Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

@Vampireslayer19

That’s just for you,though. Football is literally the most popular sport worldwide.

I love football and I love weddings, so for me, a wedding that culminates in an evening football match on a big screen would be enjoyable and memorable. I understand that many - such as this b and g - will not agree with me but tbh i think they need to roll with it and incorporate it into the day.

ooohbetty I’ve acknowledged the existence of female football fans and pointed out that it’s because they are largely ignored and football is widely deemed to be a male preserve that it gets the indulgence and deference which it does. If it were regarded as a female interest, no one would prioritise it at all.

Once again, not a big deal TO YOU. Why can’t people be open minded and understand it is a big deal for a lot of people? @floraloctopus

You did acknowledge female football fan but then you indulged in that pet MN peeve of mine: 'My husband says...' As if the thoughts of random MN husbands should carry extra weight.

Some of my guests were watching some important cricket match the day of our wedding-DH even watched some of it! Wouldn’t bother me at all.

Saying the day was ‘all about us’ makes you sound like a bit of a dick.

he did once miss a gig he had tickets for to go to a wedding and was horrified by any suggestion that he would have missed it

Cripes if I was the bride I’d have encouraged him to go!

There is a good chance that if this match is shown at the evening do, it will dominate and the result will determine the atmosphere afterwards. It’s really unfair if the bride and groom have t I tolerate a load of drunken twats in bad moods if Liverpool lose

Maybe it depends on the type of fans you know? I don’t know any who (a) get drunk or (b) act like twats when their team loses. Of course it does happen, but maybe it’s easier to be flexible if you know it won’t!

Maybe the B&G are just friends with a load of Urchins

it's not a big deal
Well actually it is to millions upon millions of people. There are 200 million people that are going to be watching that match. Just because you're not interested doesn't mean everyone else in the world isn't.

'Some people believe football is a matter of life and death. I'm very disappointed with that attitude. I can assure you it is much, much more important than that' - Bill Shankly.

Yikes, Thallo, I don’t think his opinion carries any special male weight. I was just using him as an example of a man with a passionate interest who doesn’t have it deferred to in order to illustrate my point that football gets special treatment because people regard it as male-interest. Not because I think what he says is right by virtue of him being my husband.

Throughout the thread people are blaming the bride and talking about men needing to watch this match. The prevailing opinion on MN is that once you’ve accepted an invitation then it takes precedence over any better offers. The football loophole exists because of a sexist society that doesn’t acknowledge female fans or female players and excuses horrific male behaviour o the grounds of football being supremely important to men. The fact it’s important to some women is not the reason it gets this sanctification.

It’s a game, it’s grown men in shorts trying to get a goal into a net to win a trophy hmm

It's just a fancy party, it's grown adults in funny suits and dresses promising to love each other for ever and ever

The bride did encourage him to Jacques but he thought the wedding was more important.

oohbetty that quote has been wheeled out already. Just because it’s widely repeated doesn’t make it true.

diddl

There were two sports that I knew were going to be absolutely held above my wedding.

It was a major year for them, and as I wanted the people there I had to think of dates that wouldn't interfere.

However standard weekend sporting events could and can get fucked.

If it were regarded as a female interest, no one would prioritise it at all

I dunno about that, we had other threads just like this one around the time of the royal wedding(s). Lots of people said the couple(s) should put it on tv in a bar for people to watch. And I'm pretty sure the royal wedding is a mostly female interest.

If you don't follow football you'll never understand how important this match is. When my brother got married they didn't realise it was going to be on a European night but the whole reception embraced how important it was and practically everyone was in the bar watching the game. I fear this reception is going to be rather empty unless they screen the match because European nights (and the Champions League Final especially) is much more important than a friends wedding. I know it's not what you ladies want to hear sadly but it's the cold hard truth. Following Liverpool FC is a way of life for 90% of us. When my wife and I got married it was the close season but she made me check there were no pre-season friendlies as she didn't want to miss one.

They are. Champions league is the biggest annual sporting event in the world.
I feel like the fact that they’ve drawn attention to it in this way, they’ve fucked it for themselves, and made it a choice, whereas if they would have embraced it, well, there’s no choice then, is there? People could have enjoyed both.

I don't think anyone is suggesting that the B&G are unreasonable for not screening the event, that's their perogative. However I think they are very bloody unreasonable for telling their guests not to watch it by other means. You can't dictate what other people do. It's a wedding not a court summons, keep on like this and they'll have no one turn up.

If I were you I'd be more worried about DH and a bunch of his mates sat in my hotel room, on my bed for 90 minutes whilst watching the game. Your room & bed will be a mess!!

Well actually it is to millions upon millions of people. There are 200 million people that are going to be watching that match

Maybe it is to them but nobody decent would be as incredibly rude to watch it at a wedding.

I'd be gutted about my expensive and thoughtfully planned wedding being trumped by a football match and would think it was really fucking rude if people left the wedding to watch the match.
It's not just the match itself disrupting the evening, are people going to get arsey and moody if they lose? It will change the whole atmosphere of the reception.

Saying that, I think they would be better to accept that people are going to want to watch it so it might be better to go with it rather than fight it.

Could the venue set up a screen in a corner of the garden maybe?

People argued that a total wedding should be shown at a normal wedding . How absurd.

Every big football tournament, I make a donation to Refuge. The stats about domestic violence rising after every England match are horrifying.

Whether or not women enjoy football as well, women suffer as a consequence of the attitude that it’s a man’s right to put football above everything else. It’s a far more prevalent issue than royal weddings which don’t have the same insidious effect on society.

Well actually it is to millions upon millions of people. There are 200 million people that are going to be watching that match. Just because you're not interested doesn't mean everyone else in the world isn't.

I realise it is a popular sport, it's the infantile fanaticism that I dislike.

It's just a game.

Well, maybe karma will kick in and the unreasonable footie fans will indeed get their way and end up watching their team lose.

People argued that a total wedding should be shown at a normal wedding shock.

I don’t understand this at all?

Just because people are interested in something doesn't mean that it's important.