ExDH has contact with kids (6 and 8) once or twice a year, totally by his choice.
Just too them to Thailand on holiday for 2 weeks. He sent a photo while he was there, among others of kids in a flash resort room, saying they had a room to themselves.
I replied, 'that looks nice, who is staying with them at night?', to which he replied, 'it's an attached room'. Meaning interconnected lockable door. I was a bit hmmmm about that, but didn't say anything.
Evidently much of the holiday was paid for by industry suppliers who he does dodgy dealings with to get him and them more money from his employer. (don't ask, whole other story of his bad ways) and some of their employees were also on the holiday, along with him, his missus, our two kids and his parents.
His parents had left by the time it came to this accommodation.
Now the kids have been home a week and said today in passing about their hotel room that they had to themselves that was ages away from their Dad's and that the neighbouring room was occupied by an accompanying male employee.
That Dad would stay with them to get them to sleep, then leave then in the mornings they would watch TV after they woke up until Dad's wife rang them and told them to get ready for the day and that they would come get them etc.
I am fucking infuriated on all levels - in case of emergency fire/terrorism etc, in case the neighbour is a paedophile, just in case they woke up scared/sick.
Do I just let it go, or do I let him know I know and it is entirely unacceptable and he won't be taking them away again until he can prove that this won't happen or they are old enough (teens) to stay by themselves?
Also, my youngest told his babysitter that his Dad's wife pulled and twisted his ear every time he was naughty........i was already fuming about that, but this takes the shit cake.