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Daughter just being so ungrateful and rude.

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user1486131602 · 05/05/2019 23:08

Getting a divorce. STBXH was a complete narcacisst, perfect peter was my nickname for him, never ONCE backed me up with the kids, always what he thought was right even tho he was never there!

So, now I am left with a daughter who thinks money falls out of me arse, her dad gave me a grand total of £32.92 this month to feed her and her brother! She's just entitled, and that drives me nuts! I haven't brought her or her brother up differently, so why is she like this! She treats me just as her dad would of. I cant understand why shouting at me would make her problems better?!
I know that we are all having a hard time at the mo, and this is just her way of handling things, plus she has the extra pressure of her GCSE exams, but really it is ALL of us.
I'm trying so hard, my mother was a complete bitch, and I am trying so hard to not be like her (passed away 10yrs ago). My hubby just used me up and now blames me for everything, my son can't wait to leave coz of the situation. So, after all this I'm going to be alone, I'm only fighting for them.......why?
What should I do? Any advice would be welcome!

OP posts:
AnAC12UCOinanOCG · 09/05/2019 12:11

Of course it isn't fair. She's been raised by an abusive man and watched her mum accept the abuse for 16 years. She thinks it's normal because that's what she was taught. How the hell is it her fault?

She needs love and support, not threats.

Curious1981 · 09/05/2019 12:16

OP

You don’t seem to like your daughter. I suspect you see a lot of your ex in her.

Singlenotsingle · 09/05/2019 12:50

How is it a threatAnaC? This is her df, not some random off the street. She might actually want to spend some time with him. And it would give both her and the OP some time and space.

woollyheart · 09/05/2019 13:04

She may feel that her father is now punishing her for choosing to live with you. By stopping spending money on her etc.

And she is probably right.

It's going to be hard for you all. Remember that you love her as a person, even if you hate some of the things she does or says. And tell her this.

Also, tell her that she isn't her father, and you are never splitting up with her.

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