Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

DH has had a message from the groom sent to all his mates who he knows are LFC supporters and they can work it out between them, as far as I'm aware it's all friendly.

Is this difference to the notice you mentioned they’d put out in your OP? If so, what does the groom’s message say?

Mumsnet really need to do something about this before it ruins the site.

close the forum?
Maybe one day people will realise that anything they publish on the internet is in the public domain. Many are actively trying to seek publicity, and would love to be picked up by the DM and the rest.

Boorish behaviour? What a ridiculous generalisation. My family are football mad, certainly not 'boorish'

Nobody suggested they are. If you'd read it properly, I wrote "if" watching the match would involve boorish behaviour ... as I've said repeatedly we don't know the people, so I allowed for all choices around how to carry on

Wasn't it OP, though, who suggested her DH could record the match to watch later and got "the look"? A bit surprising, perhaps, that it's so often been the B&G who've been criticised for not compromising ...

I'll go against the grain and say the bride and groom are being unreasonable.
Haven't read the whole thread but...

How the fuck to you know if you’re going against the grain if you haven’t RTFT?

When journalists take a pierce from MN or elsewhere i am presuming they don’t do any research.

No wonder there is do much fake news.

What happened to journalists doing their job and doing their own research.

What happened to people not plastering their complaints about weddings they are attending all over public sites?

I wouldn’t worry about being identified OP as you haven’t said anything derogatory about the B&G, haven’t said anything particularly identifiable about you or your DH and have only quoted a blanket email so I can’t see that you’ve done anything wrong. Liverpool is a large city and I’m sure there’s plenty of weddings on that day.

I've not RTFT but, for me personally I would rather have guests at my wedding watching the football rather than half my guests not turn up because they chose to watch the match instead. I mean I hate football with a passion but for football fans I get that they are important, especially a big match such as this one, if it was just a basic match I could understand the ban, but the home team at a big match such as this one, they will end up with hardly any guests I reckon.

@SillyLittleBiscuit I'm with you......COYS!!

They won't stop them watching it, so they might as well embrace it.

I’ve been to a Greek wedding years ago and there was an important football match on and the bride and groom put a big TV screen in the wedding hall so the guests could watch it. It was fantastic of them and they informed everyone beforehand which was a relief to all the guests and they all appreciated it. Some people like to make their guests happy and others are self absorbed. If Liverpool win this match (which I really hope they do!) people will be talking about it for years. And if your husband misses it he will resent whoever made him miss it. Recording the match is not the same, because he’s in Liverpool and the minute he steps out of the venue he will know what the score was. It’s not the same as going through the emotions as it plays live. Your friends wedding on the other hand will not be talked about for years, it’ll be forgotten in a week. Let him watch the match, the wedding couple are clearly selfish. They could easily let people watch it in the venue bar or something.

@lazypuppy I'm with you.
Of course it's rude and irrelevant to the couple's bug day but coming from a big football supporting family I know what my usually reasonable husband, sons and brothers would do....
And I suspect they all the supporters will leave and find somewhere to watch the game. Regardless of their message.
We checked fixtures before planning our wedding for this very reason. Was world cup year and I didn't want people leaving or watching a match at my wedding (husband incl)

and I’m sure there’s plenty of weddings on that day

There’s probably only this one though where the bride and groom have banned anyone asking to watch, watching or leaving to watch the match!

My DH is a massive football fan, there's no way he would miss as big a game as this for an evening reception. It's not interfering with the actual ceremony or main reception so I really don't see their issue. Also all those saying they can record the match and watch it later - it's not the same and I don't know any football fan that would be happy to do that

And obv coys

Asked my DH his opinion (Liverpool fan) he misses matches regularly, days out with our children and I..very happy for us all to go to bed and match MOTD in peace.
But he said under no circumstances would he miss the Champions league final! All the official part is over by 8pm..he said the bride and groom are beyond unreasonable 😂 he said if a television was put in a separate room and Liverpool won..it would make for the best wedding evening party ever after!
I suspect either men will be hiding in the toilets the whole match, watching it on their phones..or suddenly ill and have to go home!

Op you are hardly identifiable - don't worry about it being in the media. It might make the B&G realise the importance of the game over watching people making a shown of themselves on a dance floor

Everyone saying ‘if Liverpool win it will be a great party’ - how do you envisage what’s left of the evening reception playing out if Liverpool lose???

CaptainBrickbeard Everyone will just get really pissed 😂

Oh let me guess captainbrickbeard . Because it's in Liverpool you envisage everyone suddenly turning into mad, drunken louts who rip up the hotel and punch the bride's father. Followed by all the men changing into their vests, downing 10 points of Stella then giving their wives a good beating.

Or maybe people will be disappointed, have a few more drinks and enjoy the rest of the wedding

They’re used to losing

Could mumsnet not copyright the content to stop the rags lifting it?

I'm not a football fan but even I get how important this game is.

It's a represents a relatively small slot in the day and the timing isn't likely to clash with any big moments in the wedding.

The reality is you won't be able to stop committed fans watching it.

They'll not attend at all, sneak off to the pub, or watch it on iPads/phones.

It's far better to embrace it and make it part of the day.

Yes the day is about the B&G, but a large part of a successful wedding is accommodating the needs of the guests.

In the same way you can choose to have the day remembered as one where there was no/crappy food because you invited too many people without being willing to pay to feed them properly you can also choose to be remembered for banning the football and half the guests leaving to go to the pub.

Or you can put it on a big screen and have the day remembered for being such a good sport and hopefully a Liverpool win which would provide an amazing atmosphere for the rest of the evening.

I've been to more than one wedding on FA Cup final day where there has been a TV available for those who want to watch it. At one of those the groom got loads of stick for being so short-sighted as to schedule his wedding that day given that he and loads of his family and friends are football fans.

My own wedding had a football theme (DH and I support different teams) and we arranged for the radio to be playing Sports Report for people to listen to the results and match reports (this was before smartphones) when they were arriving at the reception venue and mingling/getting a drink.

Of course your friends' wedding day is about them, but this is a massive deal for a lot of people so they are just going to cause resentment if they can't work around it. The match doesn't kick off until the evening so unless that's bang in the middle of the meal/formalities they are just going to lose people to it.

Could mumsnet not copyright the content to stop the rags lifting it?

Mumsnet want this to happen. It drives more traffic to the site.

And they can’t ‘copyright’ content written by other people, or stop journalists reporting on it.

People here (especially on the busiest boards like AIBU) need to have it in their heads at all times that you never post here unless you’re prepared for the whole world to read it

Everyone saying ‘if Liverpool win it will be a great party’ - how do you envisage what’s left of the evening reception playing out if Liverpool lose???

They'll get on with partying and say 'oh well, we made two CL finals in two consecutive years' or words to that effect and 'our season isn't over yet, there's still the Charity Shield'

We can all see that you can't even contemplate a fan of football behaving in a civilised manner though.

The main bit is the actual vows, which won't be affected nor will the speeches and meal.

There will be no impact on the actual 'wedding'.

The boring arse party is just an extra bit which not everybody is bothered about. The blanket ban was a major cock up, should have said nothing and it would have been fine.