Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

I'm a fairweather footie fan so I wouldn't want folk watching it at my wedding. If I'd paid money for a band or whatever, I'd be wanting folk in the room dancing, not huddled round a tv screen.

I get that it's a once in a lifetime blah blah blah but they could just stay off social media until the end of the wedding (11/12ish?) then rush home and watch the game then if they were that desperate.

CaptainButtock

People saying it's just a game are right really, it is just a game and it doesn't matter at all in the big scheme of things.

Exactly the same can be said of an evening do at a wedding.

Both things are just one of those nice things in life that people get to enjoy, and they can be hugely important to people, but neither are so important that there would be any problem or suffering if they didn't exist. Therefore, no one has the right to say which event should be more important for someone else.

Both evening do guest and football match viewer are equally valid things to be on a Saturday night, there is really no reason for the attitude of looking down on those that would choose football.

@peardrops1 so if your day happened to fall the same day as something else 'important' that wasn't important to you, you'd be happy for people to prioritise it over the day you'd spent months planning and paying for?

@Collaborate so if you'd be invited as an all day guest and had replied to say you were going, you'd now turn round and say that you actually weren't going after all?

This is a journo thread...

Expensive event
Snobbery
Inverse snobbery
Bridezilla
Chance to ruin someone's (aka a woman's) big day
Wedding
Combative pre-wedding warning with just the right hint of unreasonableness
No hint of compromise
Binary viewpoints

It's a wet dream for a newspaper's comments section. You could be forgiven for thinking this has all been made up to generate a clickbait story.

Guess the hard part for them also is it may not finish till say 11? Game starts at 8...may end at 945 or may not depending on the score. If extra time that's another 30 odd.. Then penalties. Then trophy lift. So sorta of get their point. Just unfortunate it landed on this date and the teams that are in it.
Then again if 200 guests won't just be left with a couple of people surely. And as long as the mood isn't effected depending if Spurs or Liverpool win. If was Chelsea I may not sneak away but definitely be following one way or the other.

Dont think you can ban people watching it on devices though seems very harsh!

Didn't this occur last year with the world Cup? Remember reading it on here. Same sort of divide... Blanket ban etc etc

Both evening do guest and football match viewer are equally valid things to be on a Saturday night, there is really no reason for the attitude of looking down on those that would choose football.

People make their choice when they reply to the invitation, once they agree to come, it's more than rude to change their mind to watch a game.
It's probably the one in a lifetime wedding of the bride and groom, so yes, their day is a little bit more important that the one games among many!

Landing on the moon, the fall of the Berlin Wall, A coronation, yes that would be exceptional event that you could include. A football match? Don't be ridiculous.

@Ginger1982 The thought of the B&G that they could control their guests to that extent is a game changer. Never heard of that before.

It's obsessive bs

Yep, changing your mind about an invitation you've already accepted because of a better offer is a shitty thing to do. Even if that better offer is a football match.

I am baffled that people thing a game of football is in anyway as important as a wedding though.

If I'd paid money for a band or whatever, I'd be wanting folk in the room dancing, not huddled round a tv screen

This is the tiresome thing about weddings, what about people who don’t like dancing?!

At ours we had the room with the music, a room for people to catch up on the footy and a quiet room.

It was fab and relaxed and people enjoyed it

I hate dancing, yet why is it that if I attend a wedding I'm supposed to act as if I like the music? This is music that's so loud that quite often I can't hear what people are saying unless they're shouting down my ear. How is that celebrating with the bride and groom?

Or be dragged up and forced to have 'fun' with a load of pissed women on the dance floor while the men watch the football on the telly, Collaborate? That's every wedding with a disco that I've ever attended.

I'm not a football fan but I understand it is ridiculous to say these fans should just record it. I'd choose to watch it too as an alternative to being forced to dance like a monkey.

This wedding sounds doomed.

Just read that Prince William missed the wedding today of Lady Gabriella Windsor because he's at the FA Cup Final.

I'm not a royalist, but one can probably assume the royals will do the correct thing etiquette-wise.

I.e. Wills didn't ask Lady Gabriella to screen the FA Cup at her reception!

*I'm not a royalist, but one can probably assume the royals will do the correct thing etiquette-wise.

I.e. Wills didn't ask Lady Gabriella to screen the FA Cup at her receptionI

It’s ok, his team wasn’t in the final so he probably wouldn’t

As it is, he’s in effect “at work” and so has to be there given he missed last year!

I’m a massive Liverpool fan...

Record the match and watch it later 😳😂😳😂😳😂

Not. A. Chance.

If I was a wedding guest, I would leave and watch the match at home/pub. It doesn’t start til 8pm, so presumably the guests will have spent most of the day there.

It’s not every year Liverpool get to a Champions League Final...oh wait 😀 Let’s hope we can bring home number 6.

If I'd paid money for a band or whatever, I'd be wanting folk in the room dancing, not huddled round a tv screen.

Dance, ,monkey, dance, eh Ginger1982

I don't like dancing. I'm no good at it. It fills me with horror. Therefore there was no enforced dancing or music at my wedding reception. I like drinking, so I put the money I saved on a DJ behind the bar.

@Collaborate yeah I agree that the B&G are being shortsighted about completely banning the match but my point to you was don't you think it would be rude to have accepted an all day invite to then say 'actually I'm not coming to your wedding, the football is more important?'

Couple of years ago, I was staying in cheap chain hotel with teh DCs for a weekend. On the Sunday morning, a group of men came down for breakfast and a woman sat on one table said "the bride was so angry with you lot!" one of the men said "She wouldn't let them put the rugby on, we had to go to the pub! We meant to come back, but the beer was much cheaper than the venue and it was a better party in there so we stayed!"

If it was during the actual wedding or the meal, she'd probably get people accepting it's fair enough, but the evening party isn't going to cut it.

She can either lose half her guests going home early/sneeking off to watch it - or she can embrace it, have it on in the bar, have a big party atmosphere. She can't make people stay for the evening do/turn up at 8.

Are you close enough to the couple to call and say, "I think you should know, a lot of guests are going to end up leaving early so they can catch the 2nd half at least, they'll give you other excuses, but you might want to think if you'd rather have the evening do effectively end before 9 or put it on in the bar, or see if the venue can put it on a screen in a side room. If Liverpool win, it'll be a great atmosphere for you and they'll be dancing all night, but people who've left early to watch it won't come back afterwards."

If I'd paid money for a band or whatever, I'd be wanting folk in the room dancing, not huddled round a tv screen

But they want to be around the TV screen!
The think is, I can’t imagine many people choosing the football over the wedding, I think they’d just want to find a way to do both.
I feel Like by bringing attention to it, and making people choose, they’re going to probably go the other way!
Also, you don’t own people! Dancing is not having a good time for everyone!

@Ginger1982 There is a sensible compromise to be had. B&G were not willing to consider that.

I still remember exactly where I was in May 2005 when we won the CL in Istanbul. Since then I’ve attended a number of weddings, none of which I remember very much.

@YaBentBastard Too right!

If they were a bunch of Londoners then I’d totally side with the bride and groom.

The other team is Tottenham..

They've invited 200 people. There is absolutely no way there are 200 people that are close enough to this couple that the wedding is actually that important to them. If they'd invited just their nearest and dearest I can understand being upset that guests would be more bothered about a football game, but not in this situation

I think as it's in the evening the bride is being unreasonable.

If it was at 2pm, I'd suggest noone looks at their phones and to screen it in the evening. I don't really get why that would be such a ridiculous situation - my dad was a massive football fan, and he used to do this. And if there's a big group watching in the evening there'd still be a great atmosphere.

But it's in the evening anyway so it's a losing battle! Bride can't win so might as well embrace it.

I feel for her, I'd hate it. But better that than losing half the guests... My main worry would be the shit atmosphere if they lost!

How are people saying the guests are being rude.
They aren't obligated to stay till sunrise.
They've completed their promise.
They've gone to the ceremony, the meal, speeches and cake. Then they will probably decide to leave.

Isn't that what happens with every wedding?