Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

it's a football match that will be heavily reported/recordable/reported upon.

Completely missing the point!

I watch one football match approximately once every couple of year. So not exactly a massive fan of the sport. But if I were the bride and groom I'd just get on and try to make the best of it, incorporate the game into the evening and hope everyone had a rip roaring time. I would not issue orders as to what people could and couldn't do.

DH would have cancelled our own wedding if it was the same day. To be fair though, I would want to watch it too. If it was my wedding I’d probably just embrace it, screen it, then move on

Not particularly invested in either team but as a Man U fan then I can categorically say that watching us win the champions league (against Bayern) was one of the biggest highs of my life. Something I will never ever forget. When I planned my wedding, all I wanted to focus on was how to make it as an enjoyable day for my guests as possible. I would've bent over backwards to accommodate something like this. The thought that people were harbouring resentment at being at my wedding would completely ruin my day anyway.

The bride and groom know what will happen so will have to lump it, they won't show it so people will leave and come back. Unfortunate for them but that's how it is

It’s not just men that like sport fgs.

If either were my team, I’d slope off to watch a good portion of it.

Long as the result doesn't impact if its a Spurs win don't see the big issue. Maybe it was a small wedding but with 200 guests won't notice if a small lot go off

Then again been to weddings where its been in a barn etc so no telly/BT sport so definitely no way of showing it there so people would have to go elsewhere.

I just want to say.... fuck off daily fail and you mumsnet thread-harvesting twats of pretend journos. Go somewhere else for your free article fodder

Just because I can see this ending up on the daily fail online

It's already on the Daily Mirror.

I can just imagine the emails and texts flying around this city tonight- "who was it? You complete set of bastards" whilst compiling a list of "suspects" and ticking off those who don't fit the bill.

I would try and get this pulled op, as much as it has been a fascinating read I would try and do some damage limitation here and pretend you're a nethun instead

Not particularly invested in either team but as a Man U fan then I can categorically say that watching us win the champions league (against Bayern) was one of the biggest highs of my life. Something I will never ever forget.
Yup. Being in Liverpool for the 2005 final, even as a non-fan, is up there as one of the most memorable nights of my life. Can't imagine the poor Liverpool fans that missed it for a wedding reception (if indeed there were any...)

The OP is about the male members of her family being upset about the clash. So, in this instance it is about men wanting to watch football.

How do they plan on police people watching it on their devices...it can't be stopped so embrace it! It's a huge event!

Crying laughing at the suggestions of watching it the next day and avoiding the score!!

No reason for the wedding not to be in full swing before and after the match and possibly during!!!

I do have some sympathy for the B&G as I do think it will overshadow their evening reception no matter what they do, although the idea of a 'blanket ban' on an international event is misguided at best, utterly deluded at worst.

I am Scouse. Football is a big thing in Liverpool. If they are having the reception in one of the larger town centre hotels then it will have a showing in a public bar, so there will be roars in the background anyway, unavoidable really.

If the B&G is expecting everyone staying to turn up for some kind of group breakfast/brunch the following day then it might be a bit awkward tbh (they may be expecting everyone to treat it as a two-day event). But yes, guests will leave. They may well wish guests had just sat there looking at their phones when they look back.

“Some people think football is a matter of life and death. I don't like that attitude. I can assure them it is much more serious than that.”

So said the legend that was/is Bill Shankly.

Liverpool fan here.

People have been waiting years for this to happen - do they expect them to be happy if they're missing it? They could integrate it into their day and use it as a thing to bring guests who don't know each other together. Obviously the guests also need to be respectful and keep the day about the couple, while keeping an eye on the score.

As said, perhaps the couple would actually prefer folk to leave if having them there means boorish behaviour?

Boorish behaviour? What a ridiculous generalisation. My family are football mad, certainly not 'boorish' and when my sister got married on an important football fixture she improvised at the reception by putting up a big screen tv so those interested could watch. 90 minutes out of an all day event isn't unreasonable, well not unless you're a control freak bridezilla

Oh my god, how many times has that FUCKING Bill Shankly quote been posted on this thread already?? It’s an incredibly twatty statement in itself, repeating it multiple times does not make it any more true!

Fair play, it's been years since Liverpool ever did anything so let them have their moment of glory.

"Form comes and goes but class is forever".

Yeah. Of course.

Nobody really cares about the wedding other than the couple and their immediate family. This football game is huge, especially if you follow one of the teams.

They should screen it and embrace it. If Liverpool win it will be a fantastic party. Nobody is going to record it and watch it later. It is not run of the mill league tie in the 1990s.

We had to drag guests away from the TV when we arrived at the reception. Fortunately, the race was a much shorter event. I would have been incensed if it had been a 90 minute footie match. It would have ruined our wedding day.

Like a couple of others, the thought of this has really amused me. A furious bride pulling her reluctant guests away from the Grand National by their arms, screaming "Get over here NOW, and take part in the official wedding fun".

I do realise that "drag" probably wasn't intended literally, of course.

The bride and groom should get over themselves. The majority of people don’t care about the actual sentiment of the 2 of them getting married, they are only going because they have to, or for a jolly. This is a huge match and if they just embraced it, they’ve got less chance of losing half of their guests at around 7.45pm

I'll go against the grain and say the bride and groom are being unreasonable.

Haven't read the whole thread but doingasurvey puts it perfectly. This isn't 'just' a football match, it's the Champions' League Final in a year when a British team has taken every one of the major Euro tournaments finalist spots. OK that second point isn't a big deal to me but it's heightened interest in the whole thing, to my mind. What would these blokes be doing if they weren't watching footie? Perhaps a few would be dancing but many will be chatting about blokey things to their friends; why not just give them a focus?!

Anyway they should have checked the major sporting fixtures for their date during the planning stage, and made sure there were no clashes, if they were that bothered.