Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

I didn't RSVP to a wedding invite I'd received for bank holiday Monday as it's the play off finals and I didn't know if I'd be able to go. I'll be at Wembley, not a wedding.

wedding is fr more important than a football match. I'd be furious if I was paying to feed my guests etc, and they were more interested in some over paid and under talented men kicking a ball around

What has paying to feed your guests to do with it? The football isn't on till 8pm, the meal will be long over! Your petty comment about footballers is pathetic to. I dont follow football but some people here really can't help themselves.

Their vision of their day is fucked by the selfishness and immaturity of everyone who perpetuates this deference to football.

It's difficult to say who's more selfish and immature. "Vision of the day"? "Their" day?

People getting married isn't a state ceremony and it hardly affects most guests' lives, who tend to be more invested in their clubs than other people's lives.

It's possible to find a middle ground.

We once went to a wedding coinciding with a big rugby match of interest to many of the guests. The church and hotel were remote and it was pre the days of smart phones so no chance of seeing it at all. People kept popping in and out to listen in their cars and then coming back and whispering about the state of play.
It was crass behaviour and of course a marriage ceremony should be taken seriously . This situation sounds different to me in that , presumably the formal parts will be over .

I don’t give a fuck about football.

But if I had an event that clashed with the final, I’d chat with my Spurs-mad brother & nephew about making sure they could watch it if they came.

The B&G do sound like twats though. Fair enough they don't want to screen the match, however to send out a message like that and tell people that they can't do something, in the evening after the ceremony has finished, makes them sound massively hard work. They must have zero self awareness, as I bet the guests are all slagging them off privately now.

A wedding I went to provided a tv which was set up in the corner of a marquee.

It didn’t separate the space so people were chatting and watching the action. Then as soon as it was over they returned to the party.
No big deal and the wedding was talked about years later as being one of the best weddings people had been to because they were able to watch the football (World Cup) and drink champagne whilst being at a big party.

Weddings come and go.

All bar one of the weddings I have attended (I have been to many) have all broken up so chances are there will be other Big Days for both the B&G

Liverpool playing in the Champions League is probably a once in a life time

The mistake the B&G have made is to invite lots of people to their party who don't care that much about them.

If someone is important to you, you would want to spend the day celebrating with them and be happy for that to be the focus, whatever else is going on elsewhere.

Only close friends and family are likely to feel like that.

Once you've added a load of acquaintances, colleagues and distant family, you've created a cohort with different priorities and the wedding ceases to be that important.

If you accept a wedding invitation that includes the whole day for which rooms, entertainment and catering have been arranged, it is bloody rude to decide to pick and choose which bits you want to be there for.

If some people would rather see the match than go to the wedding, they should withdraw politely from the wedding, let the B&G know (with a graceful apology) and watch the match from their chosen location.

Future relationships are going to be damaged either way but, at least the B&G will know in advance if people withdraw and can plan accordingly.Hopefully that will be less upsetting than people disappearing and the whole focus of their celebration suddenly turning to football for the evening.

I think it's a shame we've managed to build football up to the point where a bunch of blokes you don't know kicking a ball around a field is so important people would even consider watching it at a wedding but we have so there's little point fighting it.

My friend got married on the day of one of the England games last year. I’m not particularly fussed about football but I idly wondered beforehand if they were planning to show the match and I got properly told off (by a few of our mutual friends) How could I even think of watching a football match at their wedding, of course they weren’t going to show it, shame on me.

On the day I was one of about 5 people who didn’t slink off to watch it, including the bride and groom by the end!

Given that this is the evening not the actual ceremony, meal or speeches then I cant see anything wrong with having it on or people watching on their phones. The evening is a party, people sit around chatting and drinking occasionally venturing to the dance floor when Mr Bright side gets played. All of this can be done at the same time as a match is being watched on a tv

@User12038483 Just seen on FB that the Echo have posted this thread and some of the comments. Just wanted to give you a heads up if you aren't already aware 🤦🏻‍♀️

Did not think this was interesting enough to make the news... I might be in some trouble

Shouldn't you be a bit more concerned about it? The bride and groom will be livid.

