Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

I got married during Euro96 and England were playing Switzerland. Ko was 3pm the same time as the wedding. We said we were ok with radios in the church and the hotel showed the second half. I was about to say I do when England scored and the guests started to chant Shearer! The DW and I are massive football fans though.

She can either lose half her guests going home early/sneeking off to watch it - or she can embrace it, have it on in the bar, have a big party atmosphere

As said, perhaps the couple would actually prefer folk to leave if having them there means boorish behaviour?

We can't know about this particular group, but in general the kind of "party atmosphere" that football creates isn't always what people want at a wedding

This match will be more important to many guests than the wedding.

Your wedding is only really important to you and a few very close loved ones maybe. Most guests are happy for you and want to be there to celebrate - but wouldn't regard a friends wedding as more important than something personally significant to them.

If you love your football team and they're in the CL final that's more important to you than some one else's wedding.

But the guests have already accepted the invitation. Once you've RSVP'd do you not think it's very bad manners to back out because something you'd prefer to do comes along? They've made a commitment to the bride and groom.

@PCohle they are going. Kick off is at 8pm. After all wedding stuff is done. They are just planning to bow out at the night.

Just because people are interested in something doesn't mean that it's important.

Exactly. The B&G are interested in their own wedding and have convinced themselves it's more important than the CL final. What a pair of morons.

Are they making a video of the wedding. If so, guests can bugger off to the pub to watch the football and then watch the bit of the wedding they missed later.

Yes, I'm aware of that, but the evening entertainment is part of the wedding too.

For who?
My Nanna was 85 at my wedding. She couldn't stay late as it was such a long day for her. Should she have been forced to stay?
I've had to leave weddings due to only having childcare up to a certain time. Is that wrong?

I think it's disingenuous to pretend there isn't a difference between people who genuinely have to leave early for unavoidable reasons and people who previously would have stayed but are now choosing not to because a better offer has come along.

It might be their day but they’re soon going to find out it isn’t their evening 🤣

My cousin put Rugby World Cup match on during her reception as she wanted to watch it too.

If it was a daytime match I would get it. But it isn't - its 8pm. Put it on in the bar and join in the fun of the match. It is 2 English clubs. Then dance the night away afterwards.

if she wasn't I'd be back in my hotel room or at home by 7.45.

Not really. Everyone has their own reasons. Guests RSVPd to the wedding will be attending it. 8pm after an all day event is a perfectly accept time to leave.

DH and I are celebrating a very special anniversary on the date of this wedding and the CL final. We are staying in, having a nice meal at home with a few bottles of wine and will be watching the match.

Neither of us support either LFC or Spurs but are still really looking forward to a fantastic evening.

B&G are being unbelievably precious and stupid! People will just decline or disappear. 😟. The atmosphere could be amazing if they just embraced it and arranged for the match to be screened.

By the way, not sure if it's an omen but our anniversary, it's the red one!
yes, we're old buggers 😂

Anyway, back to watching the FA Cup Final!

It might be their day but they’re soon going to find out it isn’t their evening

their only mistake is to invite the wrong kind of guests, it's quite sad they are unlucky.

Some bride and grooms have friends or siblings who are travelling across the world not to miss their day, military personnel or other who surprise them by making a ridiculous journey to be there.

Others have a bunch of rude idiots who can't miss a football match, innit.

I mean, We said we were ok with radios in the church I am not religious, but even I find that beyond disrespectful. You don't have to get married in church in this country, if it means nothing to you, why do it?

Most weddings I have been to didn't start dinner until 9 pm, I can't picture an empty reception room because the local dross has disappeared to watch the footie. It's funny that it's only football which seem to attract this kind of behaviour.

Some bride and grooms have friends or siblings who are travelling across the world not to miss their day, military personnel or other who surprise them by making a ridiculous journey to be there

Others have a bunch of rude idiots who can't miss a football match, innit

I didn’t realise traveling miles or being in the military was mutually exclusive with being a football fan

The amount of anti football snobbery on this thread is crazy and I say this as someone with zero interest in it. But funny enough I can understand other people do enjoy it.

JacquesHammer

you like to miss the point, which is that some people make an effort for their loved ones. I've never seen anyone making efforts to attend a wedding to then disappear to watch the tv in the middle.

Not all football fans are ill-mannered, many sport fans accept to miss a live final because they committed to something else and they enjoy the day anyway.

MN is a revelation, I always thought people were exaggerating when describing some behaviour. Sadly not.

you like to miss the point, which is that some people make an effort for their loved ones. I've never seen anyone making efforts to attend a wedding to then disappear to watch the tv in the middle

Funnily enough I did, at my wedding. I was glad they had all made the effort to come. It certainly didn’t affect my enjoyment of our day. Why would it?

It was 90mins. I didn’t need to immediately catch up with those particular people in between kick off and the final whistle

How have the guests not made an effort?
Travel, outfits, rooms and time off work. How bloody ungrateful not to appreciate all of that.

MN is a revelation, I always thought people were exaggerating when describing some behaviour.

Well, Mumsnet is always talking about classism, and clearly not exaggerating in your case, innit

I’m really loving all the spellcheck typos of ‘wedding’ / mistakes / swapped words - weeding and using word ‘game’ for wedding have made me lol.
Walk on walk on, with hope in your heart. What a match it will be.

The amount of anti football snobbery on this thread is crazy

I couldn't tell you how many football match are held a year, final this, Europe that, world cup that, but they are endless. For people to still be happy to try to ruin somebody's wedding because of a match... it's not snobbery to laugh at them, I mean it's completely ridiculous. You don't hear so much nonsense when the Olympics are on.

If you don't want to go to a wedding, just decline the invitation. There's nothing wrong with that - even if the only reason is because you have tickets for a match. That's perfectly acceptable. Mocking a bride and groom because they get in the way of you watching tv? Seriously?

Honestly, why wouldn't you check if there were any big events scheduled for the day in advance. Especially if you're from such a big footballing city like Liverpool.

Not sure why you would want people at your wedding to be unhappy and wishing they were somewhere else as well.

Just embrace it or let people go home.

Also the snobbery and pearl clutching on here is outrageous. People can enjoy a sport without being hooligans

JacquesHammer

My own guests seem to have had enough a good time at my own wedding that no one bothered with the tv. I guess I am lucky to have the right guests as well.

It must have been fun to be standing like a lemon for 90 mn, but as long as you had fun

People can enjoy a sport without being hooligans

some do, but the rudeness of the football fans on here is hilarious