Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

I'd just leave to watch the football and not go back. Can't keep people there

I find football fanaticism a deeply unnatractive trait in a man.

@speakout ok?

too many people pander to football and its imagined importance, which is rooted in deep misogyny and sexism regardless of female interest in the sport.

Totally agree. The amount of reverence for the sport is pathetic.

I think the b&g have created a stress that wasn’t necessary. The match on in a separate bar or on screens with no sound from 8-9.45 isn’t going to ruin the wedding.
They could use the lull to sit and chat with guests. Have the meal & speeches from 6-8, then match the party.

I find football fanaticism a deeply unnatractive trait in a man

Golly if only that were ok and you weren’t obligated to date/marry a football fan

I feel really sorry for the bride and groom - it's an unfortunate clash. However, this game is an absolutely HUGE DEAL! Liverpool vs Spurs in the Champions League Final?? It's not just some random match.

COYS!!!!

I think the couple should just screen the game.

B&G are being massively unreasonable, the haul a bunch of fans away from being able to watch their team in the biggest match they will get into is poor

Are you Mystic Meg?

My husband isn’t into football and he’s expressed amazement that sport is held in such reverence. His passion is music and he’s pointed out that he’d never get away with fucking off to a gig or a festival instead of attending a family event or taking part in family life and he is baffled by the (thankfully tiny) number of men we know whose prioritising of football over all else is never questioned. It’s embarrassing to think of grown men being unable to miss a football match.

@Captain
Absolutely spot on

DH and his brothers don't think they'll be missed for 90 minutes during the evening do ... It'll take them about 30 seconds to get back after and they'd come back during half time. That's his argument at least

Isn't it more likely they'd disappear for the entire evening ... first for the "warm up" and later for the post mortem? And if they plan to decamp to a room, have they considered how others will feel about roaring and screaming next door (unless the B&G have exclusivity on the venue of course)?

Since you accepted 6 months ago I'd hope the fans have the manners to treat it like any other invitation - as in you don't bunk off because something tastier has come up - but whether they will is another matter of course

However, this game is an absolutely HUGE DEAL! Liverpool vs Spurs in the Champions League Final??

It's not a huge deal.

It's a football match.

It’s embarrassing to think of grown men being unable to miss a football match.

I agree.

His passion is music and he’s pointed out that he’d never get away with fucking off to a gig or a festival instead of attending a family event or taking part in family life

Whereas if a close friend/family member of mine had the chance to go to a gig of a lifetime, I wouldn’t expect in the least they prioritise my wedding.

Weddings are supposed to be fun, not a sentence imposed whilst a couple indulge themselves. I think that’s often lost in the flurry of wedding planning, you’re far likely to have a much better day if everyone enjoys themselves.

@speakout Football would like to apologise for whatever past pain it has caused you. It hopes you can both bury the hatchet one day soon.

you can't replay our day

Thank fuck, most weddings are shit

It’s embarrassing to think of grown men being unable to miss a football match.

Why do you assume it's men. I wouldn't miss it either.

I've got a vision of the bride marching round the reception with a black bag snatching phones off anyone daring to watch the match. Weddings are long events, ceremony, at least an hour taking the photos, wedding breakfast, speeches, cutting the cake, then a lull until the evening do when everyone gets moved to the bar so the tables can be cleared & the evening buffet & DJ can be set up, then the evening do with the couple's first dance. If the couple can't allow 2 hours for the fans who want to watch the match, who have probably already been there 8 hours, this bride is being a bridezilla.

It’s not just men FFS!
I’m a female football fan and although I wouldn’t miss a wedding if my team were in the CL final, I would be mightily pissed off if the b&g tried to tell me I couldn’t even check the score or try and watch some of it on my phone! It’s not like it’s during the ceremony or wedding breakfast!
At my wedding my priority was that my guests had a good time, my oldest friend’s husband spent the evening watching his iPad in the corner (no idea what he was watching!) but I didn’t care, he didn’t know anyone else there and is not one who enjoys dancing so instead of sitting there bored he did something to occupy himself

peardrops1

Has caused me no pain whatsoever.

Had two brief relationships in the past with men that turned out to have an interest in football dropped them like hot potatoes, apart from that football hasn't affected my life at all.

People will leave early.

Or

Not show up at all.

That’s the simple truth

Jacques he did once miss a gig he had tickets for to go to a wedding and was horrified by any suggestion that he would have missed it. Weddings are important and he wouldn’t miss being there to see his friends on such a significant occasion in their lives. But it’s more the bit about certain men thinking football excuses them from family life rather than just the big events. That’s what horrifies us the most.

There is a good chance that if this match is shown at the evening do, it will dominate and the result will determine the atmosphere afterwards. It’s really unfair if the bride and groom have t I tolerate a load of drunken twats in bad moods if Liverpool lose.

This was talked about on Radio one - a bride to be called up for advise on wether to show the game and most who responded said yes. Tbh I would hate to go to a wedding and have the football being shown or have half the guests disappear for 2 hours- it’s just rude unless the couple are big fans themselves.

It’s a game, it’s grown men in shorts trying to get a goal into a net to win a trophy

If at a wedding surely can just turn phone off etc and watch first thing in the morning when wake up?

Let the couple have what they want on their day.

anybody who puts a game over a wedding is extremely unreasonable, it's only a game after all and it's not a big deal.