Champions league ban at wedding

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Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

I hope Liverpool get hammered now!

Highly unlikely. Spurs couldn't hammer a nail.

B & G are being joyless, narcissistic fuckers. In the context of where the wedding is and who their guests are they should just embrace it and make it part of their ‘big day’ and I hate fucking football but even I can see this!

Jeez some of the stereotyping on here. Not just the sexism but also the assumption around what 'sort' of person likes football!

My husband has a really well paid IT job. He's well read and cultured and likes film and theatre. He's knowledgeable about politics and the most reasoned, logical person I know. And a great dad. He is also NUTS about football. When we got married we had to take the football season into account. There's no way he'd have picked a date that clashed with the champions league final, even if his team had no chance of being there! He Would definitely be sneaking off to watch it if his team were playing and probably even if they weren't. That doesn't make him a bad person, or a football thug, or anything else! He just completely loves football. The bride and groom are being ridiculous and a roomful of Scousers will definitely get pretty empty!

My parents got married (1960s) on the day of an important football match, with lots of footie fans as guests. Several folk brought transistor radios and sneakily listened in during the wedding breakfast as it was a traditional 3pm kickoff. It was kind of an open secret and made into a joke and in the event even my grandma relaxed about it to ask the score. Everyone still remembers that.

As a pp said, sometimes a big event like a sport match or royal wedding or whathaveyou happens on the same day as something you’ve planned. You have to incorporate it somehow, especially if it’s a happy event and not Diana’s funeral or something.

As a female Spurs fan I would not miss this final for the eve of a wedding. Regardless of the result, this is the biggest game of my lifetime and I am ridiculously excited!

Years ago my Great Nan was over an hour late to her surprise 80th party as she couldn't be prised away from the FA Cup final

I wouldn’t wait to miss it surelythey could stick a tv on the bar. I’ve been to weddings during a big World Cup game and euro match. For the World Cup game a tv was put on in the hotel bar people were still moving about between the reception and quickly having a peek at the game added to the atompshere got different groups talking more mingling betweens guests. The other wedding did not show the big game hence big groups suddenly nipping out (down the road to the nearest pub showing it).

"Spurs couldn't hammer a nail."

As a Londoner I'm rather torn; I feel I should support Spurs but I just don't. I think I'll just enjoy the atmosphere and cheer for everyone

Some people saying it's better to miss the whole wedding than to leave, is this true when we are day guests as well and kick off isn't until 8pm? The ceremony, vows, speeches and meal will be long over before DH went upstairs to watch the game.

Tbh I think it is, because depending on timing it at least means the b&g aren’t paying for the meal of someone who holds them in so little regard they would slope out of the wedding to watch a football match. They may even be able to invite someone who they didn’t have room for before, but who might actually be happy to celebrate with them.

Football or not, he accepted the invitation to the ending and it is fucking rude to want to back out because a better offer has come up. That's life.

My DM's care home happened to have its summer fete on a day when England were playing in the World Cup. The number of people who cried off was shameful. So much work and planning had been put into making it a really lovely day for the residents and their guests.

What's wrong with people?

Some people are just ridiculous about not missing football games. It all happens again next year, and the next and the next in an ever-continuing borefest. If I were the bride and groom, I would be more worried about any guest getting drunk, their team losing and all hell breaking loose.

Nagsnovalballs Sat 18-May-19 11:39:00
Wedding as a once in a lifetime thing - until the divorce - well Liverpool reaching the final is pretty much once in a lifetime.

I think you're right. I'm not a football fan at all. DH is. I've seen how uplifting football can be though. Saying it's "just a game" and calling it "pathetic", etc.. like some posters is looking down your nose at something massively important to people. Just because you can't appreciate something, doesn't mean that it doesn't have value. If this was my wedding I'd accept folk were going to sneak off to watch or I'd screen it. It's 90 mins out of a whole day and evening (or more with some weddings).

*wedding, not ending!

I'd be incredibly hurt if my friends felt it was more important to watch football, however big the match, than spend my once in a lifetime milestone with me.

But they are there for the ceremony, the speeches and the meal. It's 90 minutes, and it happens to fall during the lull between the meal and the dancing. What on earth is the harm in having one screen in the corner for anyone who is interested in it? All they're doing with this ban is pissing people off and putting a downer on their day.

You can watch the game later - but you can't replay our day

I've never been to a wedding that frankly was that exciting. Including my own

They would have been better off sending nothing than that message of total narcissism. They have clearly been planning their wedding far too long and disappeared up their own arses sadly.

Best advice I was given about my wedding was that no-one cares about it as much as you do. Most people at this B+G's wedding will be quite pleased they are getting married, wonder what the dress is like, hope food is nice but really really desperately interested in the Champion's League final. This is harsh for a B+G to accept but true.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/bride-agrees-play-champions-league-15626888.amp

This brides doing it right!

I'd reply.
"Think again. Dave pulled the short straw and will be sent ahead to record the wedding so we can all watch it later"

It all happens again next year, and the next and the next in an ever-continuing borefest. If I were the bride and groom, I would be more worried about any guest getting drunk, their team losing and all hell breaking loose.

On your first point, it is very rare to have your team get to a CL final (unless you're a Real Madrid/Barca fan) so when it happens it's a massive event.

The second part of your post is downright offensive. I'm a football fan, therefore I must be a violent thug?

Liverpool are fantastic at reaching finals.

However this year we actually have a hope of winning.

Barring anyone slipping up....literally.

Were Liverpool not in the final last year.

Yes but doing it twice in a row is an unbelievable achievement, it can't be expected that it will happen all the time. Also last year they weren't fancied to win as they had to play Real Madrid in the final.

I agree with the general principle of honouring any invitation that you have accepted.

But the B&G need to accept the reality of the specific situation . This final is unmissable for lots of people. Their wedding (or the bit with the pay bar and disco at the end) just isn't, not for guest no 157 and their plus one. Their note has a really irritating tone, which makes it worse as well. Imagine thinking you can tell your guests what they can and can't look at on social media.....They should just stick the game on a telly somewhere and carry on regardless.

I suppose the bride and groom will have to accommodate those that want to watch the game somehow, but I find it very sad that anyone would put a bloody football game ahead of a friend’s wedding celebration. You can watch the game on catchup the next day, for heaven‘s sake.

I‘d be mighty pissed off myself if I went to a wedding and they stuck a footy match or other sporting event on bang in the middle. Hopefully there would be somewhere to go and NOT watch it, for those not interested in televised sport.

The B&G are being massively unrealistic. It's a big game, certainly for a lot of their guests. I don't like football, but I know how important it is to fans. They would be better off embracing it, showing it in the bar or somewhere and keeping guests happy. That message would put anyone's back up.

There will be a mass exodus of people just before the game. If the B&G kick off (pun intended!), no-one will bother coming back. They are absolutely setting themselves up for a fall.

I got married on such a weekend!

I found my cousin and his son, in a quiet corner of the reception listening to the match on the radio. We had a laugh about it!

Didn’t bother me in the slightest

This thread really show how people assume others should act based on their own interests.

I'm not a football fan but I totally get it. It's not 'just football' it's a whole culture for many people.

I can think of some people who would pick being able to watch this final over a week in Mauricius. How many 'I really don't get this football business, it's just rude' would say no to leaving the wedding at 8pm to get on a plane to a free holiday of a lifetime because 'who cares about a stupid holiday'.