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Champions league ban at wedding

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User12038483 · 18/05/2019 11:21

Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

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Kab30 · 18/05/2019 14:00

Its 8 in the evening so it's not like they are missing anything ....put a TV up in other room x

SilverySurfer · 18/05/2019 14:01

I attended a wedding on a big match day which began with the priest saying 'well let's get on with it - we all want to watch the match' Hmm and at match time 75% of the male wedding guests disappeared to the nearby pub. B&G not best pleased but nothing they could do but try and enjoy their day.

PuppyMonkey · 18/05/2019 14:06

I’m in the “it’s only sodding football” camp with this one. The wishes of the bride and groom come first imho. I’m sure guests will be able to have a sneaky look on their phones to follow the score, no need to set up a TV screen.

My DB came for a rare visit to my house last year and I laid on a big garden party for extended family, spent ages and lots of money on a lovely buffet. I started getting texts about it coinciding with one of the big England games and that people were looking forward to watching it on my big telly. I was gobsmacked but they really did turn up, grabbed some buffet and watched the telly all afternoon.

I was livid. But I consoled myself by getting absolutely plastered with my two sisters.Grin

gingercat02 · 18/05/2019 14:06

The final is 8pm. They should have it on in the bar, the actual wedding and meal will surely be over by then.

Myworstnightmare123 · 18/05/2019 14:06

B&G are being selfish

WTF!
It's there bloody wedding day FFS

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 18/05/2019 14:07

Isn't the game in the evening?
In which case see if there is a small room at the venue in which they can put a Tv? I don't see the drama personally?
It's worse to dictate to people not to watch it and then get annoyed when people leave the venue to do just that!
Embrace it what's the harm?!

NailsNeedDoing · 18/05/2019 14:08

The sad thing is, that as much as the bride and groom think now that the football could ruin their evening do, when it comes to 8pm on their wedding day, they probably wouldn't give a shit if a few people were watching the football on their phones.

They will be happily newly married, surrounded by friends and family having a nice time, and theyre causing all this upset for something that in reality, is unlikely to make much difference to them.

Sakura7 · 18/05/2019 14:09

I’m in the “it’s only sodding football” camp with this one. The wishes of the bride and groom come first imho.

That's all well and good, but in reality people are not going to want to miss this match, it's huge. So if the bride and groom enforce this ban, lots of people will just leave.

BoneyBackJefferson · 18/05/2019 14:11

Unfortunately the dates of sporting events is one of those weird things that you have to consider when planning your wedding.

Especially as these types of fans will either be singing football songs if they win or crying into their beer if they loose.

cstaff · 18/05/2019 14:12

My cousin's wedding was set to happen on the day of a big Ireland international football game. I'm irish obviously. Even though his wife is not a sports fan she was fine with arranging a screen as she knew that there would be a mass evacuation to watch the match including my cuz Grin.

This will probably happen at this wedding except they won't come back as they won't be made to feel welcome. The b&g are not doing themselves any favours. I'm not a big sports fan but I get it.

redcupbluecup · 18/05/2019 14:13

The game is on in the evening. Im not a football fan but the bride and groom are being very unreasonable.
Football have fans whether they're fans or not isn't relevant. It's a huge game so ofcourse people will want to watch it. We're in Wales and some of our family are huge Liverpool fans. They'd also leave to watch it so a wedding in or near Liverpool stand no chance.
No guests are leaving during the vows or the meal. They'll be married and fed by the time it's aired. Im quite amazed people think any fan is being unreasonable.

diddl · 18/05/2019 14:16

Are there many/any extras going to the evening bit do you know?

If it's mainly people that will have been there all day I'd be tempted to cancel it.

Leighhalfpennysthigh · 18/05/2019 14:17

I'm a sports fan. I work in the sports industry. I spend a huge part of my life thinking, talking and even doing sport.

But no fucking way would I have any match being shown at my wedding. It is their day, that's the bottom line. They are getting married and that's a big, important thing in anyone's life - it's not unreasonable to want people attending to respect their wishes.

IncrediblySadToo · 18/05/2019 14:19

They’re issuing a ‘blanket ban’...

They really are up their own arses.

They could ‘request’, they could say it will not be put on the TV, but if they think they can tell people what they can watch on their phones or what time they can leave they’re deluded.

It’s FAR more likely one or both of them will have a second wedding than Liverpool getting into the final again. It is HUGE.

They’re being ridiculous not catering to their guests wishes to watch it. It’s 8pm. Plenty of time for wedding stuff beforehand and plenty of time for partying after.

Still, they’ll learn the hard way come 7:30...

ChipSandwich · 18/05/2019 14:19

I would think anyone who put a fricking football game ahead of their friends' once in a lifetime wedding was a massive twat

Worth repeating.

ChippingInLowCarbing · 18/05/2019 14:21

Unfortunately the dates of sporting events is one of those weird things that you have to consider when planning your wedding

I totally agree.

...they’re clearly not sports people.

However, even if they were, who would have predicted Liverpool being in the final two years ago 🤣

Contraceptionismyfriend · 18/05/2019 14:21

But it's not before the wedding. It's hours after...

Morgan12 · 18/05/2019 14:22

If this was me and it was my team I'd be leaving the wedding early 100%.

ChipSandwich · 18/05/2019 14:22

It would take a real cunt to spoil that for them

Also worth repeating.

Thallo · 18/05/2019 14:23

I would think anyone who put a fricking football game ahead of their friends' once in a lifetime wedding was a massive twat

And the B&G are free to think that as they look around their emptying reception venue.

Or they could get in the spirit of the occasion and put a screen on somewhere. When planning an event it's really better to try and see the upside of road bumps like this. This football match is happening no matter what happens so why not let it enhance the day rather than detract from it.

MsSquiz · 18/05/2019 14:24

This is why we set our date out of the football season, and a non World Cup/euros year.

Years ago when BIL and SIL got married, there was a Newcastle game, and about 75% of the male guests would have been at the match if not for the wedding (including groom, best man, father of the bride and brother of the bride!) apparently father of the bride started his speech with the score!

It's a risk you take, and if it was my wedding, I'd just have the match on a screen else where, for the sake of a few hours and happy guests, it wouldn't bother me

UnicornBrexit · 18/05/2019 14:25

My guess is their wedding will be poorly attended

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 18/05/2019 14:26

Bet I can predict what will happen with the 'evening only' invitees at this one.

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 18/05/2019 14:27

Actually if my team had made it to the game on my wedding day, I'd incorporate it and make a massive party out of it.
But then my wedding consisted of a signature, the sacrament and two witnesses.
It’s FAR more likely one or both of them will have a second wedding than Liverpool getting into the final again. It is HUGE.

wizzywig · 18/05/2019 14:27

She couldve said "im not showing the football, let me know if you are still coming". That way she couldve saved some money by having fewer people there

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