Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

"Unfortunately the dates of sporting events is one of those weird things that you have to consider when planning your wedding"

Nope.

Wouldn't have occured to us to do that at all.

For people saying B & G should have considered sporting events before they booked the wedding, could the same not be said for the guests who accepted the invitation?

B&G are being massively unreasonable, the haul a bunch of fans away from being able to watch their team in the biggest match they will get into is poor. If I was a LFC fan then I'd be leaving and heading to the pub and I am 100% DH would be with me in that too.

Stick the match on the projector (far better than the crappy photo's people stick up there anyway) and make it a massive celebration night.

All these posts saying the whole thing will be done by then, it won’t matter if guests leave - how do you know the B&G haven’t already hired a band, organised a ceilidh, invited Madonna to perform in the evening?

I had a friend get married on the day of an England World Cup match, it was due to be on in the evening. She refused to show the match and lots of people cleared off to the pub for the 7pm including the groom! He's a PL team season ticket holder so very into football. She conceded in hindsight that she should have shown the match in the bar area of the wedding venue.

Unfortunately the dates of sporting events is one of those weird things that you have to consider when planning your wedding.

I certainly did, got married during the then Five Nations Series and the first thing that was scheduled was the match schedule and we picked a no-play Saturday or we’d have seen very little of my DF!

Spurs fan here,

Hell, I’d cancel MY wedding to watch that game,

The DH and I are packing the kids off to a friends for the day so we can enjoy the game and watch it in peace, with a curry, and a drink, it’s quite possibly a game we might not ever get to play in again

I would think anyone who put a fricking football game ahead of their friends' once in a lifetime wedding was a massive twat

However, remember that this being MN having a wedding in the first place is massively narcissistic and attention seeking, let alone actually inviting people ams spending shit loads of money on feeding and watering them all day.....

I don't know if anyone has already mentioned this (I've read up to page ten and then got bored), but I thought the kick off was 8:pm local time in Madrid, making in 9:00 in the U K.

I hope leaving a wedding at 9:00 isn't considered rude as I'll be leaving my nieces wedding around the same time later in the year. Not for footballing reasons though.

Having said that I would have left if she had been unwise enough to choose 1st June as a wedding date.

To conclude, allez, allez, allez. And not forgetting YNWA

B&G are crazy to think people will miss the match for them.

I know some big Liverpool fans and this is huge for them.

I wouldn’t ask dh to miss the match, it’s 90mins out of the day.

Who on earth would be rude enough to try and watch a football match at a wedding. It's just a bloody game.

I remember over hearing a bride last year who was saying she'd been asked by one of the groomsmen if they were going to be showing the England World Cup semi final as it clashed with their wedding day, she had then sent out a text pretty much the same as in the OP.

She was really upset that the wedding times were clashing with the World Cup England match.

I hate football, and a wedding is a once in a lifetime special day, but I don't know what's worse.. embracing it and putting a screen on or people either not turning up or all running off to the toilet to watch it in secret.

I think people should respect the B & G wishes however, the B & G should likewise respect their guests wishes and accept that probably 75% of their guests would rather watch the football and should prepare for an exodus.
Terrible planning on their part.

I would think anyone who put a fricking football game ahead of their friends' once in a lifetime wedding was a massive twat

I knew someone who was very much of this mind, when I was discussing making a place for people to watch football available at my wedding should they want it. Then she was rather surprised people weren’t quite so keen on spunking a fortune on her second wedding (to a different chap!)

user1471453601 Sat 18-May-19 14:40:57
I don't know if anyone has already mentioned this (I've read up to page ten and then got bored), but I thought the kick off was 8:pm local time in Madrid, making in 9:00 in the U K.

21:00 Madrid CET is 20:00 or 8pm in UK.

I think it wildly unreasonable to expect to watch the match during ceremony/ wedding breakfast and popping in and out to watch on phone or whatever is rude. I don't think B&G should be sending out edicts though.
Record it and watch later.

@user1471453601

It’s 20:00 kick off, UK time

@grumiosmum unless it was a 200-1 outsider that is what I call selfless!

I think the whole conversation is a mute point unless the B&G have a marquee or have exclusive use and have taken over an entire venue as the match will be on somewhere for other patrons or staff! Those that want to will seek it out........

Yes @Turpy ! Have been thinking all the way through reading it that the Daily Mail will bloody LOVE this thread.

Went to a wedding last year where the Groom was a Liverpool fan and some of his guests were also Liverpool fans. Had no impact. Apart from checking the scores nothing else occurred.

Dont see the issue with it not being screened as if it goes to extra time and penalties that's a long time. However can't stop people checking in now and then or having access on their phones.

If there is any way the match can be shown at the wedding venue they should just have it on to keep the peace and ensure everyone has a nice day.

Obviously it depends on the timings and the venue but if it's a hotel or function space that has a bar area with TVs then that's one thing, quite the opposite to a remote barn wedding or or something.

There is usually a lot of waiting around time between the ceremony and meal, and between the meal and evening reception so if the match happens to be on during that time and there are televisions what is the problem?

The bride and groom can't dictate to people what they can and can't do, if people want to check their phones or have it playing on silent what can they do? They will come across as massive dicks trying to control the day to that extent. Though they wouldn't be unreasonable to tell guests who leave part way through with the intention of returning after not to bother coming back.

Probably already been posted by someone else but
We kindly ask that none of our guests ask for the game to be put on, go watch elsewhere or watch on any devices. You can watch the game later - but you can't replay our day.
That reads to me as them saying not to go watch it elsewhere either. So if your dh and brothers leave then come back the b&g are probably going to be pissed off.

I was at a wedding the number of guys with earphones in and a phone on their laps was funny. Just stick a tv in the corner. Men really do not get weddings.

This is just something you won't understand if your not into football. It it were my wedding I'd make sure there is a screen to watch it on. And I'd probably be watching myself!

Astonishing how many people on the thread assume it’s only men who want to watch the match and that the ban has come from the bride despite a lot of women coming into the thread and pointing out that female football fans (and players!) exist as well.

Perhaps it is the perception that football is a male interest and solely the preserve of men that means it is indulged to such a shameful and ridiculous extent.

Every England match, win or lose is associated with a spike in domestic violence.

Pathetic husbands are excused on here for getting so drunk they piss all over the house, vomit, black out etc when a big football match is to thank.

There is even a minority finding mitigation for the waste of space bloke on another thread who thinks he should be able to spend thousands of pounds of family money travelling to this match when his wife is 40 weeks pregnant and they have a toddler to take care of.

That stupid quote gets wheeled out on every thread - football isn’t life or death, it’s more important- as though that is an inalienable truth and somehow excuses any act of selfishness committed by a football fan when ‘their team’ is playing.

If football were perceived to be predominantly a women’s interest, it would take no precedence whatsoever. But people see it as a man’s hobby and therefore somehow sacred. So weddings, births and lives should be rearranged around the football schedule.

I don’t blame the bride and groom for not wanting a load of drunken idiocy at their wedding and it’s inevitable that the kind of men who think a wedding should be organised around a football game will also see it as their right to drink excessively whilst watching. Then if Liverpool lose, no doubt these same men will absolutely ruin any kind of atmosphere that has managed to survive the match. If they win, everyone is celebrating that rather than the marriage.

I feel so sorry for the couple but there is no way they can win this one because too many people pander to football and its imagined importance, which is rooted in deep misogyny and sexism regardless of female interest in the sport.

Tell the bride and groom to read Behind the Scenes at the Museum in which a wedding takes place the day when England won the World Cup. Their vision of their day is fucked by the selfishness and immaturity of everyone who perpetuates this deference to football. What a shame for them!