Eek-how many invitees do you think there are?

I think they have worded it wrong but I don’t blame the B and G entirely. It is rude as a guest to essentially say you have a better offer and will sneak off to watch that than be there at someone’s wedding.

I don’t agree couples if they aren’t sports fans should consider sporting dates when picking a date. Of course if they are into sports then naturally they would check. But I can’t blame a couple who presumably aren’t into football for not considering two years ago that Liverpool may or may not be in the champions league final and amend their date.

I don’t care for football but it has been said on here a few times that Liverpool in the Champions league isn’t once in a lifetime. Didn’t someone say their eight year old daughter has had this happen twice in her life already??

It may be a huge game for some but perhaps the B and G don’t want their reception ruined by people whinging if their team has lost. I know on the other side by not allowing it to be shown there is a risk of a bad atmosphere anyway but that would be rude I think of the guests.

perhaps the B and G don’t want their reception ruined by people whinging if their team has lost

People will know if the game has been lost anyway though-unless the bride and groom are planning on confiscating mobile phones on entry to the venue so people can’t receive any texts, calls or 4g. They can’t ban people knowing about it!

What they will do is become the twats that imposed ridiculous social media bans at their wedding that people talk about!

I suspect once they see this has made the papers, things will kick off!

Wot @Nagsnovalballs said

Wedding as a once in a lifetime thing - until the divorce - well Liverpool reaching the final is pretty much once in a lifetime. It’s 90mins. If they had been clever about it, they’d have made it part of the day so it’s part of the celebration, especially as their guests are FROM Liverpool and the surrounding area.

I appreciate that it's the bride and groom's "day", but do they really not care about the comfort and pleasure of the guests?

If the final were being screened during the vows, I would understand their concern around the clash. Instead it will be happen during the evening.

Embracing it, recognising how these matches allow people, especially men, to show public emotion in a way that it not otherwise accepted, would add to their wedding, not detract from it.

If they went with it, very few of the watchers would ever forget the date of their wedding. Do they really want them to remember it as the date we missed the final?

People will mostly either enjoy a disco or watching such a big match. If the bride could be brought to see that these emotions are very similar to those felt for a wedding, expressed in preparations and having a perfect day.

There is really only a competition if she chooses to make it so, much better to embrace it as alternative communal entertainment for the guests, rather than have everyone slope off individually to watch in their own rooms.

@PCohle Not much I can do now. Didn't post with any malicious intent, was just asking for opinions on the subject.

Surely this thread is completely identifiable!?

Well if it was me I'd ask to have the thread removed given how identifiable you've made yourself and your husband. But then you don't seem very fussed about being rude.

Who books their wedding on the day of the Champions League final!?

Why is everyone assuming this decision has come from the bride? My DH has zero interest in football, while I don’t like it I can appreciate how fun it is to watch a live match. When I told my DH about this thread he said immediately that he wouldn’t want people to prioritise football over the wedding.

It's in the press (which I didn't expect in the slightest) I didn't really think at this point taking it down will make any difference, if they're going to see it they're going to see the articles and not mumsnet. DH has had a message from the groom sent to all his mates who he knows are LFC supporters and they can work it out between them, as far as I'm aware it's all friendly. I've not said a bad word about the bride or groom, I simply wanted peoples opinions and stated several times I didn't want DH to leave the wedding, but was aware how many people were likely to do so, if they decide to shove a tele on in a side bar now and prevent that happening then win win. I'm not a rude or malicious person in the slightest. I said myself I get they want the wedding to be about them, understandably, but 200 scousers would not of all stayed at that wedding if they weren't allowed to watch.

@User12038483 I don't think you need to defend yourself. It's obvious from your original post that it was not done maliciously. Don't rise to the people looking for an argument. None of us post on here expecting the story to end up in the press. How anyone can tell if you are upset or not is ridiculous. Hope everything works out X

Deny everything op

Mumsnet really need to do something about this before it ruins the site.