Prepared to be told iabu as I’ve recently been diagnosed with a medical condition. It’s not life limiting but is something I will have to mange carefully for the rest of my life so I may be overreacting.
I have 4 dc (incl twins, all under the age of 7yrs). I’m a sahm for now.
Dh is massively overweight. Doctor has told him he needs to lose it, it’s already affecting his health quite badly and he is on several different medications. He also suffers from gout with flare ups every few months. I know he struggles with food so I told him we would diet together and we have been doing a low carb/high protein diet. He’s doing well and has lost some weight, as have I.
The problem is his general laziness (have had issues before where I felt he wasn’t pulling his weight with the kids) has now extended to food.
I do mostly all the housework and child care. He leaves for work before the kids wake up, comes home when they’re asleep and works every weekend. To add to my already full pile, he now wants me to make him special lunches in line with the diet. He also has started going to the gym. This is fine in itself, but he won’t cut into his hobby time. He leaves even earlier for work or goes straight after work. Two nights a week he does a hobby which he goes to straight from work. He never misses it.
He does have two days a week off, usually wed/thurs. 3 of the dc are in school/nursery so he mostly sleeps during those hours. He will do the school run on the days he’s home.
As I say, we have a ongoing battle as I feel he doesn’t contribute any time to the household at all. I’m sinking with all the cleaning, cooking, most of the school runs, homework, pets etc. He just goes to work and comes home. Now expects me to also make his lunch.
All came to a head this morning. I made dinner last night and made extra so we could have the leftovers today as dc will be with their grandparents. I thought it would be nice not to have to cook for a day. He got in a strop with me yesterday for not making him lunch so he has taken the whole tub of leftovers. I’m really annoyed and tbh it’s the last straw for me.
Aibu to just leave. I’m exhausted.