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Aibu to feel the absolute RAGE with this Tinder date?

405 replies

Pulipatchouli · 16/05/2019 22:50

I met a guy for a date and really liked him.
We fell out. Because I left a card through his letterbox which he said endangered his vulnerable clients. Obviously i found this offensive and utterly ridiculous. I'm sure his postman violates his mailbox often!
He keeps messaging me to say 'thanks for the lovely book you sent me but I don't want to go out with you'
And other patronising shit .
I am full of RAGE.

Because he acts like I am sending him presents to win him back when he is obviously a vain plonker!!
And breathe

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Chocolateychocolate · 17/05/2019 08:03

This is making me piss myself.

Skittlesss · 17/05/2019 08:03

I think you need to leave the poor man alone

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 17/05/2019 08:04
Confused

Was it his birthday or something? I’m not sure why you put a card through his letterbox when you had been texting each other.

Basically he shagged you and simply just wasn’t into you.

Next!

DoctorDread · 17/05/2019 08:05

Oh now I want to know what the card said too!
But seriously who hand delivers a card to someone after one date? And did he actually give you his address?

Didntwanttochangemyname · 17/05/2019 08:05

Every time I read 't-rexing' I snort, I love that image! OP, you sound bonkers. What was the argument about and was the card before or after you argued? And how did you get his address?

MRex · 17/05/2019 08:12

Does someone have a link to the T-Rex thread? As a close relative, I have an interest in reading it.

formerbabe · 17/05/2019 08:16

Op...what happened to your lodger?! Wink

oldmum22 · 17/05/2019 08:24

Pupil is busy working up her rage a notch , possibly apoplectic

pineapplebryanbrown · 17/05/2019 08:30

Did you wear a wedding dress on the date? I'm sure it's lovely but men are so weird about that sometimes.

Cottonwoolmouth · 17/05/2019 08:31

Long time no see Glenn Close

😂😂😂😂

Wrybread · 17/05/2019 08:33

So you went on a date with someone from Tinder. Messaged a bit, then he said he wasn't interested or similar?

Then you found out where he lived.

And rather than accept he wasn't interested, you bought a card, took it to his home, and popped it through the letterbox?

I'd be freaked out if I were him.

And you can't see what the problem with this is, can you?

You went on one date. And then he finds out you've been round to his house and aren't accepting that he's not interested. It's stalker behavior

TheVanguardSix · 17/05/2019 08:33

Take the mahoosive hint, OP.
You have the rage because he doesn't fancy you.
That's totally unhinged.

Cottonwoolmouth · 17/05/2019 08:34

I think this has happened.

Went on a date

Turns up at his house one week later and posts card.

He flips his shit as she has been to his house tries to get rid of her

He then starts saying she is posting more stuff when she hasn’t

And the moral of the story is ‘stay of shit shag site like tinder’

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 17/05/2019 08:34

Was this the card you posted through his letterbox?

Aibu to feel the absolute RAGE with this Tinder date?
CatkinToadflax · 17/05/2019 08:35

I love that the wife is referred to as “vulnerable clients”. Poor woman!

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 17/05/2019 08:35

Actually I may save this thread to use a teaching aid when I'm warning my DC about online dating safety Smile

PS crying at save the date card Grin Also liked the bible one!!

Alicesweewonders · 17/05/2019 08:36

This has more plot holes than Game of Thrones

LagunaBubbles · 17/05/2019 08:38

It's INFURIATING!

No I will tell you what's infuriating, half written posts by someone who clearly thinks everyone else knows what's going on in their head! Your posts make little sense and are missing huge relevant chunks of information.

Tinyteatime · 17/05/2019 08:39

You both sound weird.

pineapplebryanbrown · 17/05/2019 08:42

Since he's blaming you for sending a book that you didn't send you should now treat his letterbox as a charity shop doorway. Empty your shelves of every unwanted book and put all of them through his letterbox.

Janus · 17/05/2019 08:47

I really need to know this

  1. How did you have his address?
  2. Was the card a postcard so that vulnerable clients could read it if they happened to arrive just after the postcard? If it was a greetings card why couldn’t he have just put it in a drawer?
  3. What on earth are ‘vulnerable clients’?
  4. Why didn’t you just reply ‘what book?’ When he texted you?

In order for any of this to make sense!!

LMDC · 17/05/2019 08:52

What Janus said

Illberidingshotgun · 17/05/2019 08:54

I think he was naive to give you his address after one date. Is he very young? However it's clearly not working out between the two of you, and there is little point in being full of rage about that, as it is only going to affect your health and wellbeing. Block his number and move on.

Have you been single long?

SleepingStandingUp · 17/05/2019 08:55

I think Tindr date went well, she went back to his, dtdhad sex, left in the morning... So she knew where he lived.
Then sent a sexually explicit card thanking him for the amazing sex.
He sees clients at his house and because she hand posted it is was when client was around.
He then got a book posted through, something like Karma Sutra or 69 Positions To Try Before We Get Married which OP posted when she was drunk and has now forgotten

In leui of any real detail, that's my theory