Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

Puppy that will be worse for the couple. The kind of dickheads that prioritise a match over a wedding would also think nothing of wrecking the rest of the evening with their self-indulgent disappointment.

PuppyMonkey

You may not have thought that through fully.

fedup it was a typo, should have said royal instead of total! In response to the poster who said that a thread had come up arguing a couple should screen the royal wedding at their own wedding.

f it was a typo, should have said royal instead of total!

Doh, sorry-of course! Thank you, that makes sense!

Agree that people who don't follow football probably can't grasp how important this game is. It does really suck for the bride and groom.

Lots of the anti-football crew are saying it's stupid that grown men (and yes, WOMEN like me) get so caught up in football. Yes, maybe that's true but it misses the point. The point is not whether it should be important, but that it is important - and to many, many people. You can't dictate what other people should and should not care about.

It also seems a bit precious of the bride and groom to issue a decree reminding people the day is all about them. Weddings aren't always the huge treat for guests that some b&gs imagine (and I say this as someone currently planning her own wedding aaargh).

it's depressing that it had to be said. How would wedding guests even consider to watch the football at a wedding is unreal.

Where are basic manners gone? It's unbelievable how badly behaved people have become.

peardrop I get the perspective that right or wrong, it is important to people and that’s why I think the couple cannot win. They can’t have the day they want and their evening reception will inevitably be held hostage to the outcome.

But I think it’s important to challenge wherever possible the trite and damaging belief that football is ‘more important’ than life or death - a casual cliche that ends up with men thinking they can abandon their wives in childbirth or dictate someone else’s wedding. Sorry to stereotype, but it’s the men in the OP making these demands, not women. Perhaps there are female fans equally capable of selfish and shameful behaviour, but either way it should be challenged even if it’s futile.

peardrops1

Why does it deserve so much status just because it's popular?

It's the emotive connection that I find strange, and it doesn;t seem to extend to other activities.

186 million people will be watching the Eurovision song contest, it is popular too, but I can;d see it being screened at a wedding or having grown adults cry at the results.

Given you can't stop them, and it's not your wedding day, MI'd not worry.

I do agree that banning it was probably a bad move. OTOH, the b&g may be persuaded to compromise when they get a load of people saying they're not happy about the ban, or at least when a load of people disappear just before kick-off.

If they had been sensible they would have built it in to their plans as soon as they realised there was a clash, sent an email round saying something like they hope not everyone will disappear at 8pm but for people who feel they must watch then there'll be a screen available at X place, hope those hard-line fans will feel able to drop back in from time to time during the game....

Sound to me like they're a bit bride/groomzillas, this day is all about MEEEE

Putting a match above your friend or family’s wedding is not ok.

Oh, so now not only do the happy couple have to agree to let the guests watch the match, they also have to worry about them kicking off if the team loses. It just gets better and better.

@CaptainBrickbeard I do see your point. I'm not that keen on that level of fanaticism either - my ex-boyfriend was one of those types, and would get very melodramatic about results! I love football, but I can see it's still just a game. I suppose I'm differentiating between a big 'event' game like the Champions League Final (and I'm still absolutely amazed and delighted that my team are in the final - huge surprise) and a general obsession that dictates the terms of everyday life, which I know happens with some people. Agree we should challenge that kind of loss of perspective.

"They can watch it on catch-up" 😂The mind boggles - it's not a fucking episide of Midsomers Murders people! 😁

186 million people will be watching the Eurovision song contest, it is popular too, but I can;d see it being screened at a wedding

If people had wanted to watch it had it clashed with my wedding, it would have been fine. But then I didn’t think our wedding day was massively important to anyone but us!

The B&G have utterly shot themselves in the foot by sending out dictatorial instructions. They should have had the sense to keep quiet about it!

I'm a big Liverpool fan.

If it was a wedding of a family member they'd have a big screen organised.

If I were invited to this wedding I'd have told them by now I'm not going.

I hate dancing, yet why is it that if I attend a wedding I'm supposed to act as if I like the music? This is music that's so loud that quite often I can't hear what people are saying unless they're shouting down my ear. How is that celebrating with the bride and groom?

186 million people will be watching the Eurovision song contest, it is popular too, but I can;d see it being screened at a wedding or having grown adults cry at the results.

You haven't seen my friends watch the Eurovision Song Contest.

I’d happily show Eurovision at my wedding. It probably would make for a fun, celebratory atmosphere and no one would be miserable at the result either. Football creates a very different atmosphere and a defeat could really dampen the rest of the evening.

Let's remember that the B&G presumably know most of the invitees and we don't ... maybe the likely after effects of the game among these particular guests influenced their decision?

Maybe, too, they hope the guests will behave decently - but that if they don't intend to, they'd rather they left? Better, surely, to have a quieter evening do than expected, rather than a place full of braying fans?

It’s not as though guests will not be celebrating the bride and grooms special day, they will just be taking 90 mins out in the evening to watch the match. You can do both things.

The bride and groom are being ridiculous and I'm not a footie fan! A 2pm kickoff could be a problem but the important part (the ceremony) should be over. A wedding day may be the most important day of the lives of the bride and groom (so far) but realistically it's not for the guests. I think taking such a totalitarian approach risks people leaving at 7:30 or disappearing to watch it on their phones in the car. In my opinion they should embrace it or "allow" people to leave and watch it in the nearest pub. There will be plenty of people to hang out with the couple during the match.

If it was a wedding of a family member they'd have a big screen organised
Same, although our team would never be in that position!
When my cousin got married, it turned out that it was the World Cup semi final? (Might have been the final, can’t remember).
They planned to have big TVs if England got through, of course they didn’t lol!

I just can’t see how they think that dictating to grown adults about what they’re allowed to do/care about in their free time will endear them to anyone, I really can’t!

I attended a wedding on a day when England were playing Germany. (Can’t remember which tournament or whatever...)
B&G got a big tv put in reception and a fab time was had by all. (We won 5-1!)

@CaptainButtock This was 2001. It was my due date with dc3 and we had been invited to a wedding. I sent dh and said I'd decline. Such a great game - I'm glad I was at home

Pretty sure the bride and groom will be able to walk around their reception alone at 8pm

Some people saying it's better to miss the whole wedding than to leave, is this true when we are day guests as well and kick off isn't until 8pm?
No, go to the important part of the day. The evening is a party afterwards. IIRC, you said you were staying at the venue anyway? So you can stay in the Reception if you prefer and dh and his mates can watch the match in your room. Then up to the B&G if they are having bouncers to stop everyone returning at the end, or if they prefer the night to die quietly at 8pm.

The e-mail is incredibly arrogant and ego-centric and will just be laughed at by most, I'd have thought.

Sound to me like they're a bit bride/groomzillas, this day is all about MEEEE

it's their WEDDING? What happened to manners?

If you don't want to attend, just decline when you receive the invitation. If you commit, just go and yes, you will miss the football?

I feel sorry for the bride and groom who were obliged to invite such dross who end up ruining the day.

I cannot imagine any of my guests, who were friends and family, behaving so badly. It's only on MN that the chav seem to come out of the wood and make up all this nonsense. . I have never met any one so bad in real life.

It really is rude of these guests, who had previously RSVP'd, to want to ditch the wedding just because they perceive that a better offer has come along later. I thought mumsnet usually disapproved of that behaviour?

What the fuck else is a wedding about, if not the bride and groom?