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Champions league ban at wedding

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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 11:21

Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

OP posts:
Zbag · 19/05/2019 17:48

I personally wouldn't go to the wedding if I had to choose.
COYS!

LetsGoFlyAKiteee · 19/05/2019 17:54

Guess also years ago was easy to avoid this clash because it was a weekday so just FA Cup and play offs to avoid.
Or maybe when booking it they didn't expect Liverpool to be in the final. Seeing as before last year the last time was 2007.

Who knows either way woops

samG76 · 19/05/2019 18:01

I’d record the wedding and watch the football! The couple are definitely BU.

Oscarsdaddy · 19/05/2019 18:04

Absolutely spot on

Mumtobe1608 · 19/05/2019 18:07

Myself and my husband have been invited to a wedding (evening reception) on the day of the final. I had to explain to my friend that my husband likes him a lot, but he loves football more than me. We are not attending. Although difficult to balance, telling a group of adults what they can and can’t do sniffs a little of bridezilla behaviour. If this was a close friend and we were invited for the day, my husband would have found a place to watch the match and then return. I would not have had a problem with this. As somewelse said. Try getting 200 scousers not to watch the champions league final 😂😂

Qweenbee · 19/05/2019 18:08

Many years ago an important match was played in the bar at a wedding I attended. It actually added to the atmosphere as everyone was in a good mood during it. I can't remember the result though but know it didn't spoil the day in any way.

What will the mood be like if they lose - even if nobody watches the match, they'll know the score.

PositiveVibez · 19/05/2019 18:16

The men can have a drink and watch the football and the girls can boogie away (which is what happens at most weddings except the men are drinking and watching the women dance)

Fucking hell. The 70s called. It wants its attitude back.

Straysocks · 19/05/2019 18:18

To understand the problem some have to realise this is not a 'football match', it is for many an enormous cultural/religious/heritage event with notes of tribal belonging, devotion and ancestral worship. It's bigger than Christmas. Also, yes, Liverpool have won it 5 times before but we have never done so with this exact team, caring so much and we have had the most almighty journey with them this season. I would rather miss my own wedding than this.

Straysocks · 19/05/2019 18:19

PositiveVibez that's hilarious!!!

Lifeover · 19/05/2019 18:19

No no no! Tell your husband there’s plenty of oppprtunity to watch men running around in shorts every other weekend. It is a game. Would you put up with a petulant teenager demanding that they are allowed to sit there playing call of duty through someone’s wedding?

PCohle · 19/05/2019 18:19

How is a football match a religious event?? That's borderline offensive.

MissBelle83 · 19/05/2019 18:21

I think they need to stop being so self-absorbed. This game is more important to a lot of people than their wedding! It's on in the evening so just put a telly on somewhere during the evening do for those who want to watch it. People are going to find a way to watch it either way, they are guests not prisoners!

PoorRichard · 19/05/2019 18:21

To understand the problem some have to realise this is not a 'football match', it is for many an enormous cultural/religious/heritage event with notes of tribal belonging, devotion and ancestral worship.

Whereas you have to realise that for other people, it's a tiresome little hobby involving boorish behaviour and the blinkered expectation that people will rearrange things of importance for them purely because you think it's a 'religious event'. That's not that hard to grasp, is it?

Cuddlysnowleopard · 19/05/2019 18:24

We got married on FA Cup final day,many years ago. We timed to meal around it, and out it on in the bar.

My DS got married on the day of an Olympic 100m sprint final, and we timed the wedding around it.

I've been to many weddings when a screen has been put up in a bar - most people pop in and out to check the score, the hardcore watch the game.

The risk of not showing it, is a lot of people will simply not be concentrating on the wedding anyway, they'll be trying to watch the match.

GPatz · 19/05/2019 18:25

I guess it's handy to work out who your real friends are.

HipHopTheHippieToTheHipHipHop · 19/05/2019 18:26

The boys will be watching the match whatever the bride and groom say. Either a tv can be put by the bar and they can do it openly then switch it off at full time or they can watch surreptitiously with people disappearing off, looking at their phones under the table, trying not to cheer the goals etc.

The bride and groom will be too absorbed in their big day to notice what the guests are up to anyway

user1471590586 · 19/05/2019 18:28

I'm not a massive football fan but I think they are being unreasonable in not wanting people to watch the game. If they had a TV near the bar it would add to the atmosphere, especially as it coincides with the evening do. Surely when hosting a wedding you want your guests to have a good time not have them resent the fact that they are there.

Tixytrick · 19/05/2019 18:30

If you are a Liverpool fan, you will be watching it. That’s just the way it is. Better to have it on at the venue and hope
It doesn’t go to ET and pens!!

minniebirdy · 19/05/2019 18:31

I can’t believe that people are so self obsessed as to think their personal affairs, I.e. their wedding, would take precedence over a major sporting event. Of course the football match is much more important and the club will last much longer than their marriage. Having said that, Tottenham will win.

blackshadow · 19/05/2019 18:32

My ds was born on the night Liverpool won the champions league in 2005. Our midwife asked us if we minded a tv in the room whilst I was in labour so that we could all watch the game. My hubby and I are both footy fans but not Liverpool but it was a massive game and we were happy to watch and it took a lot of the stress/ fear away. My DS's confirmation of birth letter from the hospital also includes that he was born on the night Liverpool won the Champions League! - a night we will never forget 25/05/05. I think the B&G need to embrace it

Stars2theside · 19/05/2019 18:32

Whilst I agree with you, OP, that it's rude to leave, I think it's massively out of order that the couple getting married are trying to ban the whole thing! I asked my OH and he flat out said, he wouldn't go to the wedding. He'd say, sorry but as you're trying to control what I do with my time, I'm going to take control back. He reckons if enough people do the same, they'd soon lift the ban. It really is extremely petty for them to do such a thing. I'm sure most people at the wedding will take an interest. They just need to accept it, and I suspect it's more the bride being a bit of a bridezilla, than the groom too. We're Arsenal fans, and are cheering on Liverpool. I hope your DH and his friends get to watch the match!

HeronLanyon · 19/05/2019 18:34

Please please can we stop casual nonsensical sexism on this thread. It’s not ‘the boys’ who will be watching. Do women football fans just not matter? Are we invisible?.
FFS !! Come on everyone !!!

Papellino · 19/05/2019 18:36

The match is happening and it sounds like a large proportion of the wedding guests are very eager to watch the match.

The bride and groom can

a) be pissed off about this and make a futile attempt to control the guests
b) adapt to accommodate the football fans

And that's it.

Straysocks · 19/05/2019 18:38

So, not to detail the thread but just on the religious comparison - the experience of hope, faith, worship, devotion is beautiful. It also let's us know how others feel. Yes, there is too much money and politics in football and yes it is essentially watching one team take a ball from another but it is such more. Just trying to let explain why this would seem so important to many guests those who don't see it. Apologies to those who feel offended, I also have another (more recognised) religion.

ferrier · 19/05/2019 18:39

Say 'tiresome little hobby' all you like, blinker yourself to the quasi-religious nature of the experience, but at least accept that if you expect guests at a wedding not to participate in the biggest event of English club football in over ten years, then you'll lose your guests.
I probably watch one football match every two years or so and perhaps a couple more in a World Cup year. This will be the one I will watch and if I was at a wedding I'd still want to watch it.
And no, recording it doesn't work. It's a shared cultural experience.

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