Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

It's not "just a match". It's the CL final.

Part of being a good host is catering for the guests, why host a reception if it's just about the couple not the guests?

The bride and groom are utterly delusional if they think they can stop Liverpudlian guests from watching this years champions league final.

Some people saying it's better to miss the whole wedding than to leave, is this true when we are day guests as well and kick off isn't until 8pm? The ceremony, vows, speeches and meal will be long over before DH went upstairs to watch the game.

TBH I'd be as worried about the aftermath especially when people are drinking. Football fans don't take losing lightly, not saying that Liverpool will lose just if.

What, not even highlights? There’s absolutely no way to see anything to do with it unless you watch it live? How weird!

It's not just about seeing the match! It's about the atmosphere, the shared experience, the penalty shoot out as it happens.... That can never be recreated or recaptured.

Goose I don't know every guest attending but it's quite a large bunch of DH and his brothers friends and although huge football fans they aren't yobs by any means. They definitely wouldn't be the type to start any trouble especially at an event where everyone knows each other and is on the same team.

What time does the whole wedding event kick off OP?

The wording of the B and G’s email is very egocentric. They may have spent thousands of hours and pounds on the day, but that’s not for everyone else’s benefit , like their love it’s primarily of interest to them.

Like many others I usually think of the party as trying to make sure everyone enjoys themselves, not just the main players. They’d be much better off embracing it. The match isn’t until mid evening anyway.

OP, have you heard any feedback from other guests regarding the email from the B&G? Is there a massive WhatsApp convo going on?

Ok, regardless of everyone's opposing views:

Realistically they have 2 options:

1. Incorporate it into the wedding and make it a fun addition.

1. Accept that people are going to drop out or disappear at 8pm.

Their request is just not going to happen.

Is it in a hotel where there is a public bar? If so, the hotel might be showing it anyway. I'm not into football but if it was my wedding I think I'll be quite happy showing it as it would mean there would be a great atmosphere and everyone would be enjoying themselves which is what would be most important for me. To be. It means the majority of guests will be miserable which won't be much fun.

The casual sexism on here is a bit disappointing, women can also be football fans!
I think the B&G are a bit over-optimistic if they think none of their 200 guests will make any attempt to watch their team in a massive final, and it would be less disruptive to their wedding just to put it on a screen than for them to spend 8-10pm checking where their guests are and being pissed off when they realise people have disappeared.

I am stunned at the arrogance of the email - saying that their wedding is a bigger event than Liverpool getting through to the Champions League final? Fuck me. It might be bigger for them but most people invited will go to loads of weddings but may only see LFC in a CL final once in their lifetimes.

I hate football but I'd be leaving at 7.45pm to go and watch the match. The atmosphere is going to be amazing

To be is meant to say 'to ban'!

Perhaps bride and groom are a different...type of person?

The people I know who are that into football all share a lot of traits, let’s call them.

I hope Liverpool get hammered now! 😂

To those saying the B&G should have checked the date before booking - the onus is on the guest to check to make sure they won't be double booked. If the match is so important to you you should have declined the invite.

Once you've RSVP'd then you have to prioritise it.

It's not just about seeing the match! It's about the atmosphere, the shared experience, the penalty shoot out as it happens.... That can never be recreated or recaptured.

Neither can your wedding. Well, unless you get divorced and start over again.

I'd be incredibly hurt if my friends felt it was more important to watch football, however big the match, than spend my once in a lifetime milestone with me.

Then again, I'd also be hurt if they decided to go with my wishes and decided to passive-aggressively mope around because they can't see the match live.

It's not even about football (which I will freely admit I just don't "get"). I'd feel the same about a public viewing of the GoT finale or whatever.

may only see LFC in a CL final once in their lifetimes

Not sure why people keep saying this. Its probably once in a lifetime for a Spurs fan but I've watched 4 Liverpool CL finals. My daughter has seen 2 and she's only 8!

If I received that email I would politely decline the invite and just send a card and gift.

@chipsandpeas
Ok I should have been more accurate: to have all four spots of the champs league and Europa cup filled by English teams is once in a lifetime, and Liverpool v spurs in champs league final is once in a lifetime.
Sorry to fail on the pedantry there...

What's YNWU?

I had to delay the speeches at my wedding so that some guests could watch the Derby. Well, they did have a horse running in it ... I didn't mind.

I also understand how important this football match is - my family will all be watching it live from different places. We would certainly decline an invitation that wouldn't be able to accommodate that.

Given that the match is in the evening, they are only missing the boozing/dancing part anyway. I think if the B&G are in the Liverpool area it's extraordinary that they don't appreciate the importance of the match.

No question of recording it & watching it later - no-one will be able to keep the score secret unless you were literally on another planet.

As Bill Shankly famously once said: "Some people think football is a matter of life and death. I don't like that attitude. I can assure them it is much more serious than that."

I don't think non-football fans appreciate how important this match is to both Spurs & Liverpool fans - but in Liverpool, I reckon 95% of people will be watching the match.

It isn’t a bloody once in a lifetime event, it’s the 4th CL final Liverpool have played in in the last 15 years. And I’m a Liverpool fan. I feel very, very sorry for the bride and groom and I think it’s horrendously rude to put a football match above real people’s feelings. I think they probably have no choice but to give in and allow the game to be shown, but if I were them I’d run a free bar in another room for the couple of hours it was on for, as a thank for the guests with decent manners.
The thing I’d be most worried about would be the atmosphere being ruined afterwards if Liverpool lose. Ok, the chances are they won’t, but the worst thing about hardcore fans is the way they sulk after a bad result. That would spoil the wedding far more than a few wankers going awol for a bit.

Perhaps bride and groom are a different...type of person?

I think their message makes it very clear what type of person they are

If last years CL final is anythings to go by, the Liverpool fans won't sulk if they lose. They will be proud of their team for putting on a great performance. And will celebrate it anyway.