults to do it.

Just tell DH and his brothers to slope off to a room with the footy on one at a time then periodically reappear one at a time when the game is in a lull. Don't mention it and no-one will notice.

ScreamingValenta

I think my friends and family are mostly more laid back like me and less uptight like most mumsnet users. The TV doesn't have to be "blaring", the guests who aren't interested would be quite capable of entertaining themselves, etc. No big deal IMO.