Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

Crying laughing at the suggestions of watching it the next day and avoiding the score!!

Fairly sure there was an episode of the Likely Lads where they tried to avoid a football score.

If someone had told me I couldn't leave an event (yes, even their wedding) when I wanted to, or look at my phone, for whatever reason, whilst I was there, I just wouldn't go.

Their party, so they can decide the rules of attending but if the invitation now comes with a strict behaviour code, it's fine to revise your decision and not turn up. IMO.

It's not really a "strict behaviour code" to expect your guests not to sack off and watch TV during an event. I would expect that to more or less go without saying...

You were invited to a wedding (without football).

You RSVP'd yes to a wedding (without football).

You can't now kick off because you're going to a wedding (without football).

No, I can't.

But I can watch Son, Kane, Salah or Mane kick off.

I'll go against the grain and say the bride and groom are being unreasonable.

You haven't read the thread. The grain is pretty much split 50/50.

To everyone saying its just a game, its the fucking champions league final!!!!!! If youre team are playing in it then you are going to watch it at any cost! COYS!!!!!

Honestly, they’ll find a local pub and watch it there, they’ll then return to the wedding. Drunk, and either happy or sad. But you’ll not stop a scouser watching such an important a game. You can choose to include it or accept this, you have no other option

BadLad too funny 😂

A wedding is fr more important than a football match. I'd be furious if I was paying to feed my guests etc, and they were more interested in some over paid and under talented men kicking a ball around.

@Toddlerteaplease arrange any future weddings around important football matches :)

I attended a wedding on a big match day which began with the priest saying 'well let's get on with it - we all want to watch the match'

PMSL

I couldn't give a shit about football BUT if it was going to be such a big deal to my guests I would show it since it's at 8pm rather than clashing with the ceremony.

Plus I find weddings a bit long and tedious so it would be something to do!

Shame the match organisers can't move the game to co-incide with the endless b&g photoshoot. All the guests would be glad of something to watch whilst that was going on and it seems to take about the same amount of time. Plus the gusts probably wouldn't even be missed

Oh dear.. I think it is a bit much to tell people they can’t leave or watch it on their devices but I totally understand not wanting to put it on the screen for them.

I personally wouldn’t be best pleased if a big chunk of my guests went off to watch football and if they lose god help them with their mood as I’ve seen grown men cry as if it’s been a death of a beloved one over a game loss, and I wouldn’t want that at my wedding, however I know this is a lifetime once in a blue moon game, my son supports Liverpool and he has been warning me since last week to not make any plans with him like family functions or taking me shopping after 1pm as he’s going to watch football, so to many supporters this match this wedding will have zero importance compared to the game and would probably prefer to stay home to be with fellow supporters, so I guess it is a case of suck it up because I think due to this particular game if you anyone says “you can’t...” they will just go anyway ( like what op husband is doing) making her more pissed that they didn’t respect her wishes.

That said it KO is at 8pm usually by then the main bits like speeches and first dance are over and 8pm is usually where everyone is at that merry stage, dancing about,chatting and doing their own thing anyway so me personally now I think about it I would probably stick it on and let them watch it, as I don’t think it’s a totally unreasonable want from the supporters taking into consideration the time it is on and the significance of THIS particular match had it been a 3pm KO and just a regular game then no I wouldn’t put it on

I hadn't realised that it. Was just coinciding with the dancing/ party bit of the wedding when I replied . I too think they should embrace it and have a big screen up. It could be good fun and will please the guests and stop people leaving. It isn't interfering with the wedding as such.

I had booked a surprise romantic weekend away for my husband but as soon as Spurs reached the final I cancelled it. There's no point paying for an expensive hotel room if we're going to be watching the telly all evening! COYS.
I notice that all the people on this thread agreeing with B&G have stated they have no interest in football and that's why they don't get it. I don't think anyone who enjoys football would even consider missing it especially if support spurs or Liverpool.

Sorry, haven't RTFT (Eurovision hangover).

I'm a bit of a hypocrite because I'd not have liked this at our much smaller than 200 people wedding, but I think it could work really well.

One of the reasons we loved ours and others weddings in particular was that the venue afforded room for different entertainment. Chilled areas, good outdoor space, a dancefloor, separate bar area.

I spent time with my parents chilled out with a dog in front of a log fire, with my baby nephew playing "sensory" in a quiet lounge, dancing, chatting, all sorts.

We took the approach of "happy guests = happy wedding".

I wouldn't like it as the only thing, but as a side thing, it would be a way to spread out the fun. And it would also significantly improve the day of the NON watchers!

Sorry, I do get why your DH is pissed off. I would be. This is a massive game. It doesn't kick off till 8pm so after much of the wedding I assume?

If I were the couple I'd put it in a room on a screen and join in! 😁 or at least acknowledge it's on.

I was about to say I do when England scored and the guests started to chant Shearer! The DW and I are massive football fans though.

I remember that match Parky04. We were in a pub with friends, one of whom really looked like Alan Shearer, except much smaller.

Shearer scored and everyone went crazy shouting 'Shearer! Shearer!'

Then someone pointed to Bob and shouted 'Shearer!' and people picked him up and he was crowdsurfing. It was brilliant. What a day. And a lovely day for you and your wife.

I can see both sides of the argument but at the end of the day the couple should probably have checked any possible clash like this before booking the wedding.

The best compromise is to put it on in the bar area rather than piss everyone off. People will either leave or be glued to their phones otherwise.

If it was my wedding my biggest issue would be not the match itself but everyone being in a foul mood if they lost.

My friend had this last year. Same as your situation, most people were from Liverpool or nearby. My friend was brilliant and knew it would be important to people, so the game was put on in one room. Obviously we lost but everyone carried on partying afterwards. I think the bride and groom are being a bit ridiculous to blanket ban it, and they will have people not come or leave in order to watch the match. Yes is not ideal but it’s one of those things and you just have to embrace it, or plan your wedding out of football season.

I think it's hard to avoid clashes unless your into the sport. As a football fan I'd know to avoid May just incase but wouldn't cross my mind to check dates of other sports. My friend definitely wouldn't as she doesnt follow football.

Depends on them really or how in advanced the wedding was booked. If years in advance dates aren't always out.

What does YNWU mean?

Tell the bride and groom to read Behind the Scenes at the Museum in which a wedding takes place the day when England won the World Cup. Their vision of their day is fucked by the selfishness and immaturity of everyone who perpetuates this deference to football. What a shame for them!

I think everyone should read Behind The Scenes at the Museum CaptainBrickbeard. It's one of my favourite books and I've read it many times.

If you remember rightly, the World Cup Final is just one of the many incidents on Ted and Sandra's disastrous day. It's a funny book but nNot a good example to bring up, because most readers would not be on the bride's side.

AfterSchoolWorry YNWA is you'll never walk alone