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smacking her kids- intervene?!

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Ilovetakeaways · 12/05/2019 08:47

Sister has two kids 7 and 9. She is struggling to parent her children, often in the mornings and bedtimes. There is always some altercation. She is living with our father and our other sister at the moment due to renovations at her property.
When I visit I hear her stomping, shouting, youngest screams whilst having tantrums and just terrible disorder. My sister swears, grabs them and god knows what else. I was so shocked and disgusted to hear this going on but didn’t intervene. My sister goes mad if anyone tries to intervene and says it’s undermining her parenting.
I love those children to bits and fear something bad will happen when they move out. My other sister and father are fed up of it and say she’s abusing the children.
I want to discuss this with her and will do so as Those poor children should not be going through this. I know I’m being unreasonable by not saying something to her. Guess I just wanted advice.

OP posts:
staydazzling · 12/05/2019 13:10

having 2 children acting up badly in a stressful situation can make anyone snap, she needs better methods doesn't make her evil.

Inliverpool1 · 12/05/2019 13:29

@staydazzling exactly!
My point earlier is that some posters on here have no bloody idea what abuse looks like and the lack of resources to deal with those cases. If you can sort it out within the family you should

Aprillygirl · 12/05/2019 13:46

I should imagine that having to live with her (judgemental) father and sister is putting a hell of a lot of extra strain on your sister. No doubt she is wary of any bad behaviour from her kids affecting the household that she is a guest in. For instance at home she would perhaps ignore a tantruming child to scream it out,but at your dad's she would feel pressurised into putting a stop to it so as not to disturb the peace of her hosts.
Why don't you get your dad and/or other sister to babysit and you and she get together for a drink or something so she's nice and relaxed and able to chat. Maybe she needs a 'friend' right now instead of a judgemental family.

staydazzling · 12/05/2019 16:22

Inliverpool1 agreed, she sounds like she's struggle

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