to ask what you would think of this

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A parent who takes her DCs to school and then goes home and goes to bed for most of the morning and then gets up a couple of hours before collecting the DCs and then goes to bed about the normal time for an adult.

If it's daily, depression. As soon as I'm off anti depressants I start sleeping for hours on end & even nod off on the sofa, top of 18hours sleep.

This sounds like me frequently. I have bipolar, fibromyalgia, and b12 deficiency amongst other things!

If it’s an ongoing thing I would assume they were unwell and doing their best to juggle a medical condition and be there for their kids. I have haemochromatosis and regularly have to have venesections (like giving blood) to maintain my ferritin levels. When my ferritin levels are too high or just after a venesections I am exhausted and need to rest more. There are some many conditions that could mean this lady needs rest - and it’s not your business unless it somehow impacts you...

I'd think she was lucky to have the option, but that it was none of my business how she spent her time

I do this because of fibromyalgia, Ehlers-Danloss syndrome, depression, ptsd and pots, aggravated by low thyroid function. A sense of anxiety that others are passing remarks or judgement does rather seem to compound the issue. I would avoid being judgmental at all costs. Clearly you have no idea why she's doing this, unless it's a reverse, in which case you have my sympathies and would simply suggest that you do what you need to.
I know that if I don't rest sufficiently then I can't function later in day and DH can't do what he wants/needs to.

Presumably this is you Op and you feel that someone is judging you?

That's me 2-3 times a week after night shifts
But if it's not for that reason as others have said, depression, underlying health condition or just because they fancy it and aren't hurting anyone

Chronic illness or depression. And yes I think op is asking for herself

Is it you op? I could do this, I work full time so I don't but in the holidays I'll sometimes have a stretch of days where I nap daily. If it is you I think you need to try to unpick why you do it and then tackle that. Nothing wrong with having a nap but sleeping all day every day would indicate to me that there's a problem that needs dealing with. For me, I go to bed or nap a lot when my mental health is bad and I'm avoiding life. Be kind to yourself op.

I'd think they should get a job.

I would think either serious illness or "what a waste of a life".

I would think they are wasting their precious life.

Do they need to sleep or want to sleep? Big difference in what I would think of them.

I live with chronic insomnia. Go to sleep at 10pm, wide away at midnight until 5-6am, alarm goes off at 6:40am. Frequently I’ll come back from the school run and tackle 1 or 2 big jobs before going to sleep. If I didn’t get another couple hours of sleep I’d be driving my DC to sports half asleep, which is dangerous.

Very few people know this though, I don’t announce it on the school run because I know mums will judge as some on this thread have. My DH understands and is empathetic to my situation.

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I'd think they should get a job.

What if they worked nights/shifts/did evening work/was self employed running their own business?

I used to work evenings with DH looking after the DC once we'd put them to bed. How would school run people know that?

I get up wave my youngest goodbye then back to bed, I know something is wrong but I just can't get to the doctors

Lucky cow indeed :D I could sleep like this too and my mental health is at present very robust. I just love to sleep. But it could be a lot of things, I wouldn't judge.

I have fibromyalgia plus other chronic health problems, also currently having investigations for unexplained anaemia. I've had chronic insomnia for nearly 20 years.
On a bad day my OH has to sort the animals out as I lie in, flop onto the sofa and then back to bed.
Before I was ill I was very active, bounced out of bed at 5am and on the go until 8/9pm and slept like a log, and would probably have been very judgmental of someone like me.

Is it you, OP? A few of the replies on the thread may help you. Most won't.

I've done this for the last 5 years. I was recently diagnosed with severe sleep apnea. So I would assume the parent had some sort of illness and it was needed.

I do this sometimes, I have lupus and heart failure, I'm a single mum to a 3 yr old, I feel incredibly guilty, probably because of fear of judgement from how your post come across

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This was me when I was depressed.

Presumably this is you Op and you feel that someone is judging you?

Well she's probably right, going by the replies on this thread. It's almost 9.30am where I am, I've hiked up a mountain already and shortly plan on going for a nap after I've tidied the kitchen. I like sleeping, and don't really care what people think about it! I don't need to "get a job" and can't anyway (visa restrictions). Judge away 😁