Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

Your DH should start acting ostentatiously pissed at about 7pm, do something outrageous at 7:45 and then you can usher him up to his room and come back downstairs shaking your head and muttering, ‘he’s sleeping it off’. Don’t know what the others can do, but that’s him sorted.

Don’t be cross with him, they abu not the fans. Hopefully they will cave and incorporate it. If not, I think his plan is respectful. He could indicate that he could no longer attend the evening, or withdraw his rsvp as the terms have changed, but this makes him the focus of ire, which might be unpleasant. I think someone should however say ‘good luck with that idea! You are up against it there.

Most weddings I’ve been too seem to have people watching a big game on their phones or on a tv in the bar. I think it’s fun and adds to the atmosphere. If I were the bride and groom I’d have the game on a big tv and enjoy the atmosphere. It’s at 8 at night so I can’t see how it interferes in the important parts of the day.

BTW I hate football but I can see that it’s a fun and social to watch big games in a group.

BTW2 Who thinks this thread will end up in the Daily Mail.... 😉

I bet the bar staff will have the game on anyway 😅

I am from Liverpool but support Everton and know exactly how most people at the wedding will be fuming!
Emotions run high on massive sporting occasions like this and it is a huge deal here, as I'm sure it is around Spurs and if I were invited to this wedding and my team were in the CL final then I wouldn't be there at kick off time, along with many others.

8pm is classic evening do arrival time. What will happen is that the evening guests who are football fans will either turn up after the match, or, depending on the result will not bother going at all.
B and G have massively shot themselves in the foot with this one.

Would be interesting to know if they support a team and who!

I know within my immediate family that this would be a problem for us if Everton were ever in this situation but as it stands is very bloody highly unlikely

I think it would be better if the bride and groom embraced the football and had a screen set up somewhere. It is a small percentage of their wedding day and whilst it may be the most important day for them the world has not stopped for others.

I am not a football fan but would do that so that my guests could all stay together and celebrate my wedding without disappearing to watch the match or be sad that they have missed it. I can imagine that watching it on catch up isn’t the same thing.

Their guests would be delighted it was set up for them to watch if they wanted to and the evening would be far more exciting because of it regardless of the result.

You can watch the game on catchup the next day, for heaven‘s sake

Oh please! What on earth would be the point of that. Apart from missing the incredible excitement a live final brings you would already know the result!

I wonder if they suspect they'll lose and are worried about the effect that will have on their guests. I think they are unreasonable to ban watching on own devices but i get not wanting (or they may not even be able to) screen it.

They are probably concerned about atmosphere, losing their guests for a few hours (i call bs on 90 minutes, few fans dont watch a bit before and wouldnt stay for the half time) possibly during first dance and cake cutting.

And they could lose more then just the men. I don't know why people pointing out the women can stay dancing, a lot of women like football too. A lot of men, like the groom, don't.

I'd hate to have paid all that money for people to sneak off or watch the game on their phones.

I can't imagine ever being in this position as I'd never be friends with someone who was so up themself. So many people going on about how the b&g want to share their day with people who they love, yeah love so much that they are demanding they miss something that's equally as important to them. Ultimately if you make these kind of demands on people you need to be prepared not to like the responses!

Btw I'd be watching the match

I imagine anyone invited to the evening only just won't turn up and a large percentage of the day guests will disappear around 6pm.

What a bunch of rude entitled guests! So watching a footie match live is more impotant than celebrating the weeding of their friends/ family? If I was the bride/groom I would also be massively pissed off if guests went off to watch the match, when I've paid a fortune for them to celebrate my special day with them.

Better that they know now, and those who think a footie match is more important can save them some money.

We had a similar situation when we got married, as it was the day of the Grand National at the same time as our ceremony. We had to drag guests away from the TV when we arrived at the reception. Fortunately, the race was a much shorter event. I would have been incensed if it had been a 90 minute footie match. It would have ruined our wedding day.

Weeding=wedding!

We had to drag guests away from the TV when we arrived at the reception. Fortunately, the race was a much shorter event. I would have been incensed if it had been a 90 minute footie match. It would have ruined our wedding day.

Bet your wedding was loads of fun.

@Jaxhog it's 90mins at 8pm.
Why not incorporate it and make the evening a hell of a party? Everyone will be happy.

"I find it very sad that anyone would put a bloody football game ahead of a friend’s wedding celebration."

By 8pm its usually just a cheesy disco, a pay bar, wondering if there will be any bacon sandwiches, unless there's going to be some awful dance routine thing. All over bar the shouting. Stick it on the telly

I don’t think you can compare this game to any other game.

It has about as much chance as being played again as the B&G have of getting divorced.

I have been to weddings years ago (pre internet and mobile phones) where a particular football match was happening and there was a tv rigged up on the corner. It was a roaring success

OTOH I have been to one where there was no tv.
Half the guests disappeared to a local pub to watch it and didn’t return. There was a paying bar at the reception in a fancy hotel and the pub drinks were cheaper.

The B & G are not football fans...so that says it all really!
They sound like a couple of control freaks. As if you can tell people what to do...crazy!

I also agree that I think they have shot themselves in the foot by not having a compromise i.e.. somewhere for people to watch the game.

I can see lots of people not turning up or leaving before evening do starts.
I am not a massive football fan but even I would be happy to see loads of guests watching football and enjoying themselves at any do really.

I think it depends on how close you are to the bride and groom.

If someone couldn't put a game before their brother who they are close with I'd think they were an obsessive fanatic and as the brother would be glad they are not attending.

However if it's a friends friend or a colleague you probably will value the game more if you follow football.

I don't get the hysteria of football. I mean I like my favourite teams to win but I just don't let it be the centre of the world. But I realise everyone is different.

Not burning my morning toast is mor significant event to me than this football match, or any football match. I have no interest in it at all.

However, if it was my wedding I would work around it and incorporate it into the evening for those interested.

That said, I would draw the line at grown men turning up wearing footballer costumes.

It is staggeringly rude to leave someone's wedding to watch a football game. Leaving for anything short of an emergency is very rude.

Your DH needs to grow up or just accept that these people aren't going to be his friends anymore and ditch them to watch the football.

I think they should probably just embrace it and screen it somewhere out of the way. It's a bloody big deal and tbh I'd rather watch the match than watch the B& G do some embarrassed swaying to Bruno Mars followed by some mum dancing.

We had to drag guests away from the TV when we arrived at the reception

The thought of this has really made me laugh. Maybe instead of acting like a complete lunatic you could have just let your guests watch a five minute race then get on with enjoying the day!

I think it’s fun and adds to the atmosphere unless the home team play like shit and get whupped