7 DHs from adjacent houses cycling all weekend (again)!

[ballisticcyclistic]

I’m sitting here with ice on my ankle because yesterday I twisted it during a ridiculous situation where I had to take 4 special wheels to the garage for DH’s car and he’d loaded these in my car at 5am. I couldn’t park in the garage forecourt as no space, so I had to park up the road. Then I couldn’t lift the bloody things out of the back of my car, so I just pulled two out and tried to roll them along, but the road was on an incline and the wheels took on a will of their own, like wagon wheels rolling off, One was veering into the road so I had to chase it like a lunatic and I caught the edge of my wedge sandals and twisted my ankle which is still very swollen. So that was yesterday afternoon.

DH complained to the garage that it was unacceptable that nobody they’d helped me, but he has since apologised so I’ll just put behind me, but there are repercussions now for this weekend.

We live on a street where we actually get on with lots of neighbours (rare for London) but this is mainly led by the DHs who are all cycling fanatics. This weekend they are all off to the midlands for some famous ride I’ve never heard of. There are seven of them going.

Now normally I’d be glad of the peace, but today I have -

• Landscape gardeners coming around 8am
• The flooring man coming at 9am
• I need to leave at 9.30am to get DS (14) to his tutor, 20 min drive away, so I won’t be back until 12
• DD (11) needs to be at a party for 1.30pm which a good 40 min drive, but could be more like 2 hours because they’ve closed Hammersmith Bridge and Putney and Chiswick Bridges are rammed. Also, I can’t walk to the tube and this DD has a broken toe as well
• One DS in the midst of GCSEs and will need support / someone to practise French with / test him etc. He is working very hard, but sometimes just needs calming down or distraction. Other DS also has end of year exams starting on Mon and he needs a fair bit if input due to dyslexia.
• 2 new kittens who I have to watch in case they get out due to gardeners leaving doors open
• Plumbers coming at some point in the afternoon

AIBU to be a bit miffed? Of course, I know DH can’t cancel the ride now, but I feel aggravated and it’s only 7am!

If you’re tired stop posting on Mumsnet just to ignore good advice. You are too old to be doing GSCEs.

Oh, so supporting the black economy too?

So your DH treats you like his PA and expects you to pick up all the pieces. Stop taking his cars to the garage, if he’s going to have a hobby he needs to take responsibility for it.

I do know that area of London, it’s on a train route and there are buses.

So far all I can see is that you’re being a bit of a doormat and you need to start saying no.

I have driven here because I don’t want to spend more on Ubers

But there is money for cycling, cycling trips, garden landscapers, tutors, car collecting etc; honestly, OP you must just love being a martyr.

Smatterings of geographically burblings of excuses.

A time schedule as when he/she may post.

The odd update of back tracking and blurb

500 posts

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I'm only mystic meg on a Saturday

DH complained to the garage that it was unacceptable that nobody they’d helped me,

Seems like your main problem is less to do with Cycling Husband & more to do with your own communication difficulties.

Instead of you - a grown woman FFS - moaning to your husband & passively aggressively getting him to give 'the garage' the Good Telling Off They Deserve for not downing tools to help His Princess, did it not occur to you to leave the damn wheels in the car & ASK the guys in the garage to give you a hand please? MOST guys would have been happy to help you.

Similarly, if you are pissed off about the share of the domestic load while Husband enjoys his hobby this weekend, why don't you COMMUNICATE with him, rather than ask some random internet strangers to tell you that your ire is justifiable?
(Clue - we can't help you. He can - IF you let him know in future it's a problem).

Your DH sounds nuts OP but I do know a fair amount of men like this sadly 😭

I understand why you feel shite- the ankle must hurt, you must be tired and fed up. But the answer is to have a quiet day at home and sack all this off. We’ve sacked off lessons today because everyone was being shite so I left them to it to go to a coffee shop and mumsnet. It happens sometimes

Martha - You can believe what you like, but this is my day and I don’t think it’s thzt shocking? What do you want - photographic evidence?

Yes I do aim to leave at 9.30 on Saturdays, but it often gets pushed to 9.45 and I posted before I left because I could see people were asking questions and I knew I’d be in the car driving for half an hour and people wonder why you don’t reply. Is that ok? And why is having 3 DC in anyway unusual?

Why are you in an uber if you don't want to spend more on an uber?

So Op

Is this your first post?

3 I counted at least 4 dc

Your dh treats you like staff

Nice life style but shit husband, hope you manage to turn this around op.

You don't sound very organised. Are you one of these people who thrives on other people telling you in admiring voices "OOoh I don't know how you cope with your busy exciting life"

I would :

Put Kittens in locked room with sign on the door with food and a litter tray.

14 year old in cab to tutor (though a London 14 year old who can't do transport???)

Studying children told you will test them tomorrow and in the meantime they are to sit and play video games and listen out for plumber.

Party child told to ring round friends and arrange lift.

Workmen let in, shown where tea and coffee is. Left to get on with it.

If you write doormat on your face people will respond appropriately. You knew a long time ago DH was doing this for the weekend so why arrange plumber,gardener and floor people for today?

Is this the inquisition? I’m not in an uber now! I was in an uber the other day when I was going to collect the car but they were giving up and parking up for a while because they were stuck.

argumentum ad hominem

So Op

Are these three immigrant workers that your DH allegedly recruited from their hang out at 7.30 just this morning in your home with your other DC?

YANBU - fucking cyclist husbands 😡 Mine has a 'big cycle' in a month and so has fucked off to the gym for 3 hours. Not normally an issue but this afternoon is my cousins wedding so I've Bering trying to get ready, wash and brush the kids, iron all out outfits, get the spare room ready for my parents, tidy up for guests coming, walk the dog, referee the children's constant fighting and generally run about like a blue arsed fly 🙄 Unimpressed by them all. I feel that cycling is this generation's golfing....

and then I joined a brass band

Surely, this is the new "snapped & farted", @IHeartKingThistle?!!

Bloody brilliant :)

No 4 wheels!

3 DC - one doing GCSEs, One at the tutor now who will need help this weekend as has end of year exams next week and struggles, plus the other one who needs to get to the party, Bloody hell.

@marthasginyard

It's ok the 'DH' does Karate...

This is obviously an untenable way to live for you. I would be utterly fucked off - Karate as well!! FFS he sounds disgustingly entitled, and there really is no reason a)why he needs to be doing all these man-games at all and b)why he should be doing them at the expense of you having a bit of control over your own life!!

Absolutely no way on earth my OH would suddenly arrange for three blokes I had never worked with before to randomly come in and out of my house doing a load of mucky work in the garden. We make these decisions together because it is our home and our life. Shared.

In this situation it sound like his home, his life, his decisions, his staff. How did the two of you end up in such an unequal relationship with each other? Surely it can't have been like this to begin with, or you wouldn't have married him!

Karmin she was talking about using an Uber on a previous trip to get the car serviced; someone had asked for clarification.

OP, is your husband financially controlling if you? Your logic about not wanting to spend more on an Uber to take your son to tutor today is crazy. It’s clear that you have the family money to absorb that cost without blinking an eyelid and weighed against the other things you need to do today, driving in an injured ankle and sitting waiting for your son for an hour is ridiculous. The only explanation could be that you are somehow afraid of your husband kicking off if he finds you have spent money on an Uber? What with him going out of his way to get cheap labour to do your garden, sounds like he might be very mean/stingy and have odd priorities when it comes to money.

No this is not my first post Martha, but so what if it was? I have read your comments before and you’re invariably troll hunting and it’s quite odd tbh.

ah that's ok then

Also counted 4/5 dc.