To think Emily in Friends was just as bad as Ross?

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Complete bridezilla before the wedding, then Ross says the wrong name and she's upset (understandable) but then insists he go permanently NC with one of his best friends! AIBU or is that just too far?

I'm ill and binge watching the show on the sofa and I have several complaints this time around

HaHa.. I hear what you are saying re watching favourite shows a few decades later. Emily was right, Ross was a drip and Rachel.. still can't make my mind up about Rachel.
Try Sienfeld.. the characters there always had their terrible motives on open display. It's very popular with my DC's age group. "Serenity Now!"

The WORST is when Monica actually shouts at Ross for not wanting to cancel his overseas wedding because...women are all obsessed with getting married and therefore have a right to have everything the way they want.

I actually didn't like Emily at all, and the episodes with her in were my least favourite.

Of COURSE Ross saying 'I do take thee Rachel' was wrong and stupid, but Emily went ahead and married him.

I would have hit him over the head with my bouquet and stormed out. I wouldn't have gone on and married him.

And they'd only known each other about 6 weeks anyway! The whole plotline was a bit daft tbh.

Is it true that Emily was written out because the actress was pregnant? I genuinely can't see how she could have stayed in the show.

She was always going to be written out; just not as soon as she was.

They made Emily into a bit of a snooty cow to make her the villain of the piece, but as others have said, who would want their husband to keep being close friends with the woman whose name he accidentally said at the altar? Looking back it feels like the rest of the gang were just pissed off that their happy little group might break up.

Helen Baxendale was asked to return on season 10 and said no. I’d love to know what they had planned for the storyline.

Patsy Kensit was offered the role of Emily but turned it down so she could keep an eye on Liam.

@7Days exactly!!

Yes she is pregnant and the attempts to hide it are laughable.

The worst is the scene with her ex Liam and the rugby mates who have some hideous Australian/British hybrid accents

I did find Jennifer Saunders ridiculously fabulous as Step Mother

I hated Emily the first time around but thought she had a point the second time. The marriage was obviously doomed anyway.

Ross just wanted to be married - his dating criteria always seemed to be 'willing to marry me/be a nice little well-behaved wife' so I don't think being 'chosen' by him was especially flattering!

On the other hand I always hated the way the other characters made fun of Ross for having a 'geeky' interest - it's not like any of the others are particularly interesting!

Terrible casting of Emily ruined it for me.

I stopped watching at that point, the characters had become caricatures of themselves and I was beginning to hate them all.

Most of the characters except Joey are trash.

I don’t know, I don’t blame Emily really. Rachel wasn’t just his friend, she was an ex. Combined with the fact they were rushing into marriage far, far too soon it’s not really that surprising she insisted on NC. It’s not like she knew Rachel that well.

I agree Ross is not a nice character.

If I was Emily, I would have walked out as soon as Ross said Rachel. Even before the wedding she was questioning Ross on the fact that he was going to be inviting Rachel to the wedding and how uncomfortable she would have been with any of her ex partners there. That should have given some warning signs on what she may have been like if the marriage would have gone ahead.

Do you think she still would have made Ross give everything up and move and not see Rachel? I think she would have but done it over a slow period of time

Terrible casting of Emily ruined it for me.

To be fair, US comedy writers are pretty terrible at writing for British characters. They either end up as ‘cor blimey O’Reilly, up the apples and pears, gawd bless the Queen Mum’ types, or ridiculously posh (hence Emily’s parents own a virtual stately home).

Emily was spot on about not trusting Ross and Rachel - after all, Rachel only turned up at the wedding to try and stop it. I'm sure I read a story at the time saying that Helen Baxendale wasn't too keen on most of the cast: she found them distant and unwilling to let her into their little clique. She said Matt le Blanc was the only one she liked (don't think I've made this up).

I think the 6 Friends were pretty tight, apparently guest stars struggled a bit, even Tom Selleck was sidelined apparently.

I’m with Emily on this.

He’s saying his ex-girlfriends name during the wedding vows, and then when Emily turns up at the airport to see Ross, he’s about to head off on their honeymoon with Rachel.
And then he’s socialising frequently with Rachel because she’s part of his main friendship group while Emily is abroad. Plus she doesn’t know Rachel, and doesn’t know if Rachel still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend Ross .

