Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

How sad that people feel that watching a pathetic football 'GAME' is more important than real life! You have been invited to a wedding where a lot of love and money has been put into it so grow the hell up and enjoy the wedding and record the silly game to watch later or just RSVP that you can't go instead of causing stress to the B&G on the biggest day of their life!

And good hosts wouldn’t be so insular,they’d accommodate the footy fan guests
Not everyone will be watching. I’d say B&G stop being truculent and demanding of their guests

Like it or not, sport (and most particularly football, as the world's most popular sport by a huge distance) is more than just a game. It brings communities together. For the CL Final, the biggest annual sporting event, tens of thousands of Liverpudlians will be gathering in public in the collective act of supporting their team and their community. They will be sharing the emotional highs and lows and, if all goes well, total strangers will be hugging each other and singing and dancing together, connected by their team and geographical heritage. Whilst the TV may simply be showing two teams of footballers trying to kick a ball in each other's net, what will be going on off-screen, in the bars and the streets, transcends that. That's why you can't just record it and watch it later.

Attending a wedding's a pretty collective act that brings communities together...

My wedding day clashed with England v Germany in Euro 2000. Wedding reception was coincidentally in a football stadium so we utilised their big screens, screened the match at approx 6pm and let night time guests know it was on and to arrive early. It was fab. Those who wanted to watch footie did leaving a quieter main room
To circulate round the older relatives and let the kids do knee slides and wear themselves out. Of course we won and the DJ played three lions and the dance floor remained full for the rest of the night. Nearly twenty years on it as wedding which stands out in everyone's minds. Go with it. If you hold a summer wedding expect it to clash with something like this!

Football isn’t a watch it later activity.its immersive,you feel it.its huge
I see the tired cliches trotted out like a ✅exercise
It’s 8pm kick off,the daft first dance is done,small talk exhausted,predictable dinners eaten
Football is exciting,more exciting than being a guest at a wedding imo

I would totally stick the game on and let everyone enjoy it. Especially a PM kick off at a wedding of 200+ people. A small wedding would be a bit different. I would make sure my timings were going to work though so that I didn't have people walking out or watching their own devices during the speeches or first dance. Easy enough to rework things. But then I'm pretty easy going.

So wanted to know what happened.

I'm confused now, is this a genuine situation or made up by journalist specifically to get a bite for a story for the paper?

I remember almost the exact same thread when the World Cup was on!

I think it’s really selfish and pathetic to want to watch a game at someone’s wedding and bride and groom are totally correct. However, since some men are pigs and would throw a tantrum and end up leaving early, I would probably stick it on a small tv somewhere and leave them to it, otherwise they risk an exodus (of d**kheads) just before it starts. If we were guests, my partner would want to watch it but he wouldn’t expect to be able to at a wedding so would avoid social media and news and watch it on catch up the second we were in.

Attending a wedding's a pretty collective act that brings communities together.
Really it isn’t. It’s some salmon in hollandaise, a buffet,some small talk
May also involve some cringey B&G dancing
It’s not bringing any communities together,it’s a social do. Not the Camp David accord

And a football match is just some men kicking a ball up and down a field whilst you have a pint with your mates.

Attending a wedding's a pretty collective act that brings communities together
Really it isn’t. It’s some salmon in hollandaise, a buffet,some small talk
May also involve some cringey B&G dancing
It’s not bringing any communities together,it’s a social do. Not the Camp David accord

I hate football but in the circumstances I would have a TV somewhere in the venue showing the game. We went to a wedding a number of years ago when there was an ‘important match’ on. No idea now what it was. It started after the speeches and during the ‘Irish dancing’ display I think (!) The main reception room still remained reasonably full whilst those that wanted to went off and watched the football ( and those of us not keen on either went for a walk in the grounds....!) Bride and groom wanted to accommodate all their guests and host a reception that everyone hold enjoy. It was a spectacular event, must have cost thousands, but all bride and groom wanted was to share the event with friends and make sure guests had a great time whatever they preferred doing ‘entertainment’ wise.

I couldn’t give a flying rats arse about football and I’d be mightily peeved if this cast a shadow on my wedding day! Your husband and his mates are being total twats!

Grew up with brothers, had sons, all football mad. You just have to accept their passion for the game is greater than almost anything else. I would accept their need to see it and carry on partying with the non football-loving guests. Which would be me!

But the wedding is over! Kick off is at 8pm!!
So after being there since 11am the guests have paid their dues!!!

I'm with DH,but I am a football fan. Our wedding was on the last day of the season a few years ago, we embraced it and had a TV up! Those that were interested (including myself) loved it!!

Although I would understand if someone else didn't want football on at their wedding, I'd watch it on my phone, I wouldn't ban it though totally

I think it's terribly sad it has to be said.

It wouldn't occur to me to miss half a wedding to watch the final of Game of Thrones if we were on US time, or the release of the new Iphone z7999 and so on.

I went to a lovely 'informal' shall-we-say, wedding where the reception was held at a social club. After the meal and speeches many people 'retired' to the bar area to watch the game, including the groom and most of his ushers. The bride stayed in the main hall and had a great time catching up with friends and family. It was the strangest yet loveliest wedding!

Attending a wedding's a pretty collective act that brings communities together.
It's a private party for family, friends and acquaintances of two people. It's barely a notch up from a birthday party as a community event.

Going by comments on Liverpool Echo Facebook page.... I don't think they will have 200 guests tbh🙈

There is a woman whose son's funeral was on cup final so they had tellies on because the son would love to watch it if he was alive. Bless her.

Really really rude to expect to watch football at a wedding.
Go on a phones/ social media ban and watch it on catch up the next day.

I have followed Liverpool fc since I was a child so I am clearly biased. This presents an opportunity to make a wedding unforgettable ( yes; other stuff is more important than your wedding).
Inclusion brings more joy than exclusion in my experience.

OMG!! What a sad bunch! It's just a bloody pathetic game. Rugby all the way here but would never let it interfere with someones wedding day, that is just a complete lack of social skills.