Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

The final starts at 8. Weddings drag on too long anyhow. I'd just leave. I'm female and a Liverpool fan.

It's a hobby. One you're clearly way over invested in.

'The final starts at 8. Weddings drag on too long anyhow. I'd just leave'

The eat and run type.

Your DH and his friends are being extremely rude! It's a bloody football match. They need to grow up and respect the fact that they have been invited to a wedding and sometimes life - real life - gets in the way.

The result of the match will be the same whether they watch it or not. The impact on your friendship with this couple won't be the same …

I'm confused now, is this a genuine situation or made up by journalist specifically to get a bite for a story for the paper?

How is it eat and run if you've already been there all bloody day by 8PM? But hey, there's no way I'd miss the match, I'd rather not go. No one owns a day.

I can understand that the bride and groom would be pretty annoyed if someone was sat in the ceremony with the final on their tablet while they are giving their vows however with the kick off being at 8pm I can not see what the problem is. Being a massive Liverpool fan myself, and also my DH and I actually having our honeymoon at Anfield I can totally understand how missing such an important game would be heartbreaking. The fact that it kicks off later in the evening means that I'd have thought the ceremony would have been done, food served and consumed and most people would just be sitting drinking and chatting until it was time to go home. At our wedding, most people had left the hotel by about 9pm anyway ( kids, long journey home etc) I can understand not everyone will have the same opinion about football as me which is fair enough ( each to your own and all that), however I feel that considering most of their guests are from around the Liverpool area all this ' blanket ban' will lead to is people going home early straight after the ceremony, or people not turning up at all. It does seem a shame to the bride and groom, as it's just a football match to some people, but that football match is something they have spent the last season on the edge of their seats following to get to. So I feel that having it on a tele in the corner of the bar, just so people can keep up with the events of the evening will only add to the atmosphere of the day. As I say, maybe this is just my opinion.

Would you put up with a petulant teenager demanding that they are allowed to sit there playing call of duty through someone’s wedding?

Because that would be exactly the same, wouldn’t it 🙄

Am i missing something?. Kick off 8pm., by then vows, speeches, dinner, cake cutting first dance all would have been over by then, so whats the issue with the match being shown in the bar, lovely atmosphere with friends and family. Personally i think the B has severely shot herself in the foot

How is it eat and run when after transport, time off work, outfits and room the guests have spent more than their meal?!

And what'll probably happen is a lot of their evening guests won't go or will decline. The evening do's are duds anyhow. A football match is far more entertaining.

My DH supports Spurs and would be gutted to miss this game. I don’t follow football but I can understand that it’s a massive deal for the supporters. The bride and groom need to accommodate IMO, or have a lot of guests resenting their wedding.

Miss the match?? No chance.

I think your friends are bdon’t like football but would definitely provide somewhere to watch the champions league final - I know what a huge thing this is to Liverpool fans. If they want their friends there then they’re going have

Sorry fat fingers 🙄
I think your friends are dicks tbh. However they are well within their rights to ban the football & their guests are well within their rights not to go & enjoy Liverpool winning the champions league. 😁😁
And I do t follow football but understand how important this is to those that do.

If you’re not in to football you won’t get it. But this is massive. I’m neither a Spurs nor Liverpool fan but I’d head off for an hour and a half to watch this

The men can have a drink and watch the football and the girls can boogie away (which is what happens at most weddings except the men are drinking and watching the women dance)

Fucking hell. The 70s called. It wants its attitude back - PositiveVibez

It's hard to quote on here but you are deluded if you deny this happens PositiveVibez

I'm a feminist who grew up in the 1970s and rails against sexual stereotypes but that is what happens. I went to a wedding like that two months ago. I hate dancing. All the women were younger than me. There were no men. It doesn't matter. They like dancing and I don't. I don't think they are betraying the sisterhood. They just like dancing and I don't. It wasn't a political statement.

B&G are bonkers if they think supporters of either (or actually any) team aren’t going to watch this game. It’s massive!

It's beyond massive

Does anyone else have visions of this being the only wedding where bouncers have to be hired to keep the guests in the venue rather than keep undesirables out

Not showing it is a bit petty imho, but issuing a mandate that people can't watch it on personal phones or slip away for 90 mins to their room to watch it is more than a step too far.

By doing this they've already made the wedding about the match.....

I can't get out of my head scenes of people being interrogated by "football bouncers" about why they want to leave the room and those at the back of the queue sweating as all the best excuses are used up ...

The B&G couple are v unreasonable and precious,demanding no one watch game
It’s 8pm kick off,after meal.prob after the speeches so actually it’s no biggie
Predictable response about the pwecious day, ,everyone must be enthralled
Ease up,because yiu know what people, will watch it on iPhones etc
A crowd will gather to watch irrespective of what B&G say

I went to a wedding on day of a final, they put it on a screen in the bar. B&G both footy fans

My eldest brother was a professional footballer. My view, your DH and co. need to start realising what is important in life, 90 mins of a football match (that can be viewed later) or the friendship and generosity of the wedding couple. Personally, knowing there will be folk who will go to all lengths to watch the match during the wedding I would uninvite all those who I know to be Liverpool supporters explaining I know they will be disappointed to have to miss the game and that my wedding is a secondary to that occasion. The fans' behaviour just highlights the mentality of the majority of those involved in football. Probably the wedding date was set before it was known the teams in the final. I absolutely detest football. I have been interested in the female teams until I saw them too, running and hugging one another after doing something they are supposed to do if playing a match. Looks like they to are succumbing to the self gratification as demonstrated by the male teams.

I think the wedding couple ABU. Yeah it’s your day and you want to enjoy it, but the best way to enjoy it is if everyone else also enjoys it. I would always go for a completely chilled out wedding and would myself happily put the game on in a corner near the bar, where’s the harm?

I hate these weddings where the couple impose rules on everyone attending. I never attend weddings where guidelines are put in place.

Good hosts will accommodate the footy
Event will run til midnight,maybe later?so a 90min game is no big deal.

I think they should show it. Guests will either be tense and irritated if they miss it or will leave to watch it as it's a big deal.

She could always use the time to go and have some photos taken if she doesn't want to be involved in it.

As much as a wedding day is of course about the bride and groom, it is also about ensuring your guests are happy.

Wow the B&G are definitely not being unreasonable, it is their day and the last thing they'd want is for it to be ruined by a load of people yelling and shouting at a football match either on a TV if they provided it or on their phones.
It's just a game. Your DH and his brothers are being very unreasonable.
It's kind of crazy that they seem to care more about a bunch of overpaid footballers kicking a bag of wind around a field than people they know and are supposed to care about.
Priorities, priorities!