Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

I give zero fucks about football, but dh is a massive spurs fan and said he wouldn't attend the wedding to watch the game

@Whoops 75, not this season they're not. Lost one in the prem, Allison got Golden Gloves, Salah and Mane shared golden boot and Virgil Van Duke (swoon) won PFA player of the year.

Not too shabby

our season isn't over yet, there's still the Charity Shield'

Let's hope not otherwise this is the longest season ever lol.

Sure be fine regardless. End of the day win.. Party.. Lose... Meh Party. The mood if ends up be a loss shouldn't effect their day and if guests are to grumpy to come back shouldn't bother go back.

For those suggesting this is a once in a lifetime match, this will in fact be the 13th European final Liverpool have been in in the last 50 years, and nine of them have been European Cup/Champions League finals, so hardly once in a lifetime. Whereas for the bride & groom hopefully their wedding genuinely will be once in a lifetime.

For those suggesting the bride & groom should have planned it differently, if they booked it two years ago as OP said they did then the date of the 2019 CL final wouldn't have even been known. And the fact Liverpool were going to be in that final wasn't even known til 10 days ago (indeed if you'd asked anyone a fortnight ago if they thought Liverpool would've been in the final, with them 3-0 down to Barcelona the answer would probably have been no).

Bride and groom have spent years planning this, and sent the invites out months ago, and now only in the last fortnight a better offer has come up. If it were a better offer that wasn't a football match, would people be so forgiving?

ADropofReality exactly! Wedding went to last year was on the day of the final and the groom was a Liverpool fan as was most of his family. They never thought and the dates weren't out when booking.
Didn't have any effect though. Most people stayed around and the mood was fine.

Unless your a fan you wouldn't know dates to avoid and really May with FA Cup final, play offs etc is a month to avoid.

'If it were a better offer that wasn't a football match, would people be so forgiving?'

Some would

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3581211-AIBU-to-ask-if-this-would-piss-you-off-Wedding-guest-related

I am the parent of a HUUUUUGGGGEE Spurs fan and there is no way I would make him do anything else instead of watching this game. It means the world to him. He is 7.

OP knows and doesn’t care.

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I went a wedding last year in a remote country place with no Wi-Fi or sky services, they booked a barbecue for the 2nd day, there was a big match on, all the guests left the venue, guests went from 90 to 12 on the 2nd day.
I are both sides, I know DP wouldn't miss this match to save our lives.

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People get really stupid about football. Lucky for me DH isn't interested and only watches sport he doesn't mind catching up with later if needed. Problem is so many people adore football it makes you seem like a misery to not accommodate them. My uncle was watching football at my sister's wedding on his phone a few years ago... at least he came to the wedding though! I think the bride and groom are unreasonable if they think die hard fans are going to miss the game but said fans are also unreasonable for prioritising it over a loved ones wedding. I tried to make sure no major sporting events were likely to clash with our wedding date as the whole thing would annoy me!

When journalists take a pierce from MN or elsewhere i am presuming they don’t do any research. No wonder there is do much fake news. What happened to journalists doing their job and doing their own research.

Oh God, not this again. It's an interesting and topical thread. People have given their views of their own free will. There is no research to be done. It's all here. A journalist from the Daily Mirror online has picked it up. We can't all be John Pilger.

What do you do for a living, btw Oliversmumsarmy when you're not on Mumsnet along with thousands of other people.

I wasn’t suggesting there would be a riot or vest wearing or father-punching in the event of a loss. But so many people have suggested that a win will make it a great party which to me seemed to imply that a loss would dampen spirits - so not only will the reception not gather momentum whilst people are watching the match, if they all come back miserable then it will never get going. Either way, it’s a shame for the bride and groom that the evening is defined by a match they don’t care about on a day they’ve planned and spent a lot of money on and presumably hoped their friends and family would enjoy as well. I think it’s ridiculous so many people think a game of anything takes precedence over that but I can see that plenty of people consider football to be more important than anything. Which I think is a shitty attitude.

I’d be scooting off to watch the match myself.

It's not a shitty attitude CaptainBrickbeard

The wedding starts at 11am. Nine hours later at 8pm is a more than reasonable point for people to want to go home, football or no football.

After an entire day at a wedding people are starting to flag a bit. Sitting down chatting and watching the match keeps the guests there enjoying themselves whilst also relaxing. A lot of all day guests would leave the evening party early anyway. A 90 min sit down for those that want it could be a nice breather without really affecting anything much.

where do you draw the line on this sort of thing? wedding, funeral? birth of your child? child's graduation? Is a team reaching the final of a game really a "once in a lifetime" event.

I'd imagine for most people there's a big gap between friend's wedding and birth of own child.

I would show the match. It's a massive massive game. Make it part of the day

The match kicks off at 8pm so totally acceptable for anyone who’s interested to want to watch it. First time in 11 years that both finalists are English sides.

Are the B&G expected to personally be at every guests side all night ..... just let whoever wants to see the match watch it, it’s hardly gonna ruin anyone’s day is it ?

@ADropofReality

For those suggesting the bride & groom should have planned it differently, if they booked it two years ago as OP said they did then the date of the 2019 CL final wouldn't have even been known. And the fact Liverpool were going to be in that final wasn't even known til 10 days ago (indeed if you'd asked anyone a fortnight ago if they thought Liverpool would've been in the final, with them 3-0 down to Barcelona the answer would probably have been no).

Dates for major sporting events such as this are generally set a long time in advance, as much to avoid clashes of major events as anything else. Given that it is easy enough to find out the dates of the 2020 and 2021 CLF (venues will be announced in September 2019), I would be very surprised if the dates were not known when the wedding was being planned. When Dh and I married, before the internet, mobile phones etc, we were able to find out dates of major sporting events around our preferred date, so we were able to avoid clashes. If it was possible almost 40 years ago, I'm absolutely certain it's possible now. If the b&g chose not to check this kind of thing, especially as they are in Liverpool, a city that has had a great deal if success in international club competition over the years, then that's their decision to take. Just as it's their guest's decision to disappear to watch their team play. This final IS once in a lifetime - for two English clubs to be the finalists is amazing. I would understand if people who were football fans, regardless of which team they support, want to watch what is actually a historic game.

Out of the 200 guests there will probably be a good proportion that will be in Madrid so unable to attend anyway. I hope the B & G reconsider and make it part of their day. Its at the time that there is a normal lull in the celebrations anyway and a win will make their wedding even more special.

It’s at 8pm usually the in between time with day time duties completed and evening guests just arriving, nobody dancing and everyone sitting about. No harm sticking it on at the bar or people watching it. It’s not going to disrupt any formal proceedings or the main evening.