7 DHs from adjacent houses cycling all weekend (again)!

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I’m sitting here with ice on my ankle because yesterday I twisted it during a ridiculous situation where I had to take 4 special wheels to the garage for DH’s car and he’d loaded these in my car at 5am. I couldn’t park in the garage forecourt as no space, so I had to park up the road. Then I couldn’t lift the bloody things out of the back of my car, so I just pulled two out and tried to roll them along, but the road was on an incline and the wheels took on a will of their own, like wagon wheels rolling off, One was veering into the road so I had to chase it like a lunatic and I caught the edge of my wedge sandals and twisted my ankle which is still very swollen. So that was yesterday afternoon.

DH complained to the garage that it was unacceptable that nobody they’d helped me, but he has since apologised so I’ll just put behind me, but there are repercussions now for this weekend.

We live on a street where we actually get on with lots of neighbours (rare for London) but this is mainly led by the DHs who are all cycling fanatics. This weekend they are all off to the midlands for some famous ride I’ve never heard of. There are seven of them going.

Now normally I’d be glad of the peace, but today I have -

• Landscape gardeners coming around 8am
• The flooring man coming at 9am
• I need to leave at 9.30am to get DS (14) to his tutor, 20 min drive away, so I won’t be back until 12
• DD (11) needs to be at a party for 1.30pm which a good 40 min drive, but could be more like 2 hours because they’ve closed Hammersmith Bridge and Putney and Chiswick Bridges are rammed. Also, I can’t walk to the tube and this DD has a broken toe as well
• One DS in the midst of GCSEs and will need support / someone to practise French with / test him etc. He is working very hard, but sometimes just needs calming down or distraction. Other DS also has end of year exams starting on Mon and he needs a fair bit if input due to dyslexia.
• 2 new kittens who I have to watch in case they get out due to gardeners leaving doors open
• Plumbers coming at some point in the afternoon

AIBU to be a bit miffed? Of course, I know DH can’t cancel the ride now, but I feel aggravated and it’s only 7am!

Hmm Only yesterday Beckham got a 6 month driving ban for using his phone whilst driving

So ignore me, seriously the caps are not needed, you keep responding to me directly I am going to respond back. I have given you perfectly valid points. Asking for clarification, because if we (mumsnet) have the correct details we can work out something to help you now or in the future. I am not calling you a troll, if I have concerns about the possibility of trolls I simply drop an email to HQ.

You say no one else knows, I am pointing out exactly how much information you have given, albeit conflicting, as well as publicising your current location and ilegal activities.

You say you can't cope, you have been given so many options for helping yet you continue to engage with me, this shows that the focus you have in life is on how to attack and defend yourself rather than the bigger issue. That your DH is using you as a PA as I said in my first response.

I would have dumped all the driving and concentrated on the kids taking exams.

Ignore the troll hunters. Troll hunting is against the rules, so just report the post and move on.

I still can't fathom why on earth you tried to carry the tyres that far on your own. It makes no sense. I think you should ask yourself that question, because it sounds like you have a tendency to bite off more than you can chew.

You do know that anyone can look at the source of the images and properties

Not so much these days - MN finally fixed that particular data breach and seem to manage to strip exif from pictures before presenting them.

I was hoping for a nice picture of a French hotel room though.

No one has accused you of being a troll, but you seem to be looking for the hunters, I wonder why that is...

Nothing to contribute really but sending sympathy as I've been stuck indoors for a week with a badly twisted ankle. It's so debilitating.

Why did you book so much stuff for one day?

@Karmin, I think it's more that your posts are distracting/adding to an already significant mental load. When somebody is already performing mental gymnastics, something that sounds confrontational and slightly away from what they are currently focused on can add 'fuel to the fire' - like if I were to be told that my job is shit and I should get another one/what am I doing to get one when I'm already busy with classes, repairs, a leak in the roof and I have three recording sessions booked for the afternoon whilst having to ensure that the previous week's recordings have been put into the clients' required formats and works perfectly for couriering off at 5pm. It's likely to get a less than positive response, even if it's true - it's an additional distraction that I don't need at that time.

*@RSAcre to be clear, joining a brass band was not an act of revenge! Like 'fuck it, I'll take up a brass instrument, that'll teach him'grin

But it has worked out well. Except the uniform is a bit uncool if I'm honest.*

Oh no worrries @IHeartKingThistle, your tone & intent was 100% clear ... just coundn't resist derailing to congratulate you on your humour & common sense :)

I really want to know why your DH could possibly have justified going to karate this morning. Shouldn’t he have been driving your 14 year old, if he absolutely did need a chaperone?

Oooh the race is coming past my house. I'll wave to your dh!!

Are you North West @IHeartKingThistle?

We have the Whit Friday Brass Band Contests fast approaching.

As I said, Karmin (and this is the last time I’m responding to you), millions of people live in this area. Millions of people in this area have 3 DC. I myself could name about 20 similar families to us just in the surrounding streets or from the one if the schools, just off the tip of my head. A very high proportion of DHs (and women too) are cyclists. It’s fairly ubiquitous. Having someone to do gardening is not particularly remarkable, surely?

Even if someone did recognise me, I’m not that bothered, So DH has gone on a ride and I’ve hurt my ankle. So what? I’m hardly posting about anything shocking or personal.

Yes I can cope. Of course I can cope. I was the one to call it “first world problems”. I used the phrase “miffed” in my OP, not “devastated..” No need to over-react in the way you and some others have because it makes you look like loons. I don’t need to justify my whole life and movements under some kind of bizarre inquisition.

I can understand why your DH is keen to take part in a closed road sportive.

Put your phone away when you're driving.

This thread seems to be causing you additional stress!

So moving onwards from today are you going to tell you DH that he needs to the grunt work for his cars/hobbies etc and that you have enough on your plate?

You have a DH problem ..
New rule booking any tradesman, that person is there in person.
Saturday's you do tutor stuff nothing else
Party booked then nothing else booked...
If he has time away.. you get equal .

Millions of people lie in this area Karmin. Millions of people have 3 DC.
Nobody else knows about the rest.
Population of London is 6 mill I believe, at least 2 million people in your area have 3 children, so even if your area refers to the whole of London that means 1/3 of every individual has 3 children - surely not?

@UrsulaPandress no sadly not, those marches are the stuff of legend down here!

I didn't know there were closed road races for anyone in the UK, wouldn't mind doing the shorter version of this myself next year.

You know you don't actually have to cope don't you OP? You can say no to your dh in future when it comes to being PA for his hobbies and ensure you have equal leisure time.

Anyway..,. Thankyou for all the sane comments. I am ok really and tbh, this is nothing out of the ordinary for me (minus the ankle)! I really don’t mind that he does cycling at all, or the car thing. It gives me a break actually. What I do find annoying is having to listen to all the talk about it and all the palaver with this car here and that one there and “how to load the bikes” and this equipment / diet or whatever. This is what does my head in. I don’t mind him actually going on the bike, if that makes sense? This week I have been stranded near a graveyard where I did feel quite unsafe, plus twisted my ankle and it’s sll due to extra to and fro for the purposes of his vehicles and at 7am I was reflecting that this seemed a bit much

3 tradesmen (people) on the same day (one of them is bound to want the loo)!! Surely your Nanny /Au Pair can help.?

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This week I have been stranded near a graveyard where I did feel quite unsafe, plus twisted my ankle and it’s sll due to extra to and fro for the purposes of his vehicles and at 7am I was reflecting that this seemed a bit much

All of that is to do with his car hobby, isn't it? Tell him you're not interested in his hobby, you have no objection to him doing it, but you're not going to spend your free time doing it anymore.