Of course Emily sees Rachel as a major threat to her relationship with Ross, I think wanting him to go NC with Rachel is totally understandable.

Although I agree Emily and Ross rushed into marriage far too soon.

@7days,I have never understood why Emiy actually went ahead and married him and then left I'm as soon as the ceremony was over? to be fair if dh said his ex,s name instead of mine when we got married I wouldn't have been thrilled about him spending all is free time with her either(and the rest of the gang)

They were too far along in the ceremony. I suspect she felt guilt about the money that had been spent and the people who had travelled. Plus she had to make a split second decision (well actually she got a week after "shall I continue...?" :o)

She wasn't a likeable character but I think she was right to say Ross had to cut Rachel off. He said her name during the vows fgs! MN would have told her to demand he cut contact with Rachel as a condition of staying married.

Nope. Emily was a dick but who would be ok with their husband saying the wrong name during his vows? I'm mean, really? She was literally giving up everything for him. Her job, her home, moving away from family.
All so he could be closer to his son who DIDN'T EVEN GET INVITED TO THE FUCKING WEDDING.
And she was right to be wary of him and Rachel. Within a few years they'd had a baby! And then SHE gave up everything for Ross too!
Bloody hell, Ross must be really good in bed!

Or maybe, I'm on maternity leave, have watched too many episodes of friends recently and need to get a life!

The only unreasonable thing Emily did was keep on trying. Ross' ex turned down the wedding invite because she had unresolved feelings for him. Then she unexpectedly shows up right before the ceremony which possibly prompted Ross to say her name during the vows. Emily is devastated but in the moment of shock and mortification makes a rash decision to plough on with the ceremony. As the shock wears off she obviously can't celebrate her wedding and asks to be left alone which Ross won't allow. Making matters worse his ex comes to the wedding reception which was actually vile behaviour from Rachel. While Emily is in the bathroom Rachel accosts Ross and tries to use him saying her name as proof that he has feelings for her. Just imagine being Emily on the other side of the door hearing that!

So she runs off to deal with her feelings and gets a message from her father that Ross will wait for her at the airport. She decides to try and work on their marriage and goes to the airport with what can only be very, very mixed feelings, and sees Ross and Rachel getting on the flight to their honeymoon. Tbh, if she had physically attacked the two of them at that point I'm not sure she'd have ended up with a conviction. Their behaviour was awful. Then after weeks of Ross just not leaving her alone she eventually concedes to try again even though, due to Ben, she will have to give up her whole life and the security of her friends, family, job, home, etc. And her only condition is that she and Ross have a new start in a new home with Rachel not being a part of their lives? That's not in the least unreasonable towards Ross, the only unreasonableness is the lack of respect she is showing herself by conceding so much. Though, there is a good chance that she's subconsciously testing Ross because she knows deep down that despite his constant pleading with her, Rachel comes first and she wants to prove this to both of them before she implodes her life even more.

I wish Monica hadn't got with chandler, Richard was much better suited to her.
I also wish Joey and Rachel never happened and that he had ended up with Phoebe, I loved their friendship. Especially the scene where he kissed her because she had turned 31 and was a year older than she thought.

Back to Emily, she was not unreasonable. Her fiance said his ex's name at their wedding, then she caught him going on their honeymoon with her. She asked him to stay away from her, which he completely disregarded and she had to find out on a phonecall and so be publicly told he was still seeing her. The only unreasonable thing she did was not dump his sorry arse at the alter!

He said another woman’s name at the altar in front of all her family and friends. That other woman wasn’t any old woman, but his ex-girlfriend (and a relatively recent ex) who remained a close friend. He then took said ex on her honeymoon.

Can you imagine if that were posted in AIBU?? I think it’s a perfectly reasonable request to ask that he doesn’t see his ex any more in order to rebuild their relationship.

Good point about Ben not being there!

I don't think there was chemistry between any of them, very forced, plastic looking chemistry perhaps.- altho Phoebe and Joey might've been good...

i just rewatched too!

Yes to Emily's parents tho comedy gold!