Mum ringing in sick, for my junior.

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I arrived at work before just checking on the diary and paperwork, and notice one of the junior hairdresser isn't in. One of the stylists (S1) informs me the junior is poorly today.

No big deal we all get poorly, until another stylist (S2) chips in that her mum called on her behalf, and that she's off sick because of a high temperature.

I think it's highly inappropriate having someone ring in on your behalf unless exceptional circumstances (unconscious, hospital, no voice etc) but for a high temp?

S1 thinks that because she's only 16 that's it not so bad that her mum calls on her behalf and I should let it drop.

Myself and S2 think it's absolutely ridiculous she's had her mum ring in on her behalf. Not to mention it's not exactly the greatest reason to be off.

AIBU? WIBU mentioning to her, that in the future she must ring herself unless she is totally unable in doing so.

At the company my DS works at, they are expected to text in sick rather than phone.

Nope haven't got any work done, joys of maternity leave. Hardly through a tantrum either.

In all honesty I'm laughing at the fact she sent it me, that's like sickie 101 stay away from social media.

Of course I bloody wouldn't splash her face over mumsnet that's just being dramatic. I was meaning the message with everything blacked out.

I'm not giving up on her either, because she's got the potential in her to excel.

When I was working outside the home on the few times I was sick invariably my dh rang in whilst I stayed in bed trying to get well. No-one queried it at all! They were just pleased to be told.

Perhaps it's a cover story and there is something more embarrassing going on and the poor girl feels awkward.

At 16 I worked in a coffee shop and one day the manager called me in the moring to cover a shift last minute as another girl had called in sick. I did the shift and on the way home saw her walking up town with her boyf. When I next saw her at work I had a go at her for faking a sickie and she, shocked, made up some story about a bruised boob.

Four months later she gave birth to a baby she had kept very quiet out of fear. She had told no one except her boyfriend until the baby dropped. I realised almost immediately she wasn't walking up town at all. She was going in the direction of the family planning clinic.

It sticks so solidly in my mind because of the deep shame and regret I have for jumping to assumptions and - unknowingly - making a very difficult situation even worse for a young girl desperately trying to cope.

By all means ask her to call in herself, OP. But please try to remember you have no ide what she (or anyone) could be coping with.

I agree with you op. She should have rung in herself. If she's old enough to work, she's old enough to call in sick herself.

And if she's skived off, I'd definitely be having a chat.

Oh god! Poor OP. Even before you updated us with the info about her pulling a sickie, you were definitely not being unreasonable. Other posters are being ridiculous! If you're mature enough to get a job and work, you're old enough to call in sick yourself. Fair enough if you're severely ill, but a bit of a temp does not warrant your mother calling in for you.
I say this as a mother of a 19 year old who's had a part time job since he was 16. He knows he has to call in sick himself if he's ill.

Anyway...... the most important question, OP, whatever happened to the PTA friend/zilla?!? Did she ever admit to being a total and complete twat?!? Did everyone make up? What happened? Must know!!! 😂

Exactly ginger the thread isn’t going the ops way so suddenly the girl is out shopping so low and behold she’s the bad guy.

everyday report if you don't believe. That's dramatic - she's hardly the bad guy. But because we all know her and you don't, we knew something didn't add up.

As I teach my toddler there's no harm in admitting when you're wrong. Yet a few posters here don't want to do that, and are insinuating I'm lying or acting like I'm gonna have her strung up.

Boofay nope we didn't make up! Apparently I crossed a line and she could never forgive me no loss on my behalf. I'm not sure if the others still speak with her, don't ask them and they've never mentioned her.

My DS has worked in a restaurant pub for nearly two years just shy of 18 now. He goes mad when the over 18`s text in sick, knowing they are hungover. I do wonder if he will in the future have a hangover

Hi OP, I think you got posters backs up when you referred to them as being dramatic - I have RTFT & don't think up til then anyone was - if anything it read that you were being a bit OTT.

To be honest, I don't agree with a blanket policy of having to ring in sick yourself. I've had some terrible nights sleep over the years with either the proper flu, or sickness & diarrhoea and sometimes a high temperature and have felt dreadful. It's been a godsend when I've lived with someone who could ring in for me initially if I've gone back to sleep by 9am for a couple of hours, or whenever I've been due to go in.

It doesn't mean someone's swinging the lead. But I accept my view might not be a popular one.

I don't understand what difference it makes whether her parent called or she called. Maybe she was feeling too rough to call, had laryngitis, etc. As long as you know she is going to be away due to illness, who cares who does the calling?

Agree with some pps why doesit matter who phones in as long as you are told! Dear me!

And unprofessional really? Guess nobody feels professional when week, ill and who knows what else.

Now getting caught pulling a sickie that is unprofessional.

Weak!

Oh ffs give her some slack.
She may have a really sore throat and can't manage to speak.

You sound bloody awful OP. Unprofessional, unkind, lacking in empathy and generally a poor manager.

Agree with this, maybe the OP's unprofessional behaviour has been rubbing off on the 16 year old.

She must have felt ill to have even taken her temp to know it was high? She's only 16.

You sound bloody awful OP. Unprofessional, unkind, lacking in empathy and generally a poor manager.

Agree, she's a child!

it sounds all very playground bully tactics to me - how did you "intercept" a snapchat?

You are unprofessional OP. Accept it.

piffar I was being sarcastic because I was accused of spying. I'm on her friends list on Snapchat, she sent it to everyone on her contacts.

Poor manager? Oki doke. How long have you been running your business for? Surely if I was a terrible manager I'd have no staff and no longer a business.

Does it really matter who called her in sick? You sound like a work bully. She is 16 and poorly, lay off her ffs

In answer to your question, some people are so desperate for work that they’ll stay in that kind of bitchy environment and accept unprofessional management. Surely this isn’t hard to comprehend?

Unprofessional how? Because 2 employees gave their opinions? See all the people who dived on me to give slack because she's 16 can't defend her throwing a sicky so you have to resort to personal insults.

One of my stylists has been with me since opening. So nearly 10 years she's been with me and only stayed because of sheer desperation? Give